any marriage/family minded guys left?

[cherrypi28]

im a midwest 29 f ...never married and no kids.....every guy i meet says thats what they want but when the time comes, they start to waiver in their convictions. My question is, are their any men left that still want marriage and kids? I think I am a semi attractive women, Im no super model by far. Im tall, full figured, long hair, greeneyes, and full lips. I have a wonderful carrer and am capable of supporting my self.I am no money hunger girl looking for a free ride. I just want a man who is serious about a future.... do they exsist any more?

 

[lorddragonwolf]

yes we are out here some of us are just married already.

 

[cherrypi28]

yes we are out here some of us are just married already.

tis is wha i am talking about..are there any SINGLE men looking for this outthere?

 

[MunchinMark]

I think I live a bit too far away for you.

A lot of men, possibly most men, do want a wife and children. However they see settling down like they see a pension, once you get them you aren't young anymore. When you meet someone who is ready to commit, ask them if they have a pension plan.

 

[RawHumor]

yes we are out here some of us are just married already.

Ditto.

 

[cherrypi28]

i should have know this is the way this was going to go...pout.....

 

[ag2507]

Ypu're looking: trust me, you will scare away even the most trustworthy man. Just enjoy your relationships and expect nothing of them: then you will grow together with someone who you mutually love and respect.

If not one of two things will happen: you'll accept someone who really isn't good for you rather than who is best for you. Ypou will be unhappy very quickly.

Or, you will continue to scare off good men: being unsure isn't a bad thing but anything you do to reel them in like a fish in a line will ensure they struggle - and if they struggle too much they will fall of the hook!

Just enjoy life and stop worrying about marriage - it will come soon enough.

AG

 

[sanjuaneros]

I am married with kids, and enjoy it. Granted my wife and I have an open marriage, but it works for us. I love and adore my kids, and wife. When the right one come along you just know.

 

[Shingen]

I used to want marriage and kids....I don't know what happened. I think I started getting old. lol.

 

[huskie]

tis is wha i am talking about..are there any SINGLE men looking for this outthere?

Try church or the gym or Night college classes. Be ready to settle for a single man who has kids, though.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

I'm minded in such a way, in terms of what i want in "in the end," but how can you look for that? I know that's what will make me happy. I also know I have a long time to find it, so I'm not looking at women going "Will she make a good mother?"
I guess I'm agreeing ag2507, on a minor scale at least. i won't say you're scaring anyone away, just that I know not to have expectations such as marriage given my maturity and the unknown factors that go into metting new people and dating...

Oh, not to hijack the thread here, but sanjuaneros, what's the real deal with open marriages? I don't get the point of marrying when you still see other people. I'm not criticizing at all, just asking I question that I've wondered about more than once.

 

[intrigued]

im a midwest 29 f ...never married and no kids.....every guy i meet says thats what they want but when the time comes, they start to waiver in their convictions. My question is, are their any men left that still want marriage and kids? I think I am a semi attractive women, Im no super model by far. Im tall, full figured, long hair, greeneyes, and full lips. I have a wonderful carrer and am capable of supporting my self.I am no money hunger girl looking for a free ride. I just want a man who is serious about a future.... do they exsist any more?

Yes they do. You are too young to be giving up, (really, I don't think we should ever give up) just keep doing your thing for you, and let the pieces fall into place.

I was going to suggest that you try this in the personals forum, but I'm guessing all the replies would be "yes!".

 

[cherrypi28]

isnt the point of dating ultimatly to end up in a commited relationship? I dont look at every guy and say here my future husand, but i am 29 and ready fo this...if i wait much longer i will lose the chance at having children.... and for the record, think open marraiges wold reduce the chances of divorce...if my husband wants to have sex with someone he fids attractive, and does it with myknowledge and still comes home to me, or vice versa..more power to him

 

[cherrypi28]

Re: Re: any marriage/family minded guys left?

Yes they do. You are too young to be giving up, (really, I don't think we should ever give up) just keep doing your thing for you, and let the pieces fall into place.

I was going to suggest that you try this in the personals forum, but I'm guessing all the replies would be "yes!".

exactly why i didnt...lol...although maybe i should have

 

[intrigued]

isnt the point of dating ultimatly to end up in a commited relationship? I dont look at every guy and say here my future husand, but i am 29 and ready fo this...if i wait much longer i will lose the chance at having children.... and for the record, think open marraiges wold reduce the chances of divorce...if my husband wants to have sex with someone he fids attractive, and does it with myknowledge and still comes home to me, or vice versa..more power to him

Well sure, thats the ultimate goal, but isn't dating also about friendships and good times? I've dated guys that were just friends, and you know what? Often just getting out there, even with friends, does alot more than offer a good time. Sometimes you discover new interests and desires, you meet new people, and you keep yourself busy. Then you just might realize its kinda fun.

You spoke of a committed relationship this time, but before you used the words "marriage and kids", and for alot of people in the dating scene, thats a little scary to hear right off the bat. It just sounds, oh....needy. I'm guessing you don't really mean it to that extreme, you're probably just frustrated?
And don't worry too much about the biological clock, you still have many good years on you.

 

[sohopoet]

Available men

Yes we do exist this is true, and some of us are actually available. Myself, for instance, I am smart, educated, and love kids would like to have a family. However, I have discovered that too many women want to marry a man who is famous, rich or even worse someone who does not want intelligent conversation. So I can sympathize with your dilemna.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

we're all gay...

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I like being married so much I've done it several times. That whole "family" thing always makes me a little twitchy, though.

 

[cherrypi28]

Re: Available men

Yes we do exist this is true, and some of us are actually available. Myself, for instance, I am smart, educated, and love kids would like to have a family. However, I have discovered that too many women want to marry a man who is famous, rich or even worse someone who does not want intelligent conversation. So I can sympathize with your dilemna.

i could care less about fortune and fame....i do expcect my husband to work hard as i do, but i just wan to love and care for him, be his best friend as well as his best lover. I want him to ask how my day was and listen as i tell him, as i will do the same for him....i want romance and love, kissinng and holding, whispering andtalking....oh woe is me!

 

[intrigued]

Cherrypi....I've never done this before, I hope its OK...I was just wondering if maybe you'll share what your siggie means to you? I've been pondering it and I'm just not sure...

Thank you!

 

[cherrypi28]

Cherrypi....I've never done this before, I hope its OK...I was just wondering if maybe you'll share what your siggie means to you? I've been pondering it and I'm just not sure...

Thank you!

my siggie? my signature?

 

[The Heretic]

BTDT and not looking to repeat. I am willing to get into a serious or semi-serious relationship with someone, but I don't think I will ever get married again, definitely no more kids - I am ready for grandkids now.

 

[intrigued]

my siggie? my signature?

I'm sorry...yes.

 

[Lancecastor]

What women really want, what they long for whether they know it or not, are the three most powerful attributes a man can posses:

1- Confidence
2- (Self) Control
3- Challenge


The man who is your potential long term mate will let you know when he's interested, but he probably won't chase you.

If you try and control the agenda with talk of marriage, children and commitment, you'll likely wind up a spinster.

So, remain healthy and feminine, do the things you like to do, don't whore around, smile and be nice to your friends and their friends.

He'll pop up soon enough and make himself known to you.

Lance

 

[cherrypi28]

it is actually from a nickelback song.....i feel like alot of the time i am standing outside myself...i can see what is happening to me and i know it is happening but i cant feel it any more. i think that comes from years of dissappointment and broken hearts. thats why i like the sight without a sense of feeling.....and every time i meet someone who seems true and honest and then hurts me yet again....it reminds me of who i am....the other great line in the song is its not like you to say sorry, i was waiting on a different story,this time im mistaken for handing you a heart worth breaking...man i love this song...its so me......ok one last line and i will quit..lol....its not not like you did know i said i love you and i swear still do.....and it must have been so bad, living with me must have killed you.....and the line these 5 words are we having fun yet...lol...ok im done now....lol