Avoiding "clinical" sex scenes

[ronde]

What about mentioning anything related to "her hole", for instance? Is that also a bit offensive, then? I really need to get myself some editors..

It's a commonly used term that I also don't like because it reduces the act of sex to about the same as masturbation. To me describing a woman's genitalia as "her hole" reads like a bunch of adolescent boys talking about sex. I really hate what you read in more than a few stories - "I fucked her in all three of her holes". I can't imagine any woman enjoying being reduced to just an opening for a man to use to pleasure himself.

 

[Devinter]

I can't imagine any woman enjoying being reduced to just an opening for a man to use to pleasure himself.

... Oh, I've met a few. But I don't think that's the norm.

But is saying something like "I fucked her in all three of her holes" all that different from saying "I rode his cock for what felt like an hour" or something like that? I would think that even though the expressions may be vulgar, it should be fairly acceptable if the other sentences in the paragraph makes it clear that the two people do not see each other as nothing but an object for their personal satisfaction - or am I mistaken?

 

[ronde]

... Oh, I've met a few. But I don't think that's the norm.

But is saying something like "I fucked her in all three of her holes" all that different from saying "I rode his cock for what felt like an hour" or something like that? I would think that even though the expressions may be vulgar, it should be fairly acceptable if the other sentences in the paragraph makes it clear that the two people do not see each other as nothing but an object for their personal satisfaction - or am I mistaken?

It's fiction, so anything is possible, but I like stories that are at least plausible if not believable. In my admittedly somewhat limited experience with women, women might tell another that they rode a guy's cock, but just like "fucking all three holes" I can't believe the "felt like an hour" bit. It just seems like some sort of male fantasy that in all probability never really happens.

 

[SimonDoom]

I can't imagine

I see people in this forum use this phrase, and it always brings me to a stop.

I can imagine anything. ANYTHING. If it can be conceived of--and I can conceive of a lot--then it can be turned into a story. It may not be, strictly speaking, believable, but that's not necessary. It may be plausible on its own terms and in the author-created universe. And the chances are that if it's physically possible more people are actually doing it than most of us are willing to accept.

Some women crave degradation. It turns them on to be thought of as a bunch of holes to be fucked. That may not be your thing. But surely, it's not impossible to imagine.

When anyone says, "I can't imagine," my thought is, "You lack imagination." I don't mean to be insulting; I'd just suggest reconsidering the use of that phrase because it implies a limitation that you may not actually intend.

As far as the subject of this thread is concerned, I have the same attitude. Regarding the terms to be used to describe body parts and the sexual act, ANYTHING might work; it just depends on the nature and tone of the story. I can imagine stories where the use of clinical terms would be appropriate. I can imagine stories where the most degrading, vulgar terms might be appropriate. I can imagine stories where flowery or euphemistic terms would be appropriate. I can imagine stories where it's right to fall back on "pussy" and "cock" a lot. "Cunt" is just right for some stories and not for others.

 

[Bamagan]

As a non-native English speaker, I genuinely didn't realize this. I thought slit was fine. Been using it in some really loving settings too, I believe. You live and you learn, I guess..

What about mentioning anything related to "her hole", for instance? Is that also a bit offensive, then? I really need to get myself some editors..

One other aspect just occurred to me, and that's whether your characters are using the terms verbally to one another or if you're using them descriptively as a narrator. Some readers still won't draw any distinction, but there is a meaningful difference between a narrator mentioning that a finger dipped into her hole and a character announcing, "I'm going to stick my finger in your hole." The former is purely descriptive, and while it might arguably lack artfulness, it is at least accurate and unambiguous. The latter is where the reader might be left wondering if the character is trying to be demeaning, provocative, or just linguistically clumsy.

 

[Codoc24]

... Oh, I've met a few. But I don't think that's the norm.

But is saying something like "I fucked her in all three of her holes" all that different from saying "I rode his cock for what felt like an hour" or something like that? I would think that even though the expressions may be vulgar, it should be fairly acceptable if the other sentences in the paragraph makes it clear that the two people do not see each other as nothing but an object for their personal satisfaction - or am I mistaken?

I think it depends on the context. Sometimes "all three of her holes" is not good, and in some situations, it can be good. Like if it is a romantic moment between a couple, "all three of her holes" would not be good. But if it is a BDSM scene where a woman gets off on being humiliated, maybe it would work then? Or maybe a couple is just talking playfully during foreplay, and one of them uses the term?

 

[Devinter]

Whilst we are on this topic; What about the word "fuck" in general? Is it offensive to some older generations, perhaps? Or is it the most fitting word in a lot of cases where lovemaking doesn't apply? Intercourse, coitus, fornication, coupling etc all sound quite 'clinical' to me as a foreigner - but fuck strikes me as rather vulgar and I try to stay away from it in more romantic scenarios.

 

[Bamagan]

Whilst we are on this topic; What about the word "fuck" in general? Is it offensive to some older generations, perhaps? Or is it the most fitting word in a lot of cases where lovemaking doesn't apply? Intercourse, coitus, fornication, coupling etc all sound quite 'clinical' to me as a foreigner - but fuck strikes me as rather vulgar and I try to stay away from it in more romantic scenarios.

At least in America, the word 'fuck' is used very casually among the less wealthy people, somewhat regardless of age, although it's often used more as an intense stand-in for many other terms rather than always (or even usually) referring to sex. If you hear an American say, "He really fucked her hard," they are quite likely referring to something completely different, anything from divorce proceedings to the outcome of a game of UNO. You need more context to be sure that they're talking about some kind of penis-in-hole scenario.

 

[Djmac1031]

Whilst we are on this topic; What about the word "fuck" in general? Is it offensive to some older generations, perhaps? Or is it the most fitting word in a lot of cases where lovemaking doesn't apply? Intercourse, coitus, fornication, coupling etc all sound quite 'clinical' to me as a foreigner - but fuck strikes me as rather vulgar and I try to stay away from it in more romantic scenarios.

Personally, I have zero issues with that word, in fact it's probably one of my favorites. Certainly my most used. In a variety of ways.

I get how some could find it offensive, but my question becomes- what the fuck are they doing on an Adult Erotica site if a basic word like "fuck" is triggering to them?

Go find a Disney site

 

[samhasstories]

I try to work up to 'fuck' - both the word and the act - but it's certainly in there. I doubt if I've written a story, erotica or otherwise, without it.

I don't think I struggle with 'clinical' sex, but terminology can be tricky, when I'm basically describing the same body parts/bodily functions over and over again. 'Cock' is all over my stories. One I struggle with is 'pussy' (the word!) - I'm not overly fond of the word, but I've yet to find a better one. Most of the alternatives I've come across just don't feel right to me - either too clinical or just awkward.

 

[StillStunned]

It depends on the story, and the characters. In "The Rivals", Sligh is a scholar and explorer, and he never says or thinks it. Avilia, who's a free-minded, impulsive mercenary, uses it all the time. As the narrator I'll rarely use it, unless I'm it really fits my POV character.

 

[SimonDoom]

Whilst we are on this topic; What about the word "fuck" in general? Is it offensive to some older generations, perhaps? Or is it the most fitting word in a lot of cases where lovemaking doesn't apply? Intercourse, coitus, fornication, coupling etc all sound quite 'clinical' to me as a foreigner - but fuck strikes me as rather vulgar and I try to stay away from it in more romantic scenarios.

I have never encountered disapproval of the word "fuck" in a story I've written, and I like to use it. I think it's a great word. It's short and to the point and ends with that wonderful hard "k" sound. It can be used as a transitive ("I fucked her") or intransitive ("we fucked") verb. But I also use it or don't use it in accordance with the needs of the story. I have been with women who are uncomfortable with the use of that word, so I think about the situation before I write a woman telling a man, "Fuck me!" For some women, that's not a realistic piece of dialogue.

 

[AchtungNight]

To paraphrase George Carlin, the problem with the word “fuck” is that we can’t decide if it’s a good or bad word. It can mean both good and bad things in context. Maybe we need to create a clear meaning for “fuck” vs “un-fuck”.

 

[Djmac1031]

. I have been with women who are uncomfortable with the use of that word, so I think about the situation before I write a woman telling a man, "Fuck me!" For some women, that's not a realistic piece of dialogue.

Not saying you're wrong in any way, and my experience is... limited, to a certain degree.

But I've never been with a woman uncomfortable with the word. And I've certainly never been with one who chose "have sex with me" or "have intercourse with me" over a good old fashioned "fuck me."

 

[MillieDynamite]

Okay, see, you're thing right here, that's tab A, son. It goes in slot A, over here on her. But see, she has B and C slots as well. But watch out, some girls have a rubber Tab A and while you don't have a slot A, you still have B and C, and them kinds of girls aren't gentle with your boy slots.

 

[Trionyx]

There are many alternative words, some of which are fairly humorous, to the various body parts noted above. An abbreviated list I drew up can be found at: https://www.literotica.com/s/how-to-fuck-without-saying-fuck