Bi Monthly Rant

[freakygirl]

Yep..

You guessed it.. the weekend of Mr Freakys kids being here has come to an end.

I kept my cool.. sorta



#2 step child.. the 12 year old boy had asked Kimber yesterday before they left if he could borrow a few Playstation games. Kimber told him no because if he took all of the games she wouldn't have any to play.
This morning "M", my oldest daughter decided she was going to play the Playstation. My youngest daughter had recieved a game about a month ago for her birthday (today is Kimbers birthday, but I had given her the game early). Anyway.. the game is gone. And so are 4 of our other "demo" discs.

Mr Freaky called his children this morning before leaving for work. Thanks to Caller ID they aren't forced to answer the phone when they don't want to be bothered. No one answered ofcourse. (This is nothing new).

Today at 2:30 pm.. Mr Freakys oldest daughter called. Snotty voiced she said to me "What did you call for?" I asked if the boys had mistakenly taken the games home (they had a soft cover cd older with their Playstation games) mixed in with theirs. She said "No!" I said "Could you check" She said "Whatever" and put the phone down.

Mr Freakys ex wife picked up the phone and said "Jennifer?" I said, "Hi" She said "My children do not have your games. They are not theives." I said, "Well the games are gone and they are the only ones that have left this house in the last 24 hours. Are you sure they didn't pick them up on mistake?" She said, "I'll look and call you back if I find them." I said, "Thank you. I would appreciate it." Click.. she hung up.

It's been an hour.. no call. I'm assuming she isn't 1. Even checking to see if they have the games. and 2. She isn't going to call me back.

Mr Freaky and I are going to have a long in depth talk about this tonight.

This is the 4th time in a little over a year that something has been stolen from my house by them.

 

[Siren]

 

[Sixth]

Don't let them into the house again.

 

[freakygirl]

These kids don't like me.. which makes me not like them. I have honestly tried to make things work. I've bent over backwards for them.. and I've always treated them like my own children.

They are mad because of the divorce between their mom and dad. I didn't cause it.. I didn't even know their dad until 6 months after the initial break up. Their mom tried to talk Mr Freaky into coming back to her about a month into our relationship. I gave him the time and space he needed to decide what he wanted. He chose not to. We moved on.. she didn't. Even though she is remarried she still holds a grudge against me.

The kids lie to her about how I treat them.. and ofcourse she believes them.

I'm at my wits end on this. I don't feel good for 3 days before they get here.. and I'm worse when they are here and then for 3 days after I'm still sick. It's not worth it. Mr Freaky knows this. And the only conclusion we can come to is to not have them come back.

He is thinking that it would be better to go down (They live 2 hours south of us) and visit them every friday (his day off) for a few hours.

I have no idea what the best way to handle this is. I've tried everything.. and it's getting worse. Not better.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

That sucks Freaky when they take your kids stuff and don't admit to it when you "fuck'inwell" know they did!!!

Hugs to ya sweetie..

 

[WaxNWane]

Hmm. I was expecting the monthly rant by or about bisexuals.

I should stop thinking so hard.

 

[Debbie]

*sigh* freaky, I hear you. bigrednz's oldest daughter would have driven me insane if I let her. And the youngest was spoilt and her mother was (Im pretty sure) saying stuff to her that made things worse.
It isn't easy at all.
No matter how hard you try.
With his sons? No problems. The oldest lived with us for four years and he is the apple of my eye. I miss him now that he has moved out but he is doing well. Working, got a new car, flatting.

 

[freakygirl]

Hmm. I was expecting the monthly rant by or about bisexuals.

I should stop thinking so hard.

Wishful thinking?






TH Oughts.. thank you. What pisses me off the most is the mother is lying also. She didn't/wouldn't even check. She knows what those kids are like (if she doesn't then she is even more stupid then I thought).

 

[morninggirl5]

Freaky it sounds like his kids believe that if they cause enough problems for you that their Dad will leave and come back "home".

Of course it doesn't make sense logically, but they're going solely on their "i want my family back" feelings.

I don't know how you're going to be able to solve the problem, but if he starts going there, they will view it as the beginning of them winning.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

TH Oughts.. thank you. What pisses me off the most is the mother is lying also. She didn't/wouldn't even check. She knows what those kids are like (if she doesn't then she is even more stupid then I thought).

Yes, if she can't see that the kids are playing them then she is blind....

Ask the father to check their bags before they leave?????

 

[freakygirl]

debbie, I'm glad things worked out for you. Hopefully in time ti will for us also.


Morninggirl, We had this same arrangement a few years ago. He doesn't go to their house and spend time. He picks them up.. takes them to a movie and dinner or to the park. Then takes them home. It worked out ok, but it was a tad expensive.



We've done the whole "checking the bags" thing.. it works for awhile.. then we get lax.. and things get rushed (when it's time to go home) and that's when problems start. To thier mother.. they can walk on water.


**Note** I tried calling back.. they aren't answering their phone.

 

[Debbie]

What pisses me off the most is the mother is lying also. She didn't/wouldn't even check. She knows what those kids are like (if she doesn't then she is even more stupid then I thought).

If the relationship between you two (Mr freakys ex) like between bigrednz's ex? I tried for a long time to be nice, biting my tongue. She is a control freak and seems to be quite happy manipulating people and making as much trouble as possible. She was a thorn in my side. I would get so upset trying to do the right thing. She was telling the kids stuff they shouldn't hear or that wasn't true. She could have helped to make things run smoothly but she didn't want to. I think she wanted bigrednz to be alone and miserable because she is just plain mean. She was happy when she called the shots but when I came along? Not a happy camper.
What makes me really mad about your situation freaky is if I were the ex? I would want my kids to be as happy as possible in both homes and work with you to help. WTF is the point of all the hassle? Isn't it easier to make things work instead of having all this trouble? I don't get it and never will.
*big hug* for freaky.

 

[freakygirl]

Debbie

She doesn't understand my relationship with my ex husband and his wife. They are my best friends. We do almost everything together. If the kids are with us or not..

Mr Freakys ex won't even talk to us at sporting events, concerts or any time we are around her. She goes out of her way to avoid us. I've never in my life had harsh words with her.

This past weekend one of the twins back talked me. I popped him in the mouth. (Didn't even leave a red mark on his face). I know he went home and told his mom about it.. and I'm sure his story was completly wrong.. and as far from the truth as possible. To make me look like the bad ass. The daughter does that on a constant basis. Says one thing to her dad and me.. then tells her mom the total opposite.

We made the agreement that we would buy the kids their school shoes every year. So I set aside a set amount of money to spend on shoes. This year.. it was a little less than normal. I told the kids they had a $50 spending limit. (more than enough to get a good nice pair of shoes)

The daughter picked out her shoes.. the boys got theirs.. and off we went. His Daughter informed my daughter that she wasn't even going to wear the shoes because "her group" of friends wouldn't like them. It's not like I pointed to a pair of shoes and said "get those". I gave her the choice of 5 different shoe stores to pick from.


I'm fucking tired of it. The headache just isn't worth it anymore.

 

[Jim_Henson]

Hmm. I was expecting the monthly rant by or about bisexuals.

I should stop thinking so hard.

I had the same thought and I thought I better not open it.

I'm sorry freaky..

 

[Debbie]

Debbie

<snip> The daughter does that on a constant basis. Says one thing to her dad and me.. then tells her mom the total opposite.
I'm fucking tired of it. The headache just isn't worth it anymore.

bigrednz's daughter (oldest) played her Mum and Dad (and me)against each other all the time. Her Mum would believe her and rant at her Dad. You just can't win. The ex is quite happy telling the kids shit and stirring the pot. She doesn't want her kids to get along with you. This is what I don't get? If your kids are happy, then this is a good thing. What she is doing suxs. I used to watch bigrednz's daughter sit and watch her parents argue because of what she had lied about. She seemed to enjoy the attention that came from it. Now at 21 she has a two year old that lives with the baby's father, no job, no skills, (has only seen her baby once in the last nine months) and living near her Mommy because she has never been made to stand up to her responsibilities. Her mother always makes excuses for her and gets her out of trouble. Sad and very stressful.

Again, I am sorry freaky, this really suxs and you are stuck in the middle.