Any one else have more fun alone ?

[subcherry]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

 

[alexgriffin74]

I get where you are coming from and yeah, it sucks. Or not, if you get my meaning. I guess a question to ask is, do YOU ever initiate? And if so, do you also need something to prime the pump before doing the deed?

 

[Lady2020]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

I can relate. Sounds like you're at a turning point in your life.

 

[Mtnmike]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

Refreshing to here a woman having this problem. Don't take it wrong, it just seemed only men were claiming to be sexless or having this problem. Speaking from experience, you need to make a decision soon, stay & deal with it, seek counseling together or leave. Take it from someone who stayed hoping it get better, unless your partner is willing to change, it want get better.

 

[Islander55]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

Have you talked with him and explained your issue?

 

[oneblueye]

sounds to me you have come to your conclusion the only thing lacking is you girding your loins and packing those bags.

 

[twister947]

We are conditioned to couple up, to regard that state as "normal ". It only works for some.

 

[CuriousEvi]

I think we know our bodies best and for many of us practising this knowledge on ourself is better than sex with a partner. I would be ideal to find a way for pleasure in both ways but it sounds like your man is not interested in your needs.

 

[Kittenhugs]

I've done DIY all my life. Only a couple of guys have been better

 

[SoCalAshley]

I've been alone now for almost two years and the frequency and quality of my orgasms have not diminished at all. What I do miss is the kissing beforehand and the holding afterwards.

 

[rockcasbah]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

Just be honest with him, Butters.

 

[EnglishStud]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

You're a happy wanker and why not?

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

I've been alone now for almost two years and the frequency and quality of my orgasms have not diminished at all. What I do miss is the kissing beforehand and the holding afterwards.

I guess I've been alone for 36 yrs - I must say I'm envious when I see a couple having a nice quiet dinner, or yes, hand holding - simple things like seeing a movie.
those I do alone. dining out alone is just by necessity - I'd love to go out to a super nice restaurant, but I'd be embarrassed or something by being alone.

 

[ace195008]

Yeah, some people are so introverted or self consumed by life or a past the don’t notice anyone or anything but themselves. If your married and have kids, it real hard to be that way. Harder if your married to man or woman who does respect or is considerate of the other person. I have been married twice, first time was a tad ugly, she was damaged the second married 19+ years and died in front of me and my daughters. My second wife was emotionally closed off, this left me in a rough situation, you couldn‘t read her emotions and talking was her way.

 

[sixfoot4]

Mmmm, it's that or the Yardboy.

 

[Beholders_Eye]

I guess I've been alone for 36 yrs - I must say I'm envious when I see a couple having a nice quiet dinner, or yes, hand holding - simple things like seeing a movie.
those I do alone. dining out alone is just by necessity - I'd love to go out to a super nice restaurant, but I'd be embarrassed or something by being alone.

I empathize with you on that; about 20 years for me. A few dates here and there, but have learned to manage on my own quite well. Literotica and similar pursuits are my way of coping sexually. Being a guy, I do go out to nice restaurants, but I take my iPad with me for companionship. Then on my own in my apartment, extended edging and resultant orgasms are emotionally very powerful. At this point, I am not sure if I even want a woman in my life (that doesn't sound very nice), but if the right one....

 

[Garnate]

I don't miss holding hands or cuddling or spooning or kissing or flirting or foreplay or date nights or literally anything involved with being in a relationship. I don't know if I ever will again. I was born feeling crowded and I just want to be alone lol.

 

[Wishingbox]

I've been with my man 10+ yrs are sex life was good but with no real intimacy or affection and now only happens after he's aroused himself with some sort of fantasy either online or in his head , which makes me feel worthless I resent fucking and him. I crave that touch that's makes u shiver and wet from anticipation I can climax multiple times when on my own and starting to belive I'd be happier and satisfied on my own. thoughts please ?? Tia x

Totally makes sense. You’re in good company. I think a lot of it boils down to different drive types. Some people are easily aroused and enjoy the exploration of sex while others dabble here and there but ultimately decide there are other things in life worth their attention.

You strike me as the curious and sexual enjoyment type and so you find yourself coming home to your body, how it feels, what it enjoys, what else is there to feel etc.

But your partner doesn’t seem to be on the same pager or at least wanting to do that exploration with you.

What is it you want from Lit? Camaraderie? Answers? Excitement?

Many of us are in similar boats trying to figure out what we want, why we want it, and how to get it with or without our partners.

 

[TallMan69]

I don't miss holding hands or cuddling or spooning or kissing or flirting or foreplay or date nights or literally anything involved with being in a relationship. I don't know if I ever will again. I was born feeling crowded and I just want to be alone lol.

Interesting. Those are literally all the things I think of with the rosy-lensed feel-good things of the romantic and connected couple.

 

[Garnate]

Interesting. Those are literally all the things I think of with the rosy-lensed feel-good things of the romantic and connected couple.

Maybe that's my problem; I'm not romantic or connected.

 

[thør]

Just bend over and take it.....

 

[FataMorgana]

I don't miss holding hands or cuddling or spooning or kissing or flirting or foreplay or date nights or literally anything involved with being in a relationship. I don't know if I ever will again. I was born feeling crowded and I just want to be alone lol.

I get this. I loved lockdown. Although sometimes it would be handy to have a spider killer around.

 

[juttjaw]

I get this. I loved lockdown. Although sometimes it would be handy to have a spider killer around.

This just in...

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We'll keep you updated on the latest developments...

 

[FataMorgana]

This just in...

Cats are skilled hunters and can now be trained...

We'll keep you updated on the latest developments...

Those three pricks have no interest in spiders. They are all about the mice.

 

[Garnate]

I get this. I loved lockdown. Although sometimes it would be handy to have a spider killer around.

I can kill spiders! I hate them, but I can kill them.

Quarantine was VERY easy for me.