Bi guys divorcing their wives, so they can be with a man

[Queen_Vicki]

This question is for the bisexual guys/ or really the closeted gay men on this broad, or the ones that you know. Have you ever, or have they ever thought about divorcing their wives, so they can be truly happy, and be with a man? I have come to the conclusion that many bisexual men are programmed to like women. Meaning they are under the impression that they like women they really don't, but yet will get with a woman anyways because the pressure of society, and their family, and friends, and they will take the easy way out by being with a woman, instead of falling love with a man.

I think it's high time that the LGBT community start advocating that bisexual men at an early age, start exploring their true sexuality, and start exploring men, and try to get into relationships with more men. Does anyone else agree?

 

[TheLM]

I think you are talking about gay men, not bisexual ones.

 

[WebTraveller]

This question is for the bisexual guys/ or really the closeted gay men on this broad, or the ones that you know. Have you ever, or have they ever thought about divorcing their wives, so they can be truly happy, and be with a man? I have come to the conclusion that many bisexual men are programmed to like women. Meaning they are under the impression that they like women they really don't, but yet will get with a woman anyways because the pressure of society, and their family, and friends, and they will take the easy way out by being with a woman, instead of falling love with a man.

I think it's high time that the LGBT community start advocating that bisexual men at an early age, start exploring their true sexuality, and start exploring men, and try to get into relationships with more men. Does anyone else agree?

There is a difference you seem to miss about what a bisexual man and a gay man are. To add to this point why is it that you are only point out men in this conversation and not women who are bisexual or lesbian?

 

[haurni]

I don't see that there's any confusion here at all. Certainly there are married women who leave their partners because they realize they are truly lesbians, or married men who realize that they are really gay, or straight people who leave their partners for another hetero relationship, so why can't the bisexuals get in on the act? I've known women who've left their husbands to be with another woman and then gone back to being with a guy later, so there's no reason why men shouldn't do the same (and I'm sure some do).

I agree with the OP that bisexual men (as opposed to gay men) are probably more likely to leave a relationship for a hetero partner. Sexuality is a continuum from entirely straight to entirely gay, so it will depend on the degree of same- vs. opposite-sex attraction in their sexual drive/orientation. However, other factors such as sexual experience, familiarity with one sex or the other, and social pressures against homosexuality will play a significant role in tipping the scales toward socially-sanctioned opposite-sex relationships.

I certainly agree that all people should be encouraged (by society) to explore homosexual as well as heterosexual relationships.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Bisexuals are not very well supported in the LGBT community.

Just as Queen Vicki is obsessed with the idea of a man leaving a woman for another man -- the subject of pretty much every post she makes-- gay men and lesbians might worry that a bisexual person will leave them for a member of the opposite sex. After all, it is SO much easier to be in a het pairing in this society.

There are some statistics coming out now, after the last census-- bisexuals have higher health risks and are more at risk for depression than what we might call monosexuals" people attracted to a single sex, either their own or the other...

 

[cordite]

Does anyone else agree?

Plenty do but that doesn't mean anything. A lot of people with a misconception still have a misconception. As others have said, you're confusing gay and bisexual.

Have you ever, or have they ever thought about divorcing their wives, so they can be truly happy, and be with a man? I have come to the conclusion that many bisexual men are programmed to like women. Meaning they are under the impression that they like women they really don't, but yet will get with a woman anyways because the pressure of society, and their family, and friends, and they will take the easy way out by being with a woman, instead of falling love with a man.

No group of people consists of identical clones. I'm sure there are those that fit the stereotype you hold but there are also plenty that do not.

Why do you assume bisexual men to be married to women to begin with? It's a flawed question.

 

[Queen_Vicki]

Plenty do but that doesn't mean anything. A lot of people with a misconception still have a misconception. As others have said, you're confusing gay and bisexual.


No group of people consists of identical clones. I'm sure there are those that fit the stereotype you hold but there are also plenty that do not.

Why do you assume bisexual men to be married to women to begin with? It's a flawed question.

Cause society,family, and friends pressure them to marry women in the first place. They don't marry women because they want to, they marry women because deep down inside they HAVE too. Like I said earlier I believe bisexual men only like women because of social reasons, and they are brainwashed into thinking being with a woman is the only way of life, when deep down inside he actually prefers men. That's why so many bisexual men cheat on their wives with other men. Don't tell me they don't cause I have witnessed, and heard otherwise

 

[klippert]

your opinion is a such. There is no BI, your gay and won't admit it to her....I liked sex with other men. I have NO emotional attachment to them...Animal instinct you could say, such as the warm blooded of the male spices goes...genetics.. not born, purely pleasure....I look at my wife. I have total emotional and physical attachment... when I'm enjoying male male fantasy...there is NO pillow talk...just male male sex. I look at nice cocks on line...good looking guys...I'm not dreaming of window treatments. I see the curvy woman I post on fetish....I think...I could take her home too meet Mum. since im married....that even is purely sex.

In my personal opinion....using the label "Bi" men, there wives know...live a happy fruitful life without any political aspect. Men living even closeted "BI" life....can move through with overly emotional weakness. just sex...man to man sex....

You've chosen you emotional attraction. If you've now decided you'd rather go "love emotion" with the same sex....so be it. If ripping your family apart for that....go for it.. the men that we've known....that decided to go 'gay'....there children were grown. easier on them.

Then the wife took him for everything.....D'oH.

Disclaimer: This and these are MY personal opinions....we can argue "born this way" with geneticist (dna) science any other time.

Live your life as you see fit...don't force me to accept you choice in life styles....

 

[haurni]

Cause society,family, and friends pressure them to marry women in the first place. They don't marry women because they want to, they marry women because deep down inside they HAVE too. Like I said earlier I believe bisexual men only like women because of social reasons, and they are brainwashed into thinking being with a woman is the only way of life, when deep down inside he actually prefers men.

In this case, you're talking about gay men who are either closeted, in denial or giving in to social pressures to be 'normal' (and I note that you did direct your post to bi and gay men). Bisexual men, by definition, enjoy sex with both men and women. I agree that society pressures men to go with the hetero party line and in my opinion we'd all be better off if we could express ourselves according to our innate preferences. I also agree that a bisexual man might leave his wife to be with another man... but if he was married to or with a man, it's possible that he might also leave his partner to be with a woman. A gay man might very well leave his wife to be with another man - it's certainly happened, just as lesbians have left male partners to be with women. So, yes, I'm sure that many gay men who are married to women, and some bi men in the same circumstances, have thought about leaving their wives. I don't see that there's really anything here to disagree with.

 

[Queen_Vicki]

In this case, you're talking about gay men who are either closeted, in denial or giving in to social pressures to be 'normal' (and I note that you did direct your post to bi and gay men). Bisexual men, by definition, enjoy sex with both men and women. I agree that society pressures men to go with the hetero party line and in my opinion we'd all be better off if we could express ourselves according to our innate preferences. I also agree that a bisexual man might leave his wife to be with another man... but if he was married to or with a man, it's possible that he might also leave his partner to be with a woman. A gay man might very well leave his wife to be with another man - it's certainly happened, just as lesbians have left male partners to be with women. So, yes, I'm sure that many gay men who are married to women, and some bi men in the same circumstances, have thought about leaving their wives. I don't see that there's really anything here to disagree with.

Nope I am talking about bisexual men. I have notice that bisexual who say they are bisexual like women for social reasons, while they are obsess with men. But anyways people have yet to answer the question at hand.

 

[jackielicker]

I'm bi and I would not leave my wife for a man. As Klippert pointed out, I don't seek men for the kind of personal relationship tha I have with my wife. I have, I confess, had "office wives" - women who filled that role at work. Nonetheless, my desire for M2M sex has nothing to do with my marriage. It's just a part of me.

Hypothetically, if my wife and I separated for any reason, I might spend time living with a man (really one particular man whom I shared an attraction to that neither of us acted on) , but, what I would really want is to find a woman that was in to my bi-ness so we could all have fun.