Back into the mood.

[sexigesimal]

I lost my virginity to a girl I have known for a long time almost three months ago. For the first month we went at it like jack-rabbits and it was great. 2-3 times a night. Before I was able to cum, change condoms and go again (never went soft).

I have been depressed and stressed from working part time and going to school full time (16 credit hours). Anyway it seems like I don't last nearly as long as I used to, and I can't get a second erection after coming.

I always go down on her and play with her so she orgasms at least 3 times during foreplay so I know she is still getting off.

I wouldnt care but it is starting to worry my gf becuase she thinks its her fualt. She thinks she isnt doing something right.

Any ideas? I also noticed that certian condoms seem to affect the way I preform. Anyone else notice a difference between say Trojan and Durex or Tro-enz?

 

[FoxxyGypsy]

Being a woman i don't know how much help i can be but here's some (hopefully useful) advice.

That happened to my bf for a while. He had a knee reconstruction and about a month into recovery things just went a bit downhill.Where we used to go at it for 1-2 hours or 2/3 times a night for a while we would just have sex once and it didn't last long at all.

It could be stress/concentration. You can always try to get close and then hold off a while and then build up again and then hold off....my bf uses that technique to kind of train himself to hold off longer. I think it was just a natural phase. We went from screwing like rabbits to chilling out and now we're screwing like rabbits again.

There's another thing you can try...My SO read it in a bookand decided to try it...

Eggs and Honey.

We had a weekend away recently and that afternoon he said he fried up some eggs and ate them with honey. It's supposed to be like a natural viagra. I don't think i've been fucked so much/hard/long in my life. You're supposed to avoid wheat when you eat them.

Hope that helps!

 

[lizaveta]

I say just make up in quality for what you lack in quantity.

Reassure her that it isn't her fault by explaining your situation and telling her that while your physical state isn't cooperating properly, that doesn't mean you don't want her. Tell her you want to make each time as wonderful as possible - and then show her. No perfunctory, get-me-to-the-intercourse stuff; just take your time and enjoy whatever you're doing. Try new things. Relax.

Maybe it's what you need, too.

Good luck!

 

[TBKahuna123]

Dude, totally normal, even for a young guy.

I have been depressed and stressed from working part time and going to school full time (16 credit hours). Anyway it seems like I don't last nearly as long as I used to, and I can't get a second erection after coming.

Stress while kill your libido, completely. So will lack of sleep/exhaustion, which is also common when you are working and going ot school fulltime. As for not being able to get a second erection, boo hoo! No, that's not fair, I was young once, I suppose. This really isn't a problem though, it's just a side effect of the stress. Given that you are young and nothing else has changed, I'd say this has to be the reason.

As for your G/F, reassure her that it isn't her and the only thing she can do to help you out is start attending your classes for you. it's not her, it's not something she isn't doing, it's just the way the male body works. Like Lizaveta said, make up for Quantity with Quality.

As for condoms, I haven't used condoms in over a decade, but I do recall back then that different brands did make a difference. Experimentation is the only way to find the one that works best for you.

One other note that might help: exercise and sleep. Both seem to be keys to a healthy libido. If you drink, cut back. If you smoke, stop. All these are also factors, especially when it comes to recovery time.

 

[silverwhisper]

what el grande kahuna said, man. treasure the second one, he gets more elusive as you get older.

ed

 

[Mrs.P]

I always go down on her and play with her so she orgasms at least 3 times during foreplay

THREE???? Lucky girl!!!!

Sounds like you are stressing yourself out of the situation. KWIM? Just relax and have fun!!

 

[TBKahuna123]

THREE???? Lucky girl!!!!

Sounds like you are stressing yourself out of the situation. KWIM? Just relax and have fun!!

Another important point I forgot. If you stress about it it will happen even more! Just relax and know that it's nothing big, you're not losing your touch, and your girlfriend still turns you on. It just happens and it'll go away when your body adjusts to the stress.