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[australwind]

Currently have a long time visitor. Other people's kids bring home stray animals they find, mine brings home other kids. Have a young girl who is here for the duration. Rang her Mother to inform her she was here, Mother basically is not interested. Told me she (daughter...16) can go find out what it's like in the world, not interested in child at all, hasn't even rung myself or her daughter since to check on her at least. Um...don't know the Mother, Mother doesn't know me. I'd be here knocking on the door in a flash if my child.

So now have two 16 year old girls...oh yes, so need all those extra hormones. Child has no shoes for school, so gave her money for that. No proper uniforms, hasn't been attending as Mother didn't bother sending them...Mother doesn't value education, child said Mum always after men. When the girl opened our cupboards and fridge, got so excited at how much food there is. Why do people have children and not care.... I understand that it is a challenge and some children do make it extremely hard to have them living in the family. Sometimes hard decisions have to be made for a child to not live there, but you do it properly, through channels. But all she did was be home late from dates. Goodness...my Mother should have kicked me out many a time way back then. Child doesn't drink, do drugs, her boyfriend is a lovely kid, he's been here to visit and always behaved well. But then I lay laws down, watch over them without being a prying eye in their face. Damn....my blood has been boiling for two weeks.

Spent 5hours and 35 minutes on phone to various "help" agencies...to no avail. No one wants to know. Rang Child Safety only to be asked, "what do you want us to do?" So what? I put a child out on the streets? Can't get Youth Allowance as she is from another country and not a permanent resident. She wants to continue education, not a lazy child....how do you keep encouraging them when no one else seems to want to truly help and appropriately help them? Finally got the school to talk to me and have begun the process of gaining support within the school.


Phew...sorry for the rant, but haven't had anyone to do so to. Just so damn angry at systems which will rip a family apart when there is no need and then turn it's back on others who need assistance. I worked in Child Welfare many years ago and it's frustrating to see that the processes haven't improved and are still not truly geared to help a child in deep need.

Okay...shutting up now.

I hope each of you have a wonderful week and enjoy all or who you do....

MsMoon

Seems your problem is making news here in sunny Victoria as well.....

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/foster-carers-left-out-of-loop-on-schooling-20120201-1qteq.html

This is from today's paper....and there's another article regarding children in residential care not being given the chance to complete schooling....it seems that someone has to stand up and make sure that the rights of children to an education should be protected no matter whose care they find themselves in....after all, it is rarely the fault of the child that they find themselves at the mercy of an overstressed government system that doesn't seem to have the best interests of the child as its guiding principle.

Kudos to you, Ms Moon, for taking up the challenge of ensuring your "house guest" stands a chance of getting a good start in life.

 

[australwind]

Thank You, Master Gil!

Had the BEST morning! HUGE cake, flowers and lottery tickets (winners I hope! lol) at work. All the staff came down and rounded up as many regulars as they could and they all sang Happy Birthday. I was red as a beetroot but felt really special. I love my town and the people I work with.

Off to see the cherubs now. Will have an even better evening. Chille Con Carne. Home made. WooHoo. Then down to Melb via Albury. Looove Melbourne.

Coming to lovely Melbourne, Trisk?

You've picked a good weekend!

 

[Orlanth]

Happy birthday, Triskle have a wonderful knight

 

[Triskele]

Bugger looks like I missed WQ's SO flash...

Ms Moon all I can say is the powers that be can often be mind blowingly stupid, nothing makes sense when you'd think it should be pretty straightforward.

Triskele.... hope you have a great day!!!

Thank You, Kisses. I've had a brilliant day, despite rain all day.

Coming to lovely Melbourne, Trisk?

You've picked a good weekend!

Can't wait to get there! I'm going to have a ball! I hope I have enough time to wander arounf St Kilda. If I don't, I'll just have to go back, won't I!?

Happy birthday, Triskle have a wonderful knight

Thank You, Sunshine! Things are looking very soggy up your way. I hope you and yours are all happy and safe.

 

[robed_masseur]

Coming to lovely Melbourne, Trisk?

You've picked a good weekend!

It has to be a good weekend *somewhere* - My home in Sydney is awash I hear, but I bounced through Canberra enroute to Adelaide and both were basking in beautiful blue sky. Only wish we could truck all that Sydney water to Adelaide, the rainwater tanks here haven't seen moisture for months :-(

Hmm...moisture...I love that word, the way it rolls around the mouth...

 

[australwind]

Ah.....Rain.

Wouldn't it be nice?

I'm sure that the organisers of Sunday's Pride March here in Melbourne will hope that it stays away until after the party!!!

 

[Kiss Me]

Ah.....Rain.

Wouldn't it be nice?

I'm sure that the organisers of Sunday's Pride March here in Melbourne will hope that it stays away until after the party!!!

Hi sweet, how've you been? Can you do me a favour and stop saying rain would be nice? It's back and I am less than impressed. I was enjoying the damn sun.

 

[australwind]

Hi sweet, how've you been? Can you do me a favour and stop saying rain would be nice? It's back and I am less than impressed. I was enjoying the damn sun.

Send it south, Ms Kiss!!! We are still putting the moistness back into the earth here in drought country.


I promise not to mention again......

Hope you are keeping well, my dear...I've been seeing far too much of the inside of operating theatres but am on the mend....

 

[Kiss Me]

Send it south, Ms Kiss!!! We are still putting the moistness back into the earth here in drought country.


I promise not to mention again......

Hope you are keeping well, my dear...I've been seeing far too much of the inside of operating theatres but am on the mend....

I have been wishing it south with all my might, did you see what a wonderful job I've been doing? Everywhere south of me is flooded

Glad to hear you're improving, I've spent most of the last week in bed. Self inflicted though, treated myself to a bit of a nip and tuck and grossly underestimated just how much it would knock me around.

 

[australwind]

I have been wishing it south with all my might, did you see what a wonderful job I've been doing? Everywhere south of me is flooded

Glad to hear you're improving, I've spent most of the last week in bed. Self inflicted though, treated myself to a bit of a nip and tuck and grossly underestimated just how much it would knock me around.

Its the anaesthetic that's the killer...or so I have found....and in my case, two in less than a week more than triples the whack....

Still... when its flushed from the system and you are back up and partying, you discover how fantastic you are feeling....

Hope Mr Kiss is keeping you well cared for....

 

[Kiss Me]

Its the anaesthetic that's the killer...or so I have found....and in my case, two in less than a week more than triples the whack....

Still... when its flushed from the system and you are back up and partying, you discover how fantastic you are feeling....

Hope Mr Kiss is keeping you well cared for....

Can't wait to feel like myself again, especially when I can then appreciate the changes that I just paid a freaking fortune for.

Mr Kiss is being great, he's extra motivated to look after me and make life wonderful for this first lot since round two next year will be some upper body work he's really looking forward to.

 

[australwind]

Can't wait to feel like myself again, especially when I can then appreciate the changes that I just paid a freaking fortune for.

Mr Kiss is being great, he's extra motivated to look after me and make life wonderful for this first lot since round two next year will be some upper body work he's really looking forward to.

Of course!!!!

Just a clue... keep some Bio Oil to hand to massage into the scars.... helps the healing and makes the skin nice and supple.

 

[Gil_T2]

Hi sweet, how've you been? Can you do me a favour and stop saying rain would be nice? It's back and I am less than impressed. I was enjoying the damn sun.

I'll willingly donate some of Sydneys Rain too not that I have a problem with rain it's just spoiling my plans for fun.

 

[Gil_T2]

Seems your problem is making news here in sunny Victoria as well.....

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/foster-carers-left-out-of-loop-on-schooling-20120201-1qteq.html

This is from today's paper....and there's another article regarding children in residential care not being given the chance to complete schooling....it seems that someone has to stand up and make sure that the rights of children to an education should be protected no matter whose care they find themselves in....after all, it is rarely the fault of the child that they find themselves at the mercy of an overstressed government system that doesn't seem to have the best interests of the child as its guiding principle.

Kudos to you, Ms Moon, for taking up the challenge of ensuring your "house guest" stands a chance of getting a good start in life.

I'd also like to say to MzMoon that she is welcome to rant here when ever you feel the need & as Astral said Kudos to you for stepping up for this young person when so many just turn their backs & hope the problem goes away.

I suspect the ACA & the Ch7 version might well jump on a story like this & they also jump on the pollies, agencies & all who should be stepping up to help this young person not become one of the wasted generation.

 

[Gil_T2]

Austral & Kiss, I hope your healing is quick & your both feeling much better very soon.

 

[australwind]

Austral & Kiss, I hope your healing is quick & your both feeling much better very soon.

Thank you, Gil, I'm much improved.... now get some sleep!!!!

 

[warrior queen]

oops I missed trisk's birthday!
Happy (late) birthday - hope you had a great day

Austral and kiss me - sending thoughts for a speedy recovery

And good morning to everyone else!
I've been a bit slack posting in aussies... Lots going on, and spending a bit of time with the animals on the gb

Not much happening here today. A bit of housework, a bit of cooking, might re-dye my hair (a shade darker as I'm not really happy with the lighter brown) and then I will spend another few hours trying to get used to all the new functions on my new tablet (got it free with my new internet service!)

I gave the youngest kidlet my old one. He says he loves me just a little bit more now!
Kids - they say the damndest things

Oh, and I forced the child support agency to investigate the bastardex - he's working, but claiming to still be on the minimum wage so he only hasmto pay me $1/day!
Asshole

 

[Gil_T2]

Thank you, Gil, I'm much improved.... now get some sleep!!!!

Good to hear Austral & I did get a good sleep for me went to bed just after 4am & up to watch the 8am news.

 

[Gil_T2]

oops I missed trisk's birthday!
Happy (late) birthday - hope you had a great day

Austral and kiss me - sending thoughts for a speedy recovery

And good morning to everyone else!
I've been a bit slack posting in aussies... Lots going on, and spending a bit of time with the animals on the gb

Not much happening here today. A bit of housework, a bit of cooking, might re-dye my hair (a shade darker as I'm not really happy with the lighter brown) and then I will spend another few hours trying to get used to all the new functions on my new tablet (got it free with my new internet service!)

I gave the youngest kidlet my old one. He says he loves me just a little bit more now!
Kids - they say the damndest things

Oh, and I forced the child support agency to investigate the bastardex - he's working, but claiming to still be on the minimum wage so he only hasmto pay me $1/day!
Asshole

Went through this with my Ex wife chasing her Ex for money for THEIR son but he claimed to be unemployed so she gave them the name of the company he worked for, where he lived etc & she was told that they wanted her to find out even more info for them so they didn't have to get off their over paid arses, I hear this from so many on both sides of the deal, hope you have a lot more luck than she did.

 

[warrior queen]

Went through this with my Ex wife chasing her Ex for money for THEIR son but he claimed to be unemployed so she gave them the name of the company he worked for, where he lived etc & she was told that they wanted her to find out even more info for them so they didn't have to get off their over paid arses, I hear this from so many on both sides of the deal, hope you have a lot more luck than she did.

I heard today on the grapevine that he's selling his house. Can't afford the repayments.
I kinda felt guilty - for about 2.5 seconds! - then I remembered that when he had the kids, he used to send me acounts for half the costs for a toothbrush, lunchbox, socks, etc.
Then the guilt magically disappeared, I poured another bourbon, and toasted his (and the American bitch-wife's) downfall

It's a good day

 

[Orlanth]

In hospital agaiñ

 

[enrapturedmoon]

You are A/all so wonderful. Thank you for your kind words of support.

@Astral , Yes, the Department of Child Safety up here leaves much to be desired. I know it isn't an easy job, damn, I worked in a similiar agency years ago, but every single time I have had to have contact wtih them, it's like butting your head against a very thick and indifferent wall.

As for the kudos...I could never turn my back on a child in need, especially one who is alone and needing support. Have had many over the years and my home is always open to all. She is a lovely young woman, so it makes me struggle to understand her Mother. Goodness knows my own child drives me to the brink of madness at times and I've not been perfect with her. But you love them and hold them in your arms and heart. If every Mother turned out their teenage child as they outstayed their curfew, the streets would be packed....gees, I would have been homeless most of my later teenage years..mind you, my Mother still had curfews in place when I was 18. Even when I moved home in my late twenties for awhile she would question my coming home at 3am. sighs....times do change, thankfully.

@Triskie , Thank you for your words of support too, you truly are such a sweet person and I can't wait to meet you in May. I do love reading your posts, you add a little lightness to the world.

@Mr Gil, as always your caring and words are received with gratitude.


WQ, Bloody CSA are useless bastards. I don't understand how they let some men get away with it and persecute those who are willing and wanting to pay. Brother and his ex slagwhore (damn, did I say that out loud?) had an arrangement, then she got smart and gave up work so that he'd have to pay more. He lived on bananas and custard and what we gave him, and battled depression while she had her nails done, hair streaked and drank $100 bottles of wine in the latest restaurants. Everytime the kids came here we had to buy them proper clothing as she told them their father wouldn't support them. So hard to hold the tongue for those years, but now they have all left her and know the truth. But then my oldest daughter is in the same boat as you, her ex hasn't paid her more than 1000 dollars all up in 18 years. How do they figure their formulas? How dare they play God with families?

@Orlanth, Gees in the wars again? How are you? How long are you in hospital for? Sending you healing thoughts, mend quickly.

Well been a calmer week, still trying to find a place for the girl which is long term and appropriate. Seems every youth housing agency requires them to pay a percentage of their pay. Fine..I agree, life is not free and they need living skills. But a child who works for a hungry fast food place and earns roughly 8 dollars an hour is not accruing enough money in a part time position to support herself in school, work and cover living costs. There is a gap in service provision. Those who wish to continue with schooling but have no home, who are in the age group that the Department has no to little Foster carers in....they just fall through the cracks. Then they wonder why so many are on the streets and the attrition rates for attaining year 12 are down. sighs.

On a lighter note, actually went out last night, my first time in so long. The angel rats (the girls) were both working so I jumped the offer of a friend to attend a women's play party....smiles.

Was so proud of myself as this needle phobe, actually experienced her first needle play session....only five in the upper left breast...but it was an experience....and I didn't blub, faint or chatter inanely. Yay me! Got to wear the new leather corset, today my ribs are achey....oh well the price of vanity..smiles.

Hope the weekend if one of wicked fun for A/all.

Promises to drop by and just be fun for awhile...boring myself with my whining

MsMoon

 

[warrior queen]

You are A/all so wonderful. Thank you for your kind words of support.

@Astral , Yes, the Department of Child Safety up here leaves much to be desired. I know it isn't an easy job, damn, I worked in a similiar agency years ago, but every single time I have had to have contact wtih them, it's like butting your head against a very thick and indifferent wall.

As for the kudos...I could never turn my back on a child in need, especially one who is alone and needing support. Have had many over the years and my home is always open to all. She is a lovely young woman, so it makes me struggle to understand her Mother. Goodness knows my own child drives me to the brink of madness at times and I've not been perfect with her. But you love them and hold them in your arms and heart. If every Mother turned out their teenage child as they outstayed their curfew, the streets would be packed....gees, I would have been homeless most of my later teenage years..mind you, my Mother still had curfews in place when I was 18. Even when I moved home in my late twenties for awhile she would question my coming home at 3am. sighs....times do change, thankfully.

@Triskie , Thank you for your words of support too, you truly are such a sweet person and I can't wait to meet you in May. I do love reading your posts, you add a little lightness to the world.

@Mr Gil, as always your caring and words are received with gratitude.


WQ, Bloody CSA are useless bastards. I don't understand how they let some men get away with it and persecute those who are willing and wanting to pay. Brother and his ex slagwhore (damn, did I say that out loud?) had an arrangement, then she got smart and gave up work so that he'd have to pay more. He lived on bananas and custard and what we gave him, and battled depression while she had her nails done, hair streaked and drank $100 bottles of wine in the latest restaurants. Everytime the kids came here we had to buy them proper clothing as she told them their father wouldn't support them. So hard to hold the tongue for those years, but now they have all left her and know the truth. But then my oldest daughter is in the same boat as you, her ex hasn't paid her more than 1000 dollars all up in 18 years. How do they figure their formulas? How dare they play God with families?

@Orlanth, Gees in the wars again? How are you? How long are you in hospital for? Sending you healing thoughts, mend quickly.

Well been a calmer week, still trying to find a place for the girl which is long term and appropriate. Seems every youth housing agency requires them to pay a percentage of their pay. Fine..I agree, life is not free and they need living skills. But a child who works for a hungry fast food place and earns roughly 8 dollars an hour is not accruing enough money in a part time position to support herself in school, work and cover living costs. There is a gap in service provision. Those who wish to continue with schooling but have no home, who are in the age group that the Department has no to little Foster carers in....they just fall through the cracks. Then they wonder why so many are on the streets and the attrition rates for attaining year 12 are down. sighs.

On a lighter note, actually went out last night, my first time in so long. The angel rats (the girls) were both working so I jumped the offer of a friend to attend a women's play party....smiles.

Was so proud of myself as this needle phobe, actually experienced her first needle play session....only five in the upper left breast...but it was an experience....and I didn't blub, faint or chatter inanely. Yay me! Got to wear the new leather corset, today my ribs are achey....oh well the price of vanity..smiles.

Hope the weekend if one of wicked fun for A/all.

Promises to drop by and just be fun for awhile...boring myself with my whining

MsMoon

Ms Moon

I don't know whereabouts you are exactly, but Baptcare and Anglicare here work together and have what's called the SUPPORTED YOUTH PROGRAM.
It's a full care system for out-of-home teens.
My daugter got in it when she refused to return home (with a little help from me - ringing around, etc.)
They help with housing, education, life skills, etc.
Might be worth a call.

 

[Gil_T2]

Ms Moon

I don't know whereabouts you are exactly, but Baptcare and Anglicare here work together and have what's called the SUPPORTED YOUTH PROGRAM.
It's a full care system for out-of-home teens.
My daugter got in it when she refused to return home (with a little help from me - ringing around, etc.)
They help with housing, education, life skills, etc.
Might be worth a call.

Shame that the charities have to pick up the slack left with inefficient government agencies even though the charities are struggling to cope leaving lots of kids & adults falling through the gaps.

 

[Gil_T2]

You are A/all so wonderful. Thank you for your kind words of support.

@Astral , Yes, the Department of Child Safety up here leaves much to be desired. I know it isn't an easy job, damn, I worked in a similiar agency years ago, but every single time I have had to have contact wtih them, it's like butting your head against a very thick and indifferent wall.

As for the kudos...I could never turn my back on a child in need, especially one who is alone and needing support. Have had many over the years and my home is always open to all. She is a lovely young woman, so it makes me struggle to understand her Mother. Goodness knows my own child drives me to the brink of madness at times and I've not been perfect with her. But you love them and hold them in your arms and heart. If every Mother turned out their teenage child as they outstayed their curfew, the streets would be packed....gees, I would have been homeless most of my later teenage years..mind you, my Mother still had curfews in place when I was 18. Even when I moved home in my late twenties for awhile she would question my coming home at 3am. sighs....times do change, thankfully.

@Triskie , Thank you for your words of support too, you truly are such a sweet person and I can't wait to meet you in May. I do love reading your posts, you add a little lightness to the world.

@Mr Gil, as always your caring and words are received with gratitude.


WQ, Bloody CSA are useless bastards. I don't understand how they let some men get away with it and persecute those who are willing and wanting to pay. Brother and his ex slagwhore (damn, did I say that out loud?) had an arrangement, then she got smart and gave up work so that he'd have to pay more. He lived on bananas and custard and what we gave him, and battled depression while she had her nails done, hair streaked and drank $100 bottles of wine in the latest restaurants. Everytime the kids came here we had to buy them proper clothing as she told them their father wouldn't support them. So hard to hold the tongue for those years, but now they have all left her and know the truth. But then my oldest daughter is in the same boat as you, her ex hasn't paid her more than 1000 dollars all up in 18 years. How do they figure their formulas? How dare they play God with families?

@Orlanth, Gees in the wars again? How are you? How long are you in hospital for? Sending you healing thoughts, mend quickly.

Well been a calmer week, still trying to find a place for the girl which is long term and appropriate. Seems every youth housing agency requires them to pay a percentage of their pay. Fine..I agree, life is not free and they need living skills. But a child who works for a hungry fast food place and earns roughly 8 dollars an hour is not accruing enough money in a part time position to support herself in school, work and cover living costs. There is a gap in service provision. Those who wish to continue with schooling but have no home, who are in the age group that the Department has no to little Foster carers in....they just fall through the cracks. Then they wonder why so many are on the streets and the attrition rates for attaining year 12 are down. sighs.

On a lighter note, actually went out last night, my first time in so long. The angel rats (the girls) were both working so I jumped the offer of a friend to attend a women's play party....smiles.

Was so proud of myself as this needle phobe, actually experienced her first needle play session....only five in the upper left breast...but it was an experience....and I didn't blub, faint or chatter inanely. Yay me! Got to wear the new leather corset, today my ribs are achey....oh well the price of vanity..smiles.

Hope the weekend if one of wicked fun for A/all.

Promises to drop by and just be fun for awhile...boring myself with my whining

MsMoon

MzMoon, It seems to me that all government agencies operate on stuff the people around enough & they will give up & go away.

Now when do we get the new AV with you in the leather corset?

By the way MzMoon I have never ever found you boring & looking forward to meeting you in may.