Any curious ladies posting here with an interest in BDSM?

[WriterDom]

I'm sure there are. I was averaging 2 private responses a day on my personal ad until I shut it down. And I'm not looking at the moment, so please don't PM me asking for training. I'm just curious who has been toying with the idea of exploring but just can't get up the will to look for someone in real life. Also I'd like to hear from anyone who tired it and had a bad experience and wants no part of it now.

I could ask on the bdsm board, but I doubt that anyone hangs out there that tried it and doesn't like it.

 

[Missingmeds]

I don't post on the BDSM board and I am not exactly curious, but I am spreading my wings again. Several people here have benefitted from me doing so.

But then I am not submissive in any sense of the word so that probably is why I don't post on the BDSM board.

 

[His lil secret]

I'm sure there are. I was averaging 2 private responses a day on my personal ad until I shut it down. And I'm not looking at the moment, so please don't PM me asking for training. I'm just curious who has been toying with the idea of exploring but just can't get up the will to look for someone in real life. Also I'd like to hear from anyone who tired it and had a bad experience and wants no part of it now.

I could ask on the bdsm board, but I doubt that anyone hangs out there that tried it and doesn't like it.

Hi, I thought I'd contribute my two cents worth .
I was a submissive for nearly two years to a man who lived an hour away from me. Basically while the man gave excellent floggings and enjoyed my oral talents; he treated me like a fuckrag. But I kept going back, partly because it was so difficult to find someone willing to play; and someone close enough to me; and partly because I learned so very much.
I also learned a few unsavory things.
I learned that people make promises they don't intend to keep just to get what they want.
I also learned that no amount of IM's and phone calls can truly tell you what kind of person you're dealing with and that jumping into such an arrangement too soon can only bring trouble.
I also learned he enoyed the "chase" more than anything.

I'll never get caught up in that lifestyle again. I'll do without.
It's self flagellation for me from this point on.

 

[Woodmiester]

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I'll never get caught up in that lifestyle again. I'll do without.
It's self flagellation for me from this point on.

For what it's worth I'm so very proud of you!!!!

 

[WriterDom]

Re: Re: Any curious ladies posting here with an interest in BDSM?

I'll never get caught up in that lifestyle again. I'll do without.
It's self flagellation for me from this point on. [/B]

I'm sorry that happened, but doesn't that happen in all relationships? I don't see the bdsm connection. I've been hurt before in both nilla and bdsm relationships, and I'm sure I've hurt at times as well.

Gibran says it best:

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,

Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,

Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but I think there is someone out there for everyone, and denying your submissiveness isn't going to shield you from getting hurt again.

 

[His lil secret]

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I'm sorry that happened, but doesn't that happen in all relationships? I don't see the bdsm connection. I've been hurt before in both nilla and bdsm relationships, and I'm sure I've hurt at times as well.

Gibran says it best:

But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,

Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,

Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but I think there is someone out there for everyone, and denying your submissiveness isn't going to shield you from getting hurt again.

I'm able to realize my submissive needs and desires with my husband at present. and i don't have to call him Master, Sir, or Lord so and so..
It all worked out in the end. I just miss the floggings most of all.
Thanks for the thread and the opportunity to "vent"
Best of luck to you.

 

[His lil secret]

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For what it's worth I'm so very proud of you!!!!

ty love !!

 

[WriterDom]

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I just miss the floggings most of all.

Then buy him one for his birthday

 

[His lil secret]

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Then buy him one for his birthday

*giggles*
hmmm my birthday IS coming up soon ... now that's a thought !!

 

[DirtyJJ]

I'm sure there are. I was averaging 2 private responses a day on my personal ad until I shut it down. And I'm not looking at the moment, so please don't PM me asking for training. I'm just curious who has been toying with the idea of exploring but just can't get up the will to look for someone in real life. Also I'd like to hear from anyone who tired it and had a bad experience and wants no part of it now.

I could ask on the bdsm board, but I doubt that anyone hangs out there that tried it and doesn't like it.

I think I am a little interested in some mild BDSM. I would like to explore that a little more with my husband, but I am not sure how. He is fairly passive in bed... and I want to be more submissive. So that's not working right now. It's not a burning desire, but I think I would really like it if I could get him to act a little more dominant. Funny... he has a pretty strong personality out of bed, but not in bed.
DJJ

 

[Woodmiester]

Re: Re: Any curious ladies posting here with an interest in BDSM?

I think I am a little interested in some mild BDSM. I would like to explore that a little more with my husband, but I am not sure how. He is fairly passive in bed... and I want to be more submissive. So that's not working right now. It's not a burning desire, but I think I would really like it if I could get him to act a little more dominant. Funny... he has a pretty strong personality out of bed, but not in bed.
DJJ

Have you told him this? If not do so

 

[Woodmiester]

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*giggles*
hmmm my birthday IS coming up soon ... now that's a thought !!

Oh yea .......... now the thought of you across my lap for some birthday spanks ..........

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

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Also I'd like to hear from anyone who tired it and had a bad experience and wants no part of it now.

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*raising hand*
I had a 2 year LDR with a man who brought my submissive side out into the open. Tho the relationship didn't last, I learned some valuable things about myself.
I am not currently seeking that sort of relationship, or any form of relationship, but won't say no if the right person walks into my life.
For me, to give myself over to another takes a certain type of man. One that I can feel safe with and have confidence that he will abide by the unspoken and oft times ignored rules:
Safe, Sane and Consensual.
Who knows what my future holds?

~kym~Formerly MY-Sir's-k-

 

[WriterDom]

thanks

 

[DirtyJJ]

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Have you told him this? If not do so

Yes, I have, but I don't seem to be getting the message across. I have asked him for quite a few things and he says "ok" but it doesn't happen. Maybe I need to be more specific about what I would like from him - to me, it is a dominant, take-charge attitude that would turn me on, but maybe I need to spell out some some specifics, or maybe do something like a role play.
JJ

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

thanks

~kym~ would that be a good thanks, or.. ??