Are you the universal wife?

[bluespoke]

Ladies.

Don't you get pissed when your husbands refer to you as

'the wife'.

Do you want to scream 'I am an individual not the universal wife'.

Guys.

Why can you not refer to your lady wife as 'my wife' rather than the semi derogatory 'the wife'.

I admit many years ago I was guilty too. A few sharp smacks round the head soon cured me.

Have some respect for your ladies.

 

[alltherage]

Ladies.

Don't you get pissed when your husbands refer to you as

'the wife'.

Do you want to scream 'I am an individual not the universal wife'.

Guys.

Why can you not refer to your lady wife as 'my wife' rather than the semi derogatory 'the wife'.

I admit many years ago I was guilty too. A few sharp smacks round the head soon cured me.

Have some respect for your ladies.

I was, and never will be the wife. I am not property and will not be treated as such.

 

[Wiggles]

I guess it's better than " The Old Lady" or "My Old Man".

 

[mig]

Once I introduced my wife as 'My Mistress',in the Dom sense.

That didn't earn me any favours.

 

[perks]

ugh....yes.

he calls me "wifey".....he introduces me as "wifey".....all of his employees call me "wifey".....I doubt if they even know my name.

I don't think I remember the last time he even used my name. wifey, baby or mommy....

thanks for bringing this up...it makes me feel so much better

perks

 

[Merelan]

I am proud when introduced as his wife, though he also adds my name, and makes sure people pronounce it correctly.

 

[Jacqline]

Congrats, bluespoke, for bringing up this subject. There is much truth to the old adage that you get more with honey than you do with vinegar...............showing respect for your partner benefits you in many ways...............

 

[TheDR4KE]

Guys.

Why can you not refer to your lady wife as 'my wife' rather than the semi derogatory 'the wife'.

It's definitely 'my wife <insert her first name here>'. She has a name. She has her own identity.

I couldn't imagine saying just 'my wife', let alone 'the wife'.

Drake

 

[seulreveur]

Thankfully, my husband does not refer to me this way... I would definately be offended!

I guess men would really love it if we called them, 'the husband'. It is so impersonal and cold, IMO...

 

[Nicodemus]

Personnaly I think it best to use the tried and true....this is my better half,(insert name......

Nic,

 

[lovetoread]

I have for the last 12 years of my life been referred to and talked to as the "wife". People who worked with my ex never called me by name,just referred to me as "His" wife. Until a few months ago,I thought nothing of it,as it has always been the way it was. I just discovered recently that hey,underneath the wife and mother tags was a woman with her own needs. Now I am in limbo land. I am nothing to anyone in the legal sense,and boy what a difference life is now. People actually have to use my name now.

 

[girl]

I dunno...this term doesn't offend me in itself. I'm not married yet, but I don't have a particular problem with his referring to me as 'the wife.' I'd prefer to be actually introduced by my name, but in conversations, it doesn't really bug me. Even if he introduced me that way, I don't think I'd have much of a problem with it. After all 'the wife' basically means 'the one and only'...at least, that's how I see it. I guess I just don't get worked up about it because he's not disrespectful in any manner, so it's not offensive to me if he phrases it that way.

girl

 

[Elizabeth]

Re: Re: Are you the universal wife?

I was, and never will be the wife. I am not property and will not be treated as such.

Yep.

 

[Gilly Bean]

I have been referred to as "The Wife", but have never found it to be insulting. Usually, in the terms where we refer to one another as The hubby, or The Wife, it's with friends, and in a joking manner.

 

[TexasAngel28]

Once I introduced my wife as 'My Mistress',in the Dom sense.

That didn't earn me any favours.

Gee, I wonder why.....

My husband did the same thing and slept on the couch for a week afterwards. Needless to say, he never did it agian.

 

[mig]

Gee, I wonder why.....

My husband did the same thing and slept on the couch for a week afterwards. Needless to say, he never did it agian.

The couch is fine.

I usually end up in the barn.

 

[TexasAngel28]

The couch is fine.

I usually end up in the barn.

The barn?

Hmmm...Barns can be fun...in a dominating sense of fun that is? Least from my perspective anyway...I mean you've got stables and hay and things to hang from...nope, never mind. I can't get worked up now. Got things to see and people to do...or is it people to see and things to do?

 

[SweetCherry]

I guess it's better than " The Old Lady" or "My Old Man".

Oh, god, I hated being called that, but no matter how often I said that, my ex never once got it thru his thick skull that I took it as an insult. He never even would adress me as my own name when we were talking. It was just look at me and start talking. And he wondered why I got sick of the crap.

 

[Gilly Bean]

I never did understand making a spouse sleep on the couch.

Really, I mean, if you love each other, there really shouldn't be anything that can happen to make you so mad at the other, that you want them physically seperated from you.

I have been married nearly 4 years, we have 3 children, and we only sleep apart if one of us is gone for the night. We go to bed angry once ina while, but it's still together, and we still wake up snuggled together.

What's the point in being married, if you don't want, or need that?
Why physically punish a spouse because of some comment, or action that was done in jest?

 

[J.B.]

I admit many years ago I was guilty too. A few sharp smacks round the head soon cured me.

woo hooo ...
you wife sure knew how to fix that problem didn't she?
lol
well to tell you the truth I never put much thought in to it... I know I don't want to be see as an apendage that's for sure... but I guess it's all in the tone of voice you use & what context you're useing it in..
in spanish there's a phrase for your significant other & that's

peor es nada (I'm not sure I spelled that right)

basically It's better than nothing
now this is said with a lot of love... but well it doesn't sound like it does it??

 

[Calamity Jane]

I never did understand making a spouse sleep on the couch.

Really, I mean, if you love each other, there really shouldn't be anything that can happen to make you so mad at the other, that you want them physically seperated from you.

I have been married nearly 4 years, we have 3 children, and we only sleep apart if one of us is gone for the night.

That's very cool for you Gilly... but sometimes when I'm pissed off, then it's safer for both of us if we're in seperate rooms. Besides, sometimes sleeping alone and hogging the whole bed and all the covers is WONDERFUL!

 

[J.B.]

That's very cool for you Gilly... but sometimes when I'm pissed off, then it's safer for both of us if we're in seperate rooms. Besides, sometimes sleeping alone and hogging the whole bed and all the covers is WONDERFUL!

Well, My BF & I made a pack to never go to bed mad @ eachother... so if one of us is pissed off the other one gets to nag & nag until it comes out in to the open & we can figure it out... No Couch! No 2nd Bedroom!

 

[P. B. Walker]

I know a woman who calls her husband (almost exclusively) by DOT (Dick on Tap). The DOT this... the DOT that... we can call the DOT... Oh wait, let me get the DOT... The other day the DOT said... Sorry the DOT won't let me... Me and the DOT have plans... Hey DOT, get your ass in here...

I guess he didn't mind it much though... what man would I wonder? Reduced to a penis... mmm. lol

- PBW

 

[J.B.]

what man would I wonder? Reduced to a penis... mmm. lol

- PBW

I'll keep that in mind