Being autistic, adhd and random stuff

[PMarky2]

I suspect they are inseparable in exhausting you.

I hope it calms down and you'll be able to rest

Thank you!

One thing I have learnt is that what obtains one day might not carry over to the next, so I have a "hears to tomorrow" attitude when it comes to these episodes. At least I have been spared the horny AF element that often goes with them. A lot of the stress comes from just too many little things disrupting the routine. I also have to remember not to put my foot in it by forgetting our wedding anniversary. I doing fine at remembering now, will it still be there come Thursday?

One stupid thing that has become a major stress is ordering a door from Lowe's, which should have come in last Thursday, but it did not. When it does arrive I have to find my buddy with the pickup truck and hope he or I do not have a crazy day booked. I also have a few decisions to make which includes a work situation where someone should be discipled, but I am not sure that they will be. If they are not at least hauled to the carpet, if not over the coals, I am going to think that yet another massive injustice has been done, and that will cause problems.

 

[stickygirl]

A link I found elsewhere on Lit regarding Tylenol and autism dismissing any correlation between the two. It's a umbrella study of all the other studies, ranking their validity from high to critically low. Most of the other conclusions were rated as low or below.

There are a few comments, for and against but one caught my eye "But hopefully more carefully designed studies will get to the bottom of this because autism rates have grown dramatically and it's probably not just because it's recognized better now than it was."
I think 'the bottom of this' has already been explored if you're prepared to look for the evidence and willing to remain open-minded.

Linked quote why autism diagnoses are on the rise:
"In places that have been tracking this data over decades, there has been a steady rise in autism diagnoses since the mid-20th Century. Based on health and education records, from 2000 to 2022, autism prevalence in the US increased from 1-in-150 to 1-in-31. Prevalence has also grown in Australia, Taiwan, and other countries.

"That can look alarming to people who don't know [the context of the statistics]", says Zoe Gross, the director of advocacy at the Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN), a US nonprofit run by autistic people. It's not necessarily that autism cases are increasing, Gross emphasises: rather, diagnoses are on the rise."

If Trump and Kennedy want to reduce rates, they only need to carry on with cutting funding to science and health-care.

 

[Strixaluco]

A link I found elsewhere on Lit regarding Tylenol and autism dismissing any correlation between the two. It's a umbrella study of all the other studies, ranking their validity from high to critically low. Most of the other conclusions were rated as low or below.

There are a few comments, for and against but one caught my eye "But hopefully more carefully designed studies will get to the bottom of this because autism rates have grown dramatically and it's probably not just because it's recognized better now than it was."
I think 'the bottom of this' has already been explored if you're prepared to look for the evidence and willing to remain open-minded.

Linked quote why autism diagnoses are on the rise:
"In places that have been tracking this data over decades, there has been a steady rise in autism diagnoses since the mid-20th Century. Based on health and education records, from 2000 to 2022, autism prevalence in the US increased from 1-in-150 to 1-in-31. Prevalence has also grown in Australia, Taiwan, and other countries.

"That can look alarming to people who don't know [the context of the statistics]", says Zoe Gross, the director of advocacy at the Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN), a US nonprofit run by autistic people. It's not necessarily that autism cases are increasing, Gross emphasises: rather, diagnoses are on the rise."

If Trump and Kennedy want to reduce rates, they only need to carry on with cutting funding to science and health-care.

You can't really educate people who don't want to believe science.

 

[stickygirl]

Just watched a YT from Mom on the Spectrum about alcohol and autism. She also revealed that she'd had a hysterectomy just a month ago Anyhow she discusses the ways that alcohol might impact your life.

I was really interested, because I'm writing about an alcoholic... and another person who is autistic... and because I drink too, though don't I regard it as a dependency.

I love watching her videos - I find her manner very calming/comforting.

 

[PMarky2]

Just watched a YT from Mom on the Spectrum about alcohol and autism. She also revealed that she'd had a hysterectomy just a month ago Anyhow she discusses the ways that alcohol might impact your life.

I was really interested, because I'm writing about an alcoholic... and another person who is autistic... and because I drink too, though don't I regard it as a dependency.

I love watching her videos - I find her manner very calming/comforting.

I'll have a look at the YT later, but I know that alcohol is my personal 'canary in the coal mine' - when I start drinking heavily I am at the end of my rope and anxiety is taking over. It is the signal that I must withdraw, take some down time, and be around the folks I find comforting. When I am unstressed and relaxed, I am indifferent to alcohol. I just wish much more of my life was less stressed.

 

[Strixaluco]

For me, one of the first signs of having too much is me getting irritated. My irritation threshold gets lower and lower - or it seems to, as there's so much already, that I don't need much to cross it.

I especially start getting hostile towards any demand on my time and energy. My phone ringing may be enough.

 

[OralAllOver]

Sticky, thanks for such clear, impactful thoughts. I admire your openness, tone and resolve

And I'm learning, Thanx for that 2

Ya know, they are any number of folks with intrusive, unproductive thoughts/guilt re sex. No one in that boat is remotely alone.

Hang in there! We all need each other

 

[PMarky2]

For me, one of the first signs of having too much is me getting irritated. My irritation threshold gets lower and lower - or it seems to, as there's so much already, that I don't need much to cross it.

I especially start getting hostile towards any demand on my time and energy. My phone ringing may be enough.

The first sign for me that I am getting overwhelmed is a very weak or dead 'social battery.' This is unfortunate because I tend to ignore it as a warning because I tell myself I am simply tired. I mentally often give people a SBI - social battery index - number. The folks I can be pretty much unmasked around get a '0' or a '1,' I can pretty much spend a day with them and not get peopled out. Then it gets gradually higher up to '9' which are the folks have to mask heavily around and are so NT they are exhausting, and I last about 20 minutes with them even on a good day. My wife tends to be a 2 or a 4 depending on how she is feeling, so I disappear for a while most afternoons to regroup.

I am usually irritable when overstimulated, or busier than a one armed paper-hanger, so if I am tired, trying to work, the radio is on, the wife listening to reel on her tablets without earphones, then the phone goes, I am almost certain to loose it. People trying to force change on me gets another thing that gets to me in short order. Oh, and for goodness sake, please do not wander into the kitchen at 'a critical moment' because I am likely to be completely uninterested in what you have to say because I am trying to avoid lumps in the sauce, or something.

I try not to be disagreeable, but sometimes there is enough going on in my head to keep me fully occupied without anyone else putting in an appearance!

 

[Strixaluco]

The first sign for me that I am getting overwhelmed is a very weak or dead 'social battery.' This is unfortunate because I tend to ignore it as a warning because I tell myself I am simply tired.

But being tired counts?

 

[stickygirl]

The first sign for me that I am getting overwhelmed is a very weak or dead 'social battery.' This is unfortunate because I tend to ignore it as a warning because I tell myself I am simply tired. I mentally often give people a SBI - social battery index - number. The folks I can be pretty much unmasked around get a '0' or a '1,' I can pretty much spend a day with them and not get peopled out. Then it gets gradually higher up to '9' which are the folks have to mask heavily around and are so NT they are exhausting, and I last about 20 minutes with them even on a good day. My wife tends to be a 2 or a 4 depending on how she is feeling, so I disappear for a while most afternoons to regroup.

I am usually irritable when overstimulated, or busier than a one armed paper-hanger, so if I am tired, trying to work, the radio is on, the wife listening to reel on her tablets without earphones, then the phone goes, I am almost certain to loose it. People trying to force change on me gets another thing that gets to me in short order. Oh, and for goodness sake, please do not wander into the kitchen at 'a critical moment' because I am likely to be completely uninterested in what you have to say because I am trying to avoid lumps in the sauce, or something.

I try not to be disagreeable, but sometimes there is enough going on in my head to keep me fully occupied without anyone else putting in an appearance!

I understand what you're saying - we have no stressor-gauge to tell us what's going on internally. Like a frog in a kettle we don't notice the rising temperature until we're baked.

You've just reminded me, unfortunately of an incident before I knew I was ND. I was living with someone who was at college an hour's drive away so when I got home, I could never be sure if she was there. One particularly stressful day I got home and she popped her head round the corner to say 'hello' and I said out loud "Oh you're here"... I might as well have spat at her.
Of course, looking back I know I needed to have set a boundary, that I needed 30mins to decompress to put the spring back into my step. The guilt is fresh in my stomach now, writing this. No surprise the relationship didn't last.

Alcohol is just another unknown thrown into the machinery and can hinder or help how we navigate a social setting. These day I avoid getting drunk ( the penalties are looking an idiot, ones safety and the hang-over ) but I enjoy a glass of something as I cook.