Any new(ish) subs/slaves or even Dom/mes out there?

[SexySub21]

Hello!

I have recently met my fantastic Mistress who is leading me into the exciting world of BDSM, She is beginning to gain control of more and more of me as time goes on, and I’m doing things for her that I never would have done for anyone before. I’m very new to all this and I’m finding it all really exciting! (and very horny! ;-))

Anyway my Mistress has gone on holiday for a week and I am lonely now, so I thought I’d start this thread to share a little of my (limited) experiences and hopefully hear some experiences of all you new(ish) subs or slaves or even new Doms or Dommes, and hopefully you can all help this week go quickly for me as I fear it will feel like forever!

Anyway now enough from me for now! Over to you guys & gals!

x

 

[SexySub21]

No one got anything to share? no one wanna keep me company :-(

 

[minx1]

Hello sexysub, welcome.

You might like to try here to whilst you are alone for the week

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=510167&highlight=haven

 

[SexySub21]

Hello sexysub, welcome.

You might like to try here to whilst you are alone for the week

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=510167&highlight=haven

Thanks I'll have a peek!

 

[wouldloveto]

I don't have a lot to offer, since I have hit a rather dry spell...

But was glad to see this thread, I hope more subs speak up.

Submissive (even switch) men seem rare here.

Some folks even ostracize us...

 

[FurryFury]

I've been at it for a while now but I still consider myself pretty freaking new at it.

Then there are the times I feel ancient in general, practically dust even.

I should probably go to bed now.

Fury

 

[Bigtom426]

Hi, I'm new to the whole sub thing as well. I gave it a shot on Yahoo Chat and that sucked so I hope I find out more about this on this message board.

 

[SexySub21]

Hi, I'm new to the whole sub thing as well. I gave it a shot on Yahoo Chat and that sucked so I hope I find out more about this on this message board.

Ah its cool that more people have spoken up on this thread! Yeh i tried speaking to ppl thru chatrooms and stuff but it was never any good and now I've spoken to more ppl I think Id find it easier to spot the fake Masters/Mistresses out there. And I can tell that my current Mistress who I met thru a personals ad on here is definately not a faker

 

[FurryFury]

Like any relationship it takes a while to find someone who fits well with you and feels real.

Fury

 

[Yang4yin]

Like any relationship it takes a while to find someone who fits well with you and feels real.

*touch-touch-squeeze*
Yep! Feels real. Now let's see how well we fit."
Just kidding.

 

[Cazey]

Maybe some help for you

Hello there. Sorry to here that your Mistress is away. To please her in a way that will make her very happy you can do self restriction, like drinking water from only a bowl and doing that on hands and knees. Also you can do lines, I'm sure you remember that from school. You can write I miss you Mistress as many times as possible for her. Just remember that she will feel honored when you find something to do to be submissive that she hasn't even asked to you do. I hope this helps.

 

[Cazey]

a new thought

Since she has made you extremely horny, do not have an orgasm until she returns. It may hurt, but it will show her that she is in charge of your sexuality and she will love it.

 

[SweetErika]

Hello there. Sorry to here that your Mistress is away. To please her in a way that will make her very happy you can do self restriction, like drinking water from only a bowl and doing that on hands and knees. Also you can do lines, I'm sure you remember that from school. You can write I miss you Mistress as many times as possible for her. Just remember that she will feel honored when you find something to do to be submissive that she hasn't even asked to you do. I hope this helps.

Cazey, there is NO way to know what SS's Mistress would like, unless you are said Mistress.

Some of us think stuff like drinking from a bowl or writing XYZ a bunch of times are stupid and pointless. I, for instance, would much rather know my sub is spending the time working hard on their issues, health, researching things they're interested in, and/or doing thoughtful things for me, like journaling, collecting the materials we'll need writing an excellent story, or using their talents to make me a gift that takes a lot of effort (a nice toy, something for my home, etc.).

Dominants are unique people--just like subs and traditional folks--not characters in a fairytale or fantasy. Therefore, we don't all like or want the same, or even similar, things.

In my view, it's very poor form for a sub to presume what their Dominant wants; if they haven't been told to use their best judgment on something, they should ask for instructions or clarification. Doing pointless tasks that weren't asked for/ordered isn't for the Dom at all, it's purely to make the sub feel better, and topping from the bottom, IMO.

 

[SexySub21]

Cazey, there is NO way to know what SS's Mistress would like, unless you are said Mistress.

Some of us think stuff like drinking from a bowl or writing XYZ a bunch of times are stupid and pointless. I, for instance, would much rather know my sub is spending the time working hard on their issues, health, researching things they're interested in, and/or doing thoughtful things for me, like journaling, collecting the materials we'll need writing an excellent story, or using their talents to make me a gift that takes a lot of effort (a nice toy, something for my home, etc.).

Dominants are unique people--just like subs and traditional folks--not characters in a fairytale or fantasy. Therefore, we don't all like or want the same, or even similar, things.

In my view, it's very poor form for a sub to presume what their Dominant wants; if they haven't been told to use their best judgment on something, they should ask for instructions or clarification. Doing pointless tasks that weren't asked for/ordered isn't for the Dom at all, it's purely to make the sub feel better, and topping from the bottom, IMO.

Yes I agree, I dont think drinking from a bowl or writing lines would impress my Mistress very much, shes left me a few tasks to keep me occupied so I've been busying myself with them! They are fun tasks too! Nothing so trivial as writing lines...

 

[ShyVixen]

I'm sorry to hear that your Mistress is away, SS.

I'm a brand spanking (no pun intended) sub, so I don't have any experiences to share. But I do hope the time goes quickly for you.

 

[SexySub21]

I'm sorry to hear that your Mistress is away, SS.

I'm a brand spanking (no pun intended) sub, so I don't have any experiences to share. But I do hope the time goes quickly for you.

Aw well thanks! shes back for today but off again tomoro!

 

[Mistkat]

Mistkat

I'm new too. I can't call myself a Domme yet, but that's where I'm headed. I have a crush on a guy who is into foot worship and humiliation. He wants me to be his Mistress then he backs off. It would be great to act this out and step all over him but he has a LTG and we don't want to hurt anyone. At one point he was moving out and we had a few beginner playtimes, but he has since stopped trying to split. So, here I am learning about my new interests without any means of really following through. I am not dating anyone at the moment (still crushin' hard). I am trying to move on but he opened my proverbial Pandora's Box and I envision exploring my kinks with him. It sucks. Also, he doesn't stay away for long, which doesn't help. So it sucks some more, but I'm strong and am keeping very busy.

We all have to start somewhere. Some can jump right in with everything going their way. Others may have to take baby steps for many different reasons. Timing is so important. Patience may be needed. Confidence is required. Oh, And I can't forget the importance of Respect.

Best wishes to all you newbies.
Mistkat

 

[KuriousTina]

I'm pretty new to the non-reading and fantisizing part of this, but I'm definitely glad that you've found someone, and hope it all goes well. In my opinion, the most important part of a BDSM relationship is the actual relationship. Good luck and best wishes with your Mistress.

 

[Sailor9129]

New Dom

I'm very new to this kind of relationship. I guess I've always been kinkier than my friends, but it's only recently that I have started to seriously consider moving into a BDSM type relationship. It is most fortunate that my girlfriend is very very interested in being a submissive, and I can't wait to see her again so we can begin to experiment.

 

[ssinlove]

i am fully owned and possessed by my Owners and it is a true turn on.

my only days of distress are when They don't take care of me. But when They treat me as Their obedient slave bitch, my days are sunny.

being a submissive is all my life and i would not like to change it, i am so happy that way, i only fear that They could not love me anymore one day, i hope it will never happen.

 

[SubKekiLee]

old but new...

I am not new to the lifestyle as I drifted away from the BDSM lifestyle... I recently came back into the lifestyle..... I am so intrqiued and I have a very strong master... I make him happy but I also displease him cause I am reaquainting myself with the rules... but I could use some guidance... as how to not displease my Dom.. I am in trouble as I type this , I know I will be punished.....

 

[DystopiaNoir]

I'm very new to BDSM and D/s relationships in particular. It's always been something I knew I was into, but never had the opportunity to really explore.

I've very recently met my (so far online) Daddy/Dom and I'm very happy so far. Everything about him matches some of my deepest and longest-held fantasies, right down to what he does for a living. The nature of his job allows him very little time for private conversation, (phone very early in the morning and online very late at night) but we're making the best of it. I've only known Him a little while but I'm growing very attached very quickly. (It's kind of scary).

 

[Betticus]

Hello!

I have recently met my fantastic Mistress who is leading me into the exciting world of BDSM, She is beginning to gain control of more and more of me as time goes on, and I’m doing things for her that I never would have done for anyone before. I’m very new to all this and I’m finding it all really exciting! (and very horny! ;-))

Anyway my Mistress has gone on holiday for a week and I am lonely now, so I thought I’d start this thread to share a little of my (limited) experiences and hopefully hear some experiences of all you new(ish) subs or slaves or even new Doms or Dommes, and hopefully you can all help this week go quickly for me as I fear it will feel like forever!

Anyway now enough from me for now! Over to you guys & gals!

x

Hi there.

 

[Stegral]

switch

hi ... I still consider myself "new" even though I have grown alot in the last year or so.
I explored this lifestyle due to losing my fiance to a "slave" & the next boyfriend to a facet of it as well. I needed to understand the pull it had for the closure I needed so badly. I found a group in my area that is awesome & helped me understand the pull this lifestyle has Even though I am not "collared" I do "play" as often as my"top" *K* is available. W/we have known each other for most of the time I have into the researching of BDSM. In my exploration I have learned I do NOT like percussion play (padles, floggers, canes...the stingy ouchy stuff) which is fine with *K* as he has another to play with that enjoys that kind of play I have some deep seated issues with spanking or any hitting in general that 15 years of therapy hasn't touched. The therapist have always pondered the possibility of bi-polar, schizo, manic depressive, dysthemia & a host of others that have had me drugged up for the last 12 or so years...
I realized a short while ago that by exploring the "dark" hidden desires I have in a safe, sane, friendly enviroment I have come off the anti-depressants totally & been clean for over 6 months now. I do backslide a bit when *K* is out at sea, but the Dommes of my group saw in me a dominant side or just my subbie side wanting to please someone & encouraged me to "play" on another what I enjoy having done to me. hence the switch. I have 2 fellas I do my sensory play to when *K* is away/not around & they enjoy the soft sensuality I provide over the floggers & canes... I have also been told by one that I "warm him up" for the other Domme that is about to flog him

My "toys" of choice to use are Wartenburg wheels, vampire mitten, finger claws, wire brushes, feathers & a knife (welting NOT cutting)
For playtime with *K* W/we use all of the above, but I sometimes have on a blindfold which amplifies the "click" of his lockblade that is arousing & the clink of the pair of wartenburg wheels (pinwheels) touching each other as He picks them up just makes me shiver in anticipation *K* knows this & has allowed ME to intro earplugs when I want as a hightener for the sensations as he "draws" wonderful designs on my back...
(see Avatar for my fav pattern/design)
I just wish SEX could be part of the scenes with *K* & I but it ain't gonna happen...

 

[Maximumtest]

Hi SS21, pretty much like minx1 said you should pop on over. I'm quite new to all this myself and still searching for a dominant. Lit seems to be a fantastic place to learn though so I hope it brings you both knowledge and experiences. Did your week without your Mistress fly by?