are you a an openly affection-type person?
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glamorilla
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i'm not.
i am with my closer friends. hugs and kisses on the cheeks...handshakes but that's about it.
i am with my closer friends. hugs and kisses on the cheeks...handshakes but that's about it.
cindylouwho64
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Yes - very much so - touchy feely. Even if it's just a hand on someone's shoulder or something and it's not always sexual (well maybe deep down in my mind!)
perks
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oh hell no.*bratcat* said:
affection has a level of rejection attached to it too. If someone doesn't want affection, then why give it?
I'm an openly touchy feely person, but when I first meet someone I'm not all up in their grill. There is a period of getting to know someone before it is possible for you to feel comfortable in their personal space and for them to feel comfortable with you in their personal space.
It depends on the person, their body language, their reception.
Affection isn't only about one person.
Avery_Chisholm
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ITA with cindy
sufisaint
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Live on my own...I have a 8 year old daughter so I get alot of affection from her....but its been a year since I have been with someone. I could instantly be affectionate if i had those feelings for them. What ability I have lost is to ever become depenfdent on someone. As much as I could love them, I can easily let them go....
perks
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yes it made sense.
I'm thinking you're gunshy, ya know?
You constantly give someone hugs and kisses and love.
They continously push you away.
You stop.
They want the continuous hugs and kisses and love.
But they don't want to reciprocate.
why would you want to be with someone that plays you like that?
I want to be with someone that loves me back, is affectionate back. I don't want to have to give everything all the time and be rebuffed consistently but still expected to give.
You're being played if you stay in that situation.
it reminds me of an old Bill Cosby comedy routine
Eve was talking to Adam and she was all like "c'mere cmere cmere, no get away get away get away."
eventually you stop going near the person.
You need to find a return for your affection.
I'm thinking you're gunshy, ya know?
You constantly give someone hugs and kisses and love.
They continously push you away.
You stop.
They want the continuous hugs and kisses and love.
But they don't want to reciprocate.
why would you want to be with someone that plays you like that?
I want to be with someone that loves me back, is affectionate back. I don't want to have to give everything all the time and be rebuffed consistently but still expected to give.
You're being played if you stay in that situation.
it reminds me of an old Bill Cosby comedy routine
Eve was talking to Adam and she was all like "c'mere cmere cmere, no get away get away get away."
eventually you stop going near the person.
You need to find a return for your affection.
WhatsHerName
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Yes I would have to say that I am a very affectionate person with my husband. Although sometimes I have a harder time being affectionate with my children and I don't know why.
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*bratcat* said:
I'm another sig line! Cool.
No, in college I was much more touchy feely. I cuddled with friends all the time, sleeping in tangled piles of limbs, kissing, hugging, wrestling.
I think I just grew out of it. I mean, I doubt there are many adults who still lie down on their friends backs and have conversations. lmao.
sufisaint
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The heart of the matter is being emotionally available, if your have constant physical affection, you are always open to your emotions...there is a vunerability there...anything can get in while your defenses are down. Thats why when your on your own you close down...you cannot trust stangers to be good to you. Unfornate tere is always a price for inpentrable walls...what you lock out...you also lock yourself in. With the right person, trust being the main ingredient, you will open up again and it will be just like your children....the love of affection will reyurn...
