Be A Man/Woman

[Bob Peale]

The thread on cheating got me to thinking about The Firm (yeah, I know - sometimes I don't want this brain either).

There is a scene in the Caymans where our buddy Mitch gets sloppy drunk and ends up "cheating" on his wife. It is intimated in the book that it only happened because of the sand, the surf, the booze, etc.

Bullshit.

I have to believe that if you are going to cheat, alcohol may be a catalyst, but it sure as hell ain't the cause. I don't think alcohol helps you find the sudden clarity to go plowing other fields - those seeds have to be spread long before you get a taste o' the Jack.

Am I oversimplifying? Do you think that alcohol is a defense for unauthorized shore leave?

 

[Calamity Jane]

Nope, if you're gonna cheat drunk, it's only because you're too chicken shit to do it sober, not because you're not thinkin about it.

 

[red_rose]

I think that alcohol can be a catalyst. I think that alcohol can even lead to fooling around ("making out" etc...).

But actually *having sex* with someone is such a complex act, that unless one person is passed out drunk and the other one is just getting their jollies off... there has to still be some amount of reason left that should kick in.

 

[sunstruck]

Alcohol doesn't MAKE you do anything. What it does is give you an excuse and lower your inhibitions. I've never used it as an excuse for any of my unsightly behavior (never cheated, just can't do it). It's called responsibility. Too many people don't understand the word.

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Alcohol will alter your perceptions about the consequences your act may bring upon you but it isn't an excuse. You shouldn't put yourself in a position to cheat unless you already want to do it.

 

[desert spike]

The alcohol just loosened up his moral compass alittle. A guy couldn't credibly say it was just the booze that let him astray and lowered his ability to stop an sexually agressive women.

O'l stiffy can make a guy confussed though

Makes us ask,

What do I do,
No I don't
Yes I do
No I don't
Yes I do
No I don't

 

[Nitsuj]

There's this girl I've known for the longest time, and she's always been taken. By the same dick headed guy, and they always fight.... But one time he cheated on her, and blamed it on being drunk. But seriously, I would blame it on the other girl being drunk. He's the kinda guy, as soon as Him/her split, he'll be lonely for a loooooooong time... He would rather masterbate than have sex with his girlfriend, when I'd rather masterbate than listen to her bitch about him all the time... She says she is sexually frustrated, and I told her if she was my girlfriend I would fuck her brains out whenever she wanted it.. lol

but after he cheated, they broke up.....but they ended up back together... and I still talk to her... just wish there was someway I could get past her so-called love for him, and I would show her how she deserves to be treated...

 

[Megameg]

I read the book - they DO make it sound like he just lost his head.

I guess it just depends on how guilty you would feel. I think that guys who cheat to begin with can justify it in any number of ways. Didn't Mitch take the "what she doesn't know won't hurt her" tack?

I would personally be too miserable with the guilt. I would never be able to call myself honest, faithful, a good wife, a good person, etc. etc. - and these are some of the things that make me feel good about myself.

I had a friend in HS that slept with a guy in 7th grade. We were in 9th, and having a conversation about being virgins. I said, "I'm going to be a virgin til I get married!" (in retrospect, ha ha, but I digress) She said, "me, too!" I just looked at her and she added, "from now on!"

Maybe that's what cheaters think? "it was only once, and if he/she doesn't find out, and I block it, it doesn't count because it didn't mean a thing..."

Meg

 

[cuz cracker]

i just like to get drunk and fuck!
its always nice if it's with your wife. or somebodies!