Anyone Else Attract Emotional Baggage Like a Magnet?

[JLatino]

i'm just frustrated all to hell. it seems i can't meet a girl without SOMETHING wrong right off the bat. i can't even achieve that grace period when everything is just great and perfect. it's annoying.

i think i'm just going to vent all night. i'm going crazy.

 

[AusTess]

When you cease to look,you will find.

 

[Wiggles]

I haven't met a person yet that doesn't have some emotional baggage. Some just hide it better than others.

 

[Laurel]

Fear Austess's wise words.

 

[JLatino]

When you cease to look,you will find.

in this particular case...i wasn't looking. she found me. but then she just kinda 180'd.

 

[metal_minx]

i'm just frustrated all to hell. it seems i can't meet a girl without SOMETHING wrong right off the bat. i can't even achieve that grace period when everything is just great and perfect. it's annoying.

i think i'm just going to vent all night. i'm going crazy.

yes! i attract guys like that...damn my caring sensitive ways

 

[JLatino]

it's just that we only had like 4 great days in a row together...then it just got hard in the blink of an eye. she's the kind of girl that has a very low self-opinion of herself. she hates it when i tell her she's pretty or anything nice like that.

 

[Laurel]

No, but I do attract magnets like emotional baggage. Damn these steel plates!

 

[AusTess]

I collect magnets.
And i have em stuck to my friedge.


Send all magnets to my email addy.

 

[Wiggles]

No, but I do attract magnets like emotional baggage. Damn these steel plates!

Woohoo!

Sexay!

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[Ice Cold]

Welcome to my world.... where the women have so much emotional baggage they own shares in Samsonite.

 

[JLatino]

i'm just tearing my hair out when a girl tells me that she feels uncomfortable when she's treated "right."

 

[Lost Cause]

I've been like that forever, it seems. I must have a glitch that gets turned on by the kind of female that has lost her way. It goes fine for the period of heavy sex, then when the living phase of the relationship starts, we do a spiral into the ground!
Either she wants me to do things a different way, because her old boyfriend use to do it my way. Or, phrases she'd say made me flashback to the other females in my life, with a negative feeling on my part. I just want to live a life with no pretending on who I am, likewise for a future mate. I want my mate to go as far as she wants to go in life, without having my approval, and vice-versa. That philosophy of mine has had me accused of not caring (by not saying,"No!"). That is a twisted way to live, hoping for approval from me, others, and society.
Oh well, back to my left hand.......whack...whack....whack!

 

[JLatino]

i'm just not dealing well with the whole "WHY do you like me?" thing. if someone likes me, i'm like "great!" why question it to the point of self-destruction?

 

[dreamer]

Because A LOT of guys out there are NOT caring. So many women I know, too many, are the walking wounded.

I think everyone has baggage...I fear those who act like they don't. The trick is building the intimacy and relationship to be able to trust each other enough to overcome that baggage.

Tell her to get used to it...and shower her with praise. THEN just as she realizes she is special and she does deserve you she'll leave you to do something better....heh

 

[just pet]

Even if I find someone without emotional baggage, I seem to be the one who helps him pack

 

[Ice Cold]

I think the problem is that everyone has emotional baggage of some sort, just most of us don't wear it on our sleeves and let it guide our lives.

 

[metal_minx]

i'm just tearing my hair out when a girl tells me that she feels uncomfortable when she's treated "right."

shit thats just what the guy says to me...he's not used to feeling happy

 

[JLatino]

I think the problem is that everyone has emotional baggage of some sort, just most of us don't wear it on our sleeves and let it guide our lives.

i don't disagree with that, but at the same time i just get nuts when someone who's a good person can't get over their self-hate. it's like...looking at them sincerely in the eyes is even too much.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[just pet]

I just try to find someone with complementary baggage, that we don't trip over. Love allows quirks and issues, and a safe non-judgemental place of refuge.


Can you wear baggage on your sleeve? Wouldn't it make your arms really tired?

 

[JLatino]

Have you found yet?

we just clicked hard...we met, hung out all night, then talked on the phone for 11 hours the next night, and we were togther the next day. i'm not someone that falls like that. now...i don't know. it's only been two weeks!

 

[Ice Cold]

I just try to find someone with complementary baggage, that we don't trip over. Love allows quirks and issues, and a safe non-judgemental place of refuge.


Can you wear baggage on your sleeve? Wouldn't it make your arms really tired?

Sure... like little fanny packs on the arm.


Seriously though, you meet what seems to be a really nice person, and you find out they have more horror stories about their life than Stephen King.

 

[JLatino]

Seriously though, you meet what seems to be a really nice person, and you find out they have more horror stories about their life than Stephen King.

see...but i heard all the horror stories on the second conversation (11 hours is a long time), and i was fine with everything. and i thought she believed me...but the all of a sudden..."i'm not good enough for you."

 

[Ice Cold]

see...but i heard all the horror stories on the second conversation (11 hours is a long time), and i was fine with everything. and i thought she believed me...but the all of a sudden..."i'm not good enough for you."

That is the whole catch of the situation. It doesn't matter what you think of them, it is how they perceive themselves. So you end up trying to prove that they are good enough, or showing them that eveything that happened just doesn't matter. The self worth thing is a major hurdle to over come. Like it is engrained in their psyche.