Are you Ever Tempted????

[lorddragonwolf]

right now with the way hubby is treating me i could say yes to just about any man right ow, maybe even woman

well lets see you me and my wife sound good?

 

[Howling_Ire]

well ya I figured that. My point is, i think a lot of people would be very hurt by the idea of their partner having sex with someone else, especially if they hold sex in very high regard. For someone who sees monogamy as the only way, its hard to see how this would ever work out and be ok.

if monogomy is held in a high reguard, and someone is very posessive an open relationship isn't going to work. now i will say holding sex in high reguard dosen't nessicaly mean someone won't be ok with thier partner seeing other people. Honestly sex should be held in a high reguard, misused it can hurt alot of feelings, and cause alot of problems. which is why if you have an open relationship you have to be honest with the person you're with, and understanding. After all an open realtionship/swinging/poly isn't about just doing everyone who comes down the pike you find attractive. You have to watcch out for several things, expecaly stuff like std's.

As for monogomy. i do think it's a bit of an outdated concept. AS said before the main reason for marrage is oudated land deals. th ier are also some religions who preach about monogmy in marrage, and once about a time i'mm sure it had somethign to do with knowing who the father of your son and heir is. I mean yo udon't want joe blow's kid to be inheriting your riches, while your real second son is up shit creek with out a paddle.

I think that an open relationship is a great way to explore yourself, and for your partner to explore him/her self sexualy. I don't think thier is one person on earth whom you are expected to spend your life with, and i don't think that god is going to send me to hell for haveing sex with people other then my S/o. no.. of course for this i had to find a man to sp end my life with who understands and agree's with my feelings, and who is wonderful enough to keep me wanting to come home, i'm sure that i have, and i'mm sure thier will be other people who i will share myself with in many ways. Now if this isn't for you, that's fine, if it is, what's your phone number? j/k

AS for fanstisy lives, they are great, where else can i be a rich, beautiful princess who's a size zero, and 6 feet tall? haha

 

[ReadyOne]

What about PEA junkies?

PEA (phenylethylamine, aka "the love hormone") gives that wonderful feeling you have for the first few months with a new lover and tends to blind you to any problems in the relationship.

We eventually figured out that my sister in law must be a PEA junkie, because after 6 months with someone she just has take a new lover. Sometimes she will keep the current onehave someone on the side for a while or until things get complicated (e.g. the original guy gets pissed).

Ocassionally she just up and leave one she is living with and not give any warning at all. They generally had no idea and wonder what they were doing wrong. She did this to one who (aparently) could have been a wonderful marriage partner.

So, how much "temptation" is for an increase in PEA levels?

 

[ReadyOne]

I've come to the conclusion that I'm a thread killer. Too many times I seem to have the last post on a dead thread.

How do I break this jinx?

 

[TwasBrillig]

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and I suppose thats a relatively short period of time compared to years and years of marriage but I could never imagine being turned on by anyone else. I can see men, and find them physically pleasing but I never have any thoughts beyond shallow things like "nice hair" or "pretty eyes" My boyfriend is my heart. He's the only man I've ever had sex with, the only man I ever intend to have sex with and the only man who makes me happy...physically and emotionally. I don't think its necessarily wrong to fantasize about other people, but I dont have the desire to.