Being Overweight And Bi Sucks.

[long_haired_lad]

It's so damned hard to get anyone interested in any oral fun when you're a big bloke. It seems that fat and long hair are the ultimate turn offs.

Sorry, just wanted to moan!

 

[south_florida_bicur]

It's so damned hard to get anyone interested in any oral fun when you're a big bloke. It seems that fat and long hair are the ultimate turn offs.

Sorry, just wanted to moan!

I dont know where you are from but have you tried craigslist under the men for men section?

I hate to say it but from most of the ads I read they do not really care what the other person looks like. As long as they are healthy and have a cock they will do pretty much anything.

Thats not my cup of tea but thats what makes the world go around...

 

[none2_none2]

There is no one definition of sexual attractiveness. I remember a str8 friend in college (he didn't know I was gay) who was shocked that some guy came on to him in the gymn's sauna. My friend had pimples all over his face, his back and his chest -- only his arms and legs were spared. However, it was so obvious from seeing him in the shower that he was VERY hung. I didn't have the heart to point that out to him as he probably would have seen his huge penis as one more freakish thing about himself. (I wasn't attracted to him at all except as a kind friend, but I knew enough size queens even at that early age to know what had happened between him and this total stranger.)

Personally, I have been with guys who seemed attractive to me at first, but then they had bad breath, body odor, or a feminine voice or build. That turns me off very quickly -- as does a bad attitude.

There are also guys who prefer very skinny guys. There are even guys who want their partners very obease -- even if the partner's doctor has been told them that they loose weight for health reasons. The list goes on and on...

As for myself, I remember guys who were turned on OR off to me for the strangest reasons. I was rejected/desired if I had a beard. I was rejected/desired if I was clean shaven. I had guys reject me because I am not hung like a horse. I had guys reject me because it wasn't even smaller. I had guys reject/desire me because my hair wasn't short. I had guys reject me because I was too tall, not hairy enough, not smooth, ...

If your hair is too long for YOU to like it, then consider changing it. (In my case my hair will always cover my ears because I choose to cover a birth defect.) If you feel like your weight it to much for YOU, then consider what you can do to change that. Notice the emphasis is on what YOU want.

Bottom line, is no one can ever expect to attract EVERY person. That is not how the world works. What happens is that over time you simply accept how you are because you finally get tired of trying to make youself into something to please everybody. Nobody like that exists. If you please yourself, then you will eventually find people who like you. When you get to that stage of acceptance, you'll wonder why you ever wasted one minute worrying about the people who rejected you.

 

[HottieMama]

I'd venture to say it's even harder to be an overweight bisexual female. (Not to negate your issues or anything..) Unfortunately many people buy into the Barbie Bi's that you see on TV or in porn...they usually don't include fat girls.

 

[HottieMama]

Wanted to add that I love the song quote you have in your siggy.

 

[Etoile]

There's plenty of gym bunnies who are obsessed with a specific Tom of Finland look...but there's also a lot of chubby chasers out there who want something a little bit MORE!

 

[long_haired_lad]

Thanks to everyone who posted, you've all made me feel a trifle better.

 

[bhg08054]

It's so damned hard to get anyone interested in any oral fun when you're a big bloke. It seems that fat and long hair are the ultimate turn offs.

Sorry, just wanted to moan!

Why the F do you have to be on the other side of the ocean? As a big long haired guy I've also wanted to get it on with another!

 

[long_haired_lad]

Why the F do you have to be on the other side of the ocean? As a big long haired guy I've also wanted to get it on with another!

If you're ever over here in the UK, look me up

 

[Night_Jasmine]

HottieMama is right. It's incredibly difficult for an overweight female to get noticed, no matter what her sexual orientation. Frustrating and heart breaking in a lot of ways.

 

[long_haired_lad]

HottieMama is right. It's incredibly difficult for an overweight female to get noticed, no matter what her sexual orientation. Frustrating and heart breaking in a lot of ways.

That's horribly depressing. I have seen a lot of very attractive larger women.

 

[human_male]

I'd do ya.

 

[blklthrjkt]

Trim the hair, grow a beard and the guys into bears will be all over you! Woof!

 

[MasterMischief]

Tap that ass

I'd do ya.

Seconded. All those in favor of the motion?

 

[Riley_James]

BBW's finding happiness

I'd venture to say it's even harder to be an overweight bisexual female. (Not to negate your issues or anything..) Unfortunately many people buy into the Barbie Bi's that you see on TV or in porn...they usually don't include fat girls.

Wanted to sound off on this a little.

Married bifem, 2 kids a long time ago. Never lost the weight, but luckily my great hubby never complains or god forbid, left.

I agree that it's difficult for o/w people to find the right person, especially if you're looking for more than just a one-night-stand. I hate the way America is so wrapped up in those skinny stick figures they call models Love what they did in Spain, banning those ones that didn't look healthy. One thing about Europe, they aren't quite so hung up on size...well places like the Netherlands and such, you see so much porn from there that consists of regular looking people...I for one love it!

Keep looking, there's someone out there for ya!

 

[HottieMama]

Wanted to sound off on this a little.

Married bifem, 2 kids a long time ago. Never lost the weight, but luckily my great hubby never complains or god forbid, left.

I agree that it's difficult for o/w people to find the right person, especially if you're looking for more than just a one-night-stand. I hate the way America is so wrapped up in those skinny stick figures they call models Love what they did in Spain, banning those ones that didn't look healthy. One thing about Europe, they aren't quite so hung up on size...well places like the Netherlands and such, you see so much porn from there that consists of regular looking people...I for one love it!

Keep looking, there's someone out there for ya!

You're absolutely right. I am lucky to have wonderful people in my life that think i am gorgeous no matter what. That post was written from the memory of being single.

 

[looking4fun1408]

It's so damned hard to get anyone interested in any oral fun when you're a big bloke. It seems that fat and long hair are the ultimate turn offs.

Sorry, just wanted to moan!

Not for me, I'm in the Midlands by the way!

 

[DerelictionOfSanity]

Why the F do you have to be on the other side of the ocean? As a big long haired guy I've also wanted to get it on with another!

Seconded. The motion carries. Seriously, I've been experiencing some similar issues myself. My theory: If they arbitrarily don't want you; fuck 'em (And that would decidedly be in the metaphorical sense as opposed to the interpretation involving creepy nonconsent issues, ew*awkward cough*)

 

[Endeavor]

You will find someone to play with

I'm not a little guy myself at 5'9" and 260lbs and I don't have too much trouble finding guys to play with. In fact, I hooked up with a young guy, he's 23 and I'm 55, just two nights ago and we had a good time sucking each other off. He's a big lad too at 275. So you see, it is possible.

In fact the first guy I ever got it on with was attracted to me specifically because I was "chubby". I loved it and got to have my first taste of cock and swallow of another man's cum. I never looked back.

It could be an age thing too, young guys can be very focused on appearances. We old farts are not so judgemental. Then again maybe we just like sucking cock.

 

[Pimp_Master]

Its easy to mope about it but harder to do something,
Why dont you just get on a diet and exercise.
Im not being a smarty just giving you advise.
Right now its 730am Saturday morning and im about to head off to the gym.
Hard work pays off man.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Its easy to mope about it but harder to do something,
Why dont you just get on a diet and exercise.
Im not being a smarty just giving you advise.
Right now its 730am Saturday morning and im about to head off to the gym.
Hard work pays off man.

You know, it's also easy to stay "get on a diet and exercise." There are factors you may not have taken into account. Dieting is expensive. Gyms are expensive. What if a person has health issues that prevent certain forms of exercise?

I don't mean to sound rude, but it irks me to see people just say that.

 

[long_haired_lad]

You know, it's also easy to stay "get on a diet and exercise." There are factors you may not have taken into account. Dieting is expensive. Gyms are expensive. What if a person has health issues that prevent certain forms of exercise?

I don't mean to sound rude, but it irks me to see people just say that.

Exactly. I have health issues myself that prevent me from exercising regularly. I am trying to lose weight by eating healthier, and do what I can by way of exercise, but it's not easy.

 

[rydia57]

Being overweight and straight sucks to Lad, besides, I always thought long hair was sexy.... alot of people think longer hair is sexy. And it all counts on how much weight is overweight. If you think it's that bad...... go for a walk. I did!

 

[Pimp_Master]

Going for a walk or doing push ups dont cost nothing.
Doesnt mean you need a gym membership, later on you can buy some basic equipment for home too. As a kid I just had a cheapo gym & dumbells at home.
Trust me I know how its like not to be able to exercise, I have exercised since I was 7 yrs old, now im 28. A sporting accident made me go in for surgery on my lower spine, I couldnt do what I wanted with my fitness for nearly 2 yrs and gained about 15 kgs, I just kept eating healthy and did what I could with exercise till I recovered then shed off the weight again in a few mths.

As I said in my post, im not being a smarty just offering advise, as you would be surprised how you go starting off with motivation and a good diet.
Later you will see that you will be more confident with a good body and will attract more people.

 

[SephStarr]

Yes, it can be extremely difficult being overweight. I can't say myself that it has a vast amount of impact on the quality or quantity of my sex life (that's the goth scene for you-a tightlaced corset and a pair of skyscraper stilettos and I'm just as gorgeous as the rest of them!), but I certainly have plenty of self esteem issues as a direct result of my weight.