Are all subs desperate for their doms?

[sister76]

Or is it just me?

It seems to me that is a defining trait of being a sub to someone. Or maybe that's just a defining trait of being hopelessly in love/lust with someone.

Any thoughts?

 

[Chicklet]

I'm not desperate for anything...

when I'm in lust with someone I have a couple weeks of crazy-time, when i want to totally lavish them with attention and SEX!!!! which could possibly be viewed as desperation to be near them...

maybe i misunderstand what you mean though? i don't think i go crazy for a guy because i'm a submissive. my roommate goes nuts for boys and she's not into BDSM at all.

 

[HottieMama]

Desperate has such a negative connotation to it, but i understand what you are getting at. i crave being with Daddy more than anything in the world and i cherish every moment we spend together no matter if it is online, on the phone, or eventually in person. i don't know though if that is because he's Daddy...or just because i am completely in love with him. i guess it's something i don't need to question much, and should just enjoy the feeling.

If there ever was a point where i DIDN'T crave being with him, i think it would be time for both of us to reevaluate our relationship.

 

[sister76]

I'm not desperate for anything...

when I'm in lust with someone I have a couple weeks of crazy-time, when i want to totally lavish them with attention and SEX!!!! which could possibly be viewed as desperation to be near them...

maybe i misunderstand what you mean though? i don't think i go crazy for a guy because i'm a submissive. my roommate goes nuts for boys and she's not into BDSM at all.

That what I was saying actually. I don't think it has anything to do with BDSM, but maybe having submissive/BDSM tendencies makes a person even more desperate, hence the extreme need to please.

 

[HB1965]

Do I want my dom? Yes I want him very much. He is my soulmate and the love of my life. There isn't going to be anyone else in that respect. Am I desparate? I would say yes because being separate from him is like something is missing, and I am empty.

 

[LittleJade]

Uh.... I'm not desperate for anything. I love him, I lust him, I am his... but it makes me joyful, not desperate.

 

[HottieMama]

Uh.... I'm not desperate for anything. I love him, I lust him, I am his... but it makes me joyful, not desperate.

Yeah..that's what i was trying to say...

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm not desperate, but I am needful. He fills a place in my life, in my heart, in my mind, in my soul that can not be filled by anyone or anything else.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I don't think I realised how emotionally dependent I'd become with Master until we moved in together. Now that he's here all the time it's a wonderful feeling and a validation of the sense of grief I felt every time we parted before. I find a deep sense of security and love in the way he controls both myself and our relationship and wearing my collar is still an exciting novelty. Ok I know we're effectively honeymooners but I'm really happy right now so to any jaded and cynical readers (it'll be me again one day I expect.)

I feel much closer to Master than I have to any partner before and will work hard for that to continue to be the case. I crave his approval and affection and that motivates a lot of what I do. Having said all that, I'm not so desperate that if things ever deteriorated between us I wouldn't seriously reconsider the relationship. I'm not blinded by it.

It's a very good feeling though

 

[the captians wench]

I'll admit it, I get desperate for attention.

 

[Netzach]

Yet another one of those moments that make me think I may not even rate "switch" if I wanted to.

Does not compute.

Do I miss him when he's gone? Of course. Do I think about him? Yes. Do I find enough other things to occupy the brain-space that desperation does not ensue, sure. Am I elated when we're together? Frighteningly so. Is he replaceable? Hell no.

 

[twysted73]

I must ask.....

Desperate has such a negative connotation to it, but i understand what you are getting at. i crave being with Daddy more than anything in the world and i cherish every moment we spend together no matter if it is online, on the phone, or eventually in person. i don't know though if that is because he's Daddy...or just because i am completely in love with him. i guess it's something i don't need to question much, and should just enjoy the feeling.

If there ever was a point where i DIDN'T crave being with him, i think it would be time for both of us to reevaluate our relationship.

And I would completely understand if you declined to answer here on main. But...you mentioned a love for him. And that most interraction is done from a distance. Have you met him face to face? I'm curious.

 

[twysted73]

Yet another one of those moments that make me think I may not even rate "switch" if I wanted to.

Does not compute.

Do I miss him when he's gone? Of course. Do I think about him? Yes. Do I find enough other things to occupy the brain-space that desperation does not ensue, sure. Am I elated when we're together? Frighteningly so. Is he replaceable? Hell no.

Oh I'd say switch most definitely. You simply lean over onto the Dom portion a little more. No worries. I have a huge question but I'll go ask it in a new thread.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I am addict to my master so yes i feel desperate at times. Usualy when we have less time to talk or play or when hes just gone for work for few dayz, i can get all weak inside then. Miss him more than i can say.

When hes around i am happy, but when hes gone the joy can too easily turn into suffering of missing someone who just cant be replaced by anybody else. I can enjoy my man that time or do many possible things, but its not the same thing. When i need him (my master) i need "him" and the helpless and lost feelings just dont go away untill hes back to me.

 

[the captians wench]

I really don't think it's a sub thing.

I'm an emotionally dependant person. It's just who I am, whether I was born that way, trained that way, or developed that way is irrelivent.

Some people don't need a lot of emotional care, has nothing to do with submissiveness, and everything to do with individguality.

Personally, I need some one who understands that I need a lot of emotional support. If they can't provide that, then we both need to move on.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I'm not desperate for my Dom, but there are moments when I need to feel closer to him- even if its just sending him an email/PM that says I'm curling up beside his feet and purring.

I can't say that there's anyone I adore more than him. As sappy as it may sound, my soul calls for him and is content in knowing that he owns me- I am happy and content that he owns me.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Are all subs desperate for their doms?

Or is it just me?

It seems to me that is a defining trait of being a sub to someone. Or maybe that's just a defining trait of being hopelessly in love/lust with someone.

Any thoughts?

Short answer: No.

Long Answer: All subs are desperate for ME. They settle for who they find however and act out their fantasies about me on their partners.

Did I mention that I have an active fantasy life? *LOL*

 

[HottieMama]

And I would completely understand if you declined to answer here on main. But...you mentioned a love for him. And that most interraction is done from a distance. Have you met him face to face? I'm curious.

There is "a love," and then there is "in love." i am the second of the two as far as my relationship goes. We have not met yet in person, though i fail to see how that has any bearing on my feelings.

 

[HB1965]

Short answer: No.

Long Answer: All subs are desperate for ME. They settle for who they find however and act out their fantasies about me on their partners.

Did I mention that I have an active fantasy life? *LOL*

Yeah I noticed that, LOL

I'd still like to see the dungeon though

 

[A Desert Rose]

I'm desperate for all the people I love; the ones I know and the ones I've never met but love anyway (grandchildren that I've not yet been blest with)... desperate that there won't be enough time with them all.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

God woman...I like the way you think.

Reminds me of someone I know.

Yet another one of those moments that make me think I may not even rate "switch" if I wanted to.

Does not compute.

Do I miss him when he's gone? Of course. Do I think about him? Yes. Do I find enough other things to occupy the brain-space that desperation does not ensue, sure. Am I elated when we're together? Frighteningly so. Is he replaceable? Hell no.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Short answer: No.

Long Answer: All subs are desperate for ME. They settle for who they find however and act out their fantasies about me on their partners.

Did I mention that I have an active fantasy life? *LOL*

Damn, so you really are telepathic EG

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Does not compute.

Do I miss him when he's gone? Of course. Do I think about him? Yes. Do I find enough other things to occupy the brain-space that desperation does not ensue, sure. Am I elated when we're together? Frighteningly so. Is he replaceable? Hell no.

Had to take out the switch reference, but otherwise... yep that's what I would say.

I tend to wonder if age and/or relationship status plays a factor or not. I don't mean to offend anyone here, but I seem to notice a slight trend emerging.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I don't have the energy for desperation!! Netzach pretty much said how I feel. I'm always able to occupy my time and mind when he is not physically with me, though he is always in my mind and definately irreplaceable as there is only one F.

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1101/1454848818_37411f495b_t.jpg Catalina

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Short answer: No.

Long Answer: All subs are desperate for ME. They settle for who they find however and act out their fantasies about me on their partners.

Did I mention that I have an active fantasy life? *LOL*

hehe

(men )