Are you Ever Tempted????

[Rashashea]

There are some guys that my hubby works with that flirt very suggestively with me, in front of him and behind his back sometimes and I have to admit it really gets my juices flowing. I have often fantasized about meeting up with one of them and then I feel guilty. Do you all have these fantasies?

 

[jeepman6]

Fantasize about it yes, in all shapes and forms and then I take it all home and give my wife the good hard fucking she so deserves because she is the one who stands with me through every thing that life has to throw at us and the fantasy ones don't.

 

[Bobmi357]

I'll have to agree with JM6 here.

When you already have a good thing, why ruin it by playing around? An hour or two of fun isn't worth losing the respect of your best friend/lover/spouse.

 

[BlueSugar]

Fantasys, thoughts, ideas, how when where, plans.... definetly. But I don't go through with it, though there have been some exceptions in the past. oi, amazingly wonderfly absolutely bad times... I want to grin but it was all so 'bad' so thats that. Don't ruin a good thing, but completly ruin a thing gone bad.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[Etoile]

Yes, of course, everyone has fantasies like these. It's acting on them that's the problem. Trust me. I'd never do it (again).

 

[Lust Engine]

Keeping the sanctity of a fantasy can be much more rewarding than fulfilling one at times.

Those few moments of unbridled passion aren't worth it. Once the fantasy is over, the magic is gone & you're left with reality and a mate that might never trust you again.

Keep it at a fantasy.

 

[ldlarry52]

Fantasy is best. You can have everything go exactly as you want, nobody gets hurt, everyone goes home happy. I have tried acting on some fantasizes to one degree or another. I have found I have little or no control of the situation or outcome. A hot idea is hard to turn into reality.
Writing about fantasy is even more fun. I have posted several here and I have throughly enjoyed writing each. I am able to experience things I can't in real life. Fantasy is hot.
LDLarry52

 

[sheath]

There are some guys that my hubby works with that flirt very suggestively with me, in front of him and behind his back sometimes and I have to admit it really gets my juices flowing. I have often fantasized about meeting up with one of them and then I feel guilty. Do you all have these fantasies?

Hell fucking YES.

There is one particular guy that my Music Man is close friends with...and oh my god, when he's around I get wet just thinking about how nice it would be to take the place of his guitar. I wonder how it would feel to have those hands on me like that.

But would I ever act on it? No fucking way. My man knows I fantasize about this guy, and he doesn't mind it one bit. In fact, he teases me about it, especially when that guy is around, just to make me blush and beg him to stop it. But fantasy is as far as it goes, ever.

There have even been times when we are playing with toys in bed, and my man will whisper in my ear something along the lines of: "Wouldn't you love to fuck ***** right now?" And it sets us both off. I think that maybe the Music Man has a little crush on him, himself. But I digress...

Don't feel guilty about the fantasies. If you decide to act on them, then by all means, feel guilty as hell.

S.

 

[DirtyJJ]

There are some guys that my hubby works with that flirt very suggestively with me, in front of him and behind his back sometimes and I have to admit it really gets my juices flowing. I have often fantasized about meeting up with one of them and then I feel guilty. Do you all have these fantasies?

Yes, yes, and YES!!!
I don't think it is unhealthy to have these fantasies. I think it is very normal to think about it, and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. But, acting on it is another story. I agree with most of the other posters here... fantasy is best. I have been tempted to give in to the fantasy and try it for real, but never have. Instead, I just enjoy the way it makes me feel and I write about it.

Lucky for me the hubby likes to hear about other guys that I either have been with or might want to be with, which makes for some nice dirty talk in bed.

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Re: Are you Ever Tempted????

Lucky for me the hubby likes to hear about other guys that I either have been with or might want to be with, which makes for some nice dirty talk in bed.

Oh to be a fly on YOUR walls & hear all the dirty talk!

But I agree wholeheartedly about how fantasies are extremely healthy. But fantasies should also be an extremely private matter when they're of the sexual nature too. They should only be shared with someone who wouldn't be hurt or feel violated.

 

[Vixandra]

I'm with the rest of the group. Fantasys are a wonderful thing! And some lovers can handle hearing it if its about someone else then others. That's a personal level thing.
Don't think I'd tell hubby that I'm yearning after a specific guy- but could do some role playing and be fine. Or if it was a woman I could tell him so- but that's strickly fantasy that won't happen "unless he gets to watch."
All depends on you and your beloved's comfort and tolerance levels. Good luck!

 

[Lust Engine]

I've been tempted to buy a Lamborghini everytime I pass by their showroom too, but I also know the repercussions if I actually did it.

So think about the major implications you might unearth if you do follow up on these temptations.

 

[sheath]

I've been tempted to buy a Lamborghini everytime I pass by their showroom too, but I also know the repercussions if I actually did it.

Lamborghini?

Repercussions?

S.

(who has a weakness for very sleek cars that go very, very fast)

 

[sheath]

Fantasize about it yes, in all shapes and forms and then I take it all home and give my wife the good hard fucking she so deserves because she is the one who stands with me through every thing that life has to throw at us and the fantasy ones don't.

Damn, but I like that answer.

S.

 

[Lust Engine]

Lamborghini?

Repercussions?

S.

(who has a weakness for very sleek cars that go very, very fast)

My repercussions would be financial. While I'd be the coolest four wheels around town I probably wouldn't be able to afford ramen noodles for dinner for the next five years!

 

[sheath]

My repercussions would be financial. While I'd be the coolest four wheels around town I probably wouldn't be able to afford ramen noodles for dinner for the next five years!

Good point. A starving man in a Lamborghini kinda destroys the sexiness of the situation!

S.

 

[Lust Engine]

Good point. A starving man in a Lamborghini kinda destroys the sexiness of the situation!

S.

And nothing against ramen noodles either.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Am I ever tempted?
Daily!
But you must keep in mind what really matters to you.
Fantasy is titillating and flirting with others makes you feel just so damn irresistable. It's a great boost for self-esteem that's why we enjoy it so.
And honestly, I don't think that we were born to be monogamous creatures, but the societal mindset has led us to believe this is how nature intended it. Although, I think that idea is shifting. Oops! I digress!
Anyway, as long as fantasy remains just that it's harmless. It's when you act upon these impulses or when the fantasy becomes more of a reality than what's actually before you that you will be in touble.
And, no, I don't speak from experience!

 

[James G 5]

Whatta bunch of monogamy-centerist thinking
How depressingly typical
This is a BAD idea, for 2 reasons...one, you're implying you'd be doing it behind your hubby's back, and lying & deception are always bad...2, you sleeping with one of his co-workers is almost as bad as him doing it as far as the implications it could have for his job
Having said that, fantasies about someone other than your mate are normal & healthy, AND if you have a strong relationship and can do it openly and honestly AND handle him doing the same there's NOTHING wrong with acting on the fantasies
Done correctly, it can satisfy urges that might otherwise leave you feeling unhappy or unsatisfied
If you're feeling them strongly, repressing them might only make you more miserable (repression of sexuality is one of the leading causes of sexual dysfunction of all sorts, not to mention general misery)
So, if you feel your hubby could handle the idea of others, and you're willing to extend him the same freedom, maybe you should talk to him about opening things up
If things are handled properly, it can actually increase the closeness and intimacy between the 2 of you, especially if you find ways to act out fantasies with another that involve you both (i.e. you take a trip out of town to join him for a "business conference" {not a REAL one!} and he "shares" you with a "client" to close a deal)
Is it easy or without problems? Of course not! But then neither is a "monogamous" relationship that's likely to either end over "irreconcilable differences", or go long term but, statistically, with both of you likely to have at least one affair....having things out in the open can prevent a lot of harm

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

It would be so nice if we could act out all our fantasies with understanding from our partners.
It would be so much better than the resentment that grows from the thought that you have to remain faithful to one person.

 

[Georgia Girl]

You have to look to appreciate what you have.

Just a simple fact.

That doesn't mean you have to do anything about it though.

 

[Jenny _S]

It would be so nice if we could act out all our fantasies with understanding from our partners.
It would be so much better than the resentment that grows from the thought that you have to remain faithful to one person.

Sorry, Pie but something doesn't really compute here. You became partners with you hubby/boyfriend, whatever. Part of that relationship is an inherent understand of mutual submission to each other's preferences concerning sexual matters.

Now you are talking about violating that understanding by sneaking around behind his back and acting out your fantasies. Why? Are you trying to destroy your relationship?

Were you and your SO to mutually agree to your actions, that's one thing. But what you are seeking is support for something that is potentially distructive to you, your SO and your relationship.

Can I be any more clear?
I know. I've been there.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

Sorry, Pie but something doesn't really compute here. You became partners with you hubby/boyfriend, whatever. Part of that relationship is an inherent understand of mutual submission to each other's preferences concerning sexual matters.

Now you are talking about violating that understanding by sneaking around behind his back and acting out your fantasies. Why? Are you trying to destroy your relationship?

Were you and your SO to mutually agree to your actions, that's one thing. But what you are seeking is support for something that potentially distructive to you, your SO and your relationship.

I know. I've been there.

You have misintrepreted what I've said. I have no intent of being unfaithful to my SO...read my first post...fantasies are nice when they are just that, fantasies.
My latter post was just a comment on relationships in general. I've seen so many people stay together and resent the other person because they feel like they are missing out on other experiences, and that is just sad.

 

[sheath]

Whatta bunch of monogamy-centerist thinking
How depressingly typical

Indeed, what a 'depressing typical' judgment on your part.

Monogamy might not be for you, James, as you have stated numerous times. But to call it all 'depressing typical' is placing judgment on those who have chosen a path that you have decided is simply not for you.

I respect you, James, but the more you discuss monogamy, the more it's obvious that you are DETERMINED to see it your way, and that's it. For someone who demonstrates such tolerance and understanding in other areas, I'm surprised by your condescending tone concerning monogamy.

It's a viable option for some, James. In the future, please make an effort to be more tolerant toward those of us who simply believe that monogamy is okay. Instead of telling us why monogamy is bad, tell us why being poly is good. It brings more people in to think about your position, rather than immediately driving them away with condescending comments.

S.