Are you?

[kiwisub]

Where are all those Dominant strong women I dream of.

 

[Enji]

um..sleeping, lurking and being passed over for being nice? I dont' think you've ever approched me.

I tend not to advertise, my intentions about finding a sub. As well i'm generally patient and friendly, so i don't take a aggressive stance when I approch subs, I rather get to know them and assess their needs. But then they tend to be snatched up quickly, or disapear.

Hope everyone is having a good night!

p.s
I'm looking for a female sub right now, to get to know and explore possiblities with(shameless ad). Heh i love teasing and joking around too..

 

[WriterDom]

Good morning

 

[Sweet_n_Curious]

Good afternoon and hello to everyone! I'm a female sub/curious and most often a *very shy* lurker. I love reading the posts, all of your thoughts and experiences, the wonderful questions and discussions and figured it was time to contribute a little something.

I have very little experience, OL or IRL, though I have just experienced a few *very exciting* firsts and I must say it was everything I hoped it would be and more. I'm excited by all the possiblities and experiences waiting for me out there and all the knowledge to be learned and am so glad to have found the Lit community.

I wish you all the best of luck; in your relationships, lives, and especially to those of you looking for that special person/persons/relationship or whatever is it you're looking for, here's hoping you find it!

Ever Sweet,
Always Curious

 

[riiayn]

hi

definitely a curious sub, looking for the answers by reading the boards & chatting.

 

[Tngdude2]

Dallas Male Dom

I am not sure exactly where I fall. I love to take control. To take a woman farther then she has been before. I love making her fantasies come true. It is not about pain or humiliation for me. I love giving a spanking and yes a little pain is fun but not what I am all about. I love taking a beautiful woman out for the night.. showing her off, letting others flirt with her, maybe invite someone or some others back to enjoy her. I don't think I fall completely into the Dom category, because I don't seek complete control. Just when it comes to the fulfillment of fantasies and desires. If you are looking for a man to push you and make you confront your desires.. I am the one.....

 

[secretkitten]

I picked sub curious because I have a generally submissive personality, and most of my fantasies are as a sub, but I'm a little bit fascinated with some of the things a Domme does- maybe switch?

 

[secretkitten]

I'm looking for a female sub right now, to get to know and explore possiblities with(shameless ad). Heh i love teasing and joking around too..

Oh, Enji, there's a female sub curious here calling your name...

 

[Netzach]

Femme dom. I switched for many years, finding the domination in submission that everyone always talks about, but my current bottom has me whipped, and I love topping him like I love cake.

Just like she said, are you my long lost twin?


I'm here for the drama. And if there's a cute 30something femsub in a 200 mile radius that wants occasional spankies I might be game.

 

[molly_hunter28]

Voted Sub-Curious

Is there such a thing as a closet sub? If so that may be me. Not sure how to break it to my significant other. He may not be in to it, which would be a bummer.

Any ideas?

 

[neonflux]

Is there such a thing as a closet sub? If so that may be me. Not sure how to break it to my significant other. He may not be in to it, which would be a bummer.

Any ideas?

Hi Molly, I have just bumped a thread that is more about dealing with a lover who is vanilla rather than breaking the news to an SO that you want to explore BDSM, but there is some discussion of both (one mention - giving her/him the book "When someone you love is kinky." Have decided to get it for my primary who is not completely vanilla but who I don't believe has it in him to go where I would desire him to go...).

Anyway, here is the link (will be posting there later):

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=200608

Oh, and to answer the original question: I am a woman who switches...

 

[WriterDom]

Is there such a thing as a closet sub? If so that may be me. Not sure how to break it to my significant other. He may not be in to it, which would be a bummer.

Any ideas?

You could ask.

 

[myinnerslut]

the number of options on this poll just keeps increasing....

 

[neonflux]

oh, i just noticed a choice for same sex only.... does that mean that if you opt for this options all other options are then closed to you? hmmm......

 

[intothewoods]

I'm a sub (I've not had quite as much on skin contact as I would like, but I've had some, so I'm going to allow myself to escape the "curious" label), but I'm Top-curious? What is that called?

I have no interest in being a Domme. Well, no, I just couldn't hack it! I just want to give a few spankings and send them out the door. Playtime only.

 

[StrapFantasy]

I put myself down as sub curious, though I'm never really sure how to classify myself. Some aspects of the BDSM world turn me on beyond words, yet many others don't. I wouldn't mind at all if she tied me up and had her way with me. I dream of bending over so she can take me with a strap on, or bottoms together with a double dildo. But pain, punishment, humiliation... those kind of things just aren't my thing. I want her to take lead, to control where the sex goes, to choose what she wants me to do to her - and her to me, but outside of the bedroom, I consider us equals.

I've often wondered how I should define myself, but more I think about it, the less sure I am.

 

[Richard49]

I put myself down as sub curious, though I'm never really sure how to classify myself. Some aspects of the BDSM world turn me on beyond words, yet many others don't. I wouldn't mind at all if she tied me up and had her way with me. I dream of bending over so she can take me with a strap on, or bottoms together with a double dildo. But pain, punishment, humiliation... those kind of things just aren't my thing. I want her to take lead, to control where the sex goes, to choose what she wants me to do to her - and her to me, but outside of the bedroom, I consider us equals.

I've often wondered how I should define myself, but more I think about it, the less sure I am.

Sounds like you may be a bottom rather than a submissive

 

[StrapFantasy]

Sounds like you may be a bottom rather than a submissive

Interesting you should mention that. The two words appear to be used interchangeably. Is there a specific difference?

 

[CutieMouse]

Interesting you should mention that. The two words appear to be used interchangeably. Is there a specific difference?

Generally speaking, bottoms give up power for a specific time period, under specific conditions- for example, Evil_Geoff is a Dominant, but he has mentioned bottoming to raise money for charity or as part of the learning process when adding a new skill to his relationship.

Submissives are also bottoming, but it's kind of like "the next level" (although I don't like to compare things like that, as it feels elitist), in a similar way to the difference between someone who self-identifies as a submissive, versus a slave.

 

[StrapFantasy]

Generally speaking, bottoms give up power for a specific time period, under specific conditions- for example, Evil_Geoff is a Dominant, but he has mentioned bottoming to raise money for charity or as part of the learning process when adding a new skill to his relationship.

Submissives are also bottoming, but it's kind of like "the next level" (although I don't like to compare things like that, as it feels elitist), in a similar way to the difference between someone who self-identifies as a submissive, versus a slave.

Thanks. So the difference is, then, the fact that it is not a permanent, ongoing thing, but temporary, or momentary, or situational, for lack of better terms? I was thinking perhaps the difference was I excluded certain things that are often associated with submission - the pain, punishment, humiliation, etc.

When I first saw the comment about me being perhaps a bottom, I did a Google and, beyond the conventional definitions, I found the definition "passive". I'm not sure I'd apply that term to myself, either. It doesn't feel passive, anyway.

 

[the_pet]

slave/pet
.... or maybe pet slave

 

[SparkleFish]

I'm somewhere inbetween female sub and sub-curious. Tried some stuff, nothing too daring. My boyfriend and I mingle in the bdsm area quite a lot, and I'm always looking for more information.