BBW over average/slim?

I have been with two, "in shape" women in my life...one is my ex...the other a temporary fling. Every other women I have ever been with was BBW. Some not too big, some fairly large....so, even though I haven't really thought much about it, I seem to tend towards larger women mostly...I feel very comfortable with them.....
 
Not sure if I am in the correct section or not but I have a question that always nags at me. Are there men that are truly more attracted to bigger women?? It sounds silly to ask and I have had boyfriends and partners that swear that they are but it still nags at me that maybe they just like me because they see me as easier to try and pick up or that my standards must be lower. I want to believe that its my lack of confidence that is the culprit of all this. I have some friends that are bigger like me and its hard to talk to them about how I feel because they are much more confident so hopefully im not offending anyone by posting this but I just want an honest opinion if some men totally prefer curvy fun :)

I like fuller figured women as well. (see, "fuller figured" is an old phrase...cuz I'm old...)
Call them curvy, BBW, whatever.
To be fair, I like a wide variety of sizes (bwahaha...see what I did there?). I'm just most attracted to a woman who is more on the "fuller figured" range. Why? Shit...I don't know. I like brunettes and red heads better than blondes too. Why? Shit...I don't know. Lot's of men prefer blondes. And, I'm not saying I'd ever reject a blonde, I just like brunnetts. And redheads. Did I mention redheads?
Also, I find broad hips to attractive. Why? well probably something deep in my make up having to do with fertility.

Over the years I've had many good chats with men about what they prefer. And I'll let you in on a little secret: it varies.
Oh, sure, the "Miss America" types have some broad (he he) appeal. But I've heard lots of guys say things like, "OH, Miss America is beautiful, but personally, I prefer..." and then go off and describe something completely different. Sometimes is slender, athletic builds. Sometimes it's curvier, shorter, darker, lighter, taller, whatever. The beauty of this is that for every female body type, there are some guys who find that attractive. And no, they're not "settling." Because they really do prefer that.

On the flip side: I recently read something that said, "men date the women they think their friends want to date." This made a lot of sense to me. Especially young or immature men are very sensitive to the opinions of other guys. (Of course, women would never act that way...:rolleyes: ...). What that leads to is men focusing on a type (like Miss America) that has "wide spread appeal." But that doesn't mean they prefer it. (see...quote above..."oh she's beautiful but...")

As we mature (stop laughing! that's wasn't a joke...;) :p), we come to realize that dating someone the other guy prefers isn't really satisfying. We have to date who we like. It took me a while, but I figured it out. Other guys have too.

Trust them if you think they are trustworthy. Certainly some men are "players" and just looking for a score. They'll say anything to get into a woman's pants. (although I might offer that they are also much more worried about what others think of the woman, so they focus on the "widespread appeal" type).
If a guy seems genuine, and says, yeah, I find you attractive...well...you know...he probably does!

Good luck.
 
Great thanks.... You?

Holding my own.

I should do the dishes... But I just have to say. Without boiling them I just do not see how they are ever "clean" again.

Guess I'm weird like that.

Hope you are well!


RUNE Dude you are slacking... Hop to it, I need the ladies held out of the way so I can work! ;)
 
I like fuller figured women as well. (see, "fuller figured" is an old phrase...cuz I'm old...)
Call them curvy, BBW, whatever.
To be fair, I like a wide variety of sizes (bwahaha...see what I did there?). I'm just most attracted to a woman who is more on the "fuller figured" range. Why? Shit...I don't know. I like brunettes and red heads better than blondes too. Why? Shit...I don't know. Lot's of men prefer blondes. And, I'm not saying I'd ever reject a blonde, I just like brunnetts. And redheads. Did I mention redheads?
Also, I find broad hips to attractive. Why? well probably something deep in my make up having to do with fertility.

Over the years I've had many good chats with men about what they prefer. And I'll let you in on a little secret: it varies.
Oh, sure, the "Miss America" types have some broad (he he) appeal. But I've heard lots of guys say things like, "OH, Miss America is beautiful, but personally, I prefer..." and then go off and describe something completely different. Sometimes is slender, athletic builds. Sometimes it's curvier, shorter, darker, lighter, taller, whatever. The beauty of this is that for every female body type, there are some guys who find that attractive. And no, they're not "settling." Because they really do prefer that.

On the flip side: I recently read something that said, "men date the women they think their friends want to date." This made a lot of sense to me. Especially young or immature men are very sensitive to the opinions of other guys. (Of course, women would never act that way...:rolleyes: ...). What that leads to is men focusing on a type (like Miss America) that has "wide spread appeal." But that doesn't mean they prefer it. (see...quote above..."oh she's beautiful but...")

As we mature (stop laughing! that's wasn't a joke...;) :p), we come to realize that dating someone the other guy prefers isn't really satisfying. We have to date who we like. It took me a while, but I figured it out. Other guys have too.

Trust them if you think they are trustworthy. Certainly some men are "players" and just looking for a score. They'll say anything to get into a woman's pants. (although I might offer that they are also much more worried about what others think of the woman, so they focus on the "widespread appeal" type).
If a guy seems genuine, and says, yeah, I find you attractive...well...you know...he probably does!

Good luck.

He just dropped Wisdom all over this thread. :eek:
Too bad I'm a blond... My mom's a red head though... she's single... ;)
 
Women in general are beautiful. I like a lot of soft curves myself. I worked in strip clubs for a few years (bartending) and the big girls were pulling down as much or more than the tiny skinny girls. All about the attitude.

Living in Puerto Rico for a few years let me see a lot of big beautiful sexy confident women. They all wore sexy clothes and heels and were not ashamed or worried about how they looked. They were very confident in being good looking women regardless of their sizes.

The sexiest women are the ones that are confident and love themselves. Love your curves, men love them as well.
 
I couldn't agree more! :)

And have the responses to the tread altered your views on this subject. It is all about confidence and personality, body type is far down the list of things that matter except for very superficial people...:rose::kiss::rose:
 
And have the responses to the tread altered your views on this subject. It is all about confidence and personality, body type is far down the list of things that matter except for very superficial people...:rose::kiss::rose:

I would have to say my confidence is a touch higher as of late :)
 
I like fuller figured women as well. (see, "fuller figured" is an old phrase...cuz I'm old...)
Call them curvy, BBW, whatever.
To be fair, I like a wide variety of sizes (bwahaha...see what I did there?). I'm just most attracted to a woman who is more on the "fuller figured" range. Why? Shit...I don't know. I like brunettes and red heads better than blondes too. Why? Shit...I don't know. Lot's of men prefer blondes. And, I'm not saying I'd ever reject a blonde, I just like brunnetts. And redheads. Did I mention redheads?
Also, I find broad hips to attractive. Why? well probably something deep in my make up having to do with fertility.

Over the years I've had many good chats with men about what they prefer. And I'll let you in on a little secret: it varies.
Oh, sure, the "Miss America" types have some broad (he he) appeal. But I've heard lots of guys say things like, "OH, Miss America is beautiful, but personally, I prefer..." and then go off and describe something completely different. Sometimes is slender, athletic builds. Sometimes it's curvier, shorter, darker, lighter, taller, whatever. The beauty of this is that for every female body type, there are some guys who find that attractive. And no, they're not "settling." Because they really do prefer that.

On the flip side: I recently read something that said, "men date the women they think their friends want to date." This made a lot of sense to me. Especially young or immature men are very sensitive to the opinions of other guys. (Of course, women would never act that way...:rolleyes: ...). What that leads to is men focusing on a type (like Miss America) that has "wide spread appeal." But that doesn't mean they prefer it. (see...quote above..."oh she's beautiful but...")

As we mature (stop laughing! that's wasn't a joke...;) :p), we come to realize that dating someone the other guy prefers isn't really satisfying. We have to date who we like. It took me a while, but I figured it out. Other guys have too.

Trust them if you think they are trustworthy. Certainly some men are "players" and just looking for a score. They'll say anything to get into a woman's pants. (although I might offer that they are also much more worried about what others think of the woman, so they focus on the "widespread appeal" type).
If a guy seems genuine, and says, yeah, I find you attractive...well...you know...he probably does!

Good luck.



Thank you for this lovely post Lakey

I have to say I've read through this thread and had a few "fuck you" moments with the attempts by some to make BBW feel sexy by slagging off other body types. Ridiculous. We all know if we were to stick a naked chick in front of you you'd probably think: tits, pussy...want..gimme ;) :p

You see I've been lots of sizes in my life. Most of them with my husband, some related to children but mainly related to lifestyle and I have always always felt loved, adored and sexy.

The person you are with but more so the way you feel about yourself is crucial. Whatever your body size and shape you just rock it. Make sure you're healthy, fit and strong because that is where the power lies, that's where your confidence comes from.

So I've been a US size 14 and I loved my tits, and curves and felt sexy and never felt that was misplaced confidence and he wanted me and made me feel good about myself. This body made entire human beings...that's fucking amazing.

And I'm currently a US 6 after a fuck of a lot of work and dedication and I rock that size too, and my man still loves me and wants me.

Reading through some of these responses, some may not ...that's fine, just don't slag my body type off because I don't fit your ideal ...it's a body now as it was when it was bigger ...and bodies and what they can do are just generally awesome.

So OP...it doesn't matter what people think, what matters is how you feel. And I hope you feel confident and awesome.
 
Thank you for this lovely post Lakey

I have to say I've read through this thread and had a few "fuck you" moments with the attempts by some to make BBW feel sexy by slagging off other body types. Ridiculous. We all know if we were to stick a naked chick in front of you you'd probably think: tits, pussy...want..gimme ;) :p

You see I've been lots of sizes in my life. Most of them with my husband, some related to children but mainly related to lifestyle and I have always always felt loved, adored and sexy.

The person you are with but more so the way you feel about yourself is crucial. Whatever your body size and shape you just rock it. Make sure you're healthy, fit and strong because that is where the power lies, that's where your confidence comes from.

So I've been a US size 14 and I loved my tits, and curves and felt sexy and never felt that was misplaced confidence and he wanted me and made me feel good about myself. This body made entire human beings...that's fucking amazing.

And I'm currently a US 6 after a fuck of a lot of work and dedication and I rock that size too, and my man still loves me and wants me.

Reading through some of these responses, some may not ...that's fine, just don't slag my body type off because I don't fit your ideal ...it's a body now as it was when it was bigger ...and bodies and what they can do are just generally awesome.

So OP...it doesn't matter what people think, what matters is how you feel. And I hope you feel confident and awesome.

I for one would never "slag" any body type.. I think this thread is about people being comfortable with who they are..and if posters are critical, just ignore them as they obviously have their own issues! I applaud you for the hard work you have done to change your body, good for you.. Like you said, it is about confidence and feeling good and some need outside encouragement to get that confidence.. The human body is a beautiful thing and we should appreciate it...
 
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