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Sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now. I haven't been been able to catch up on everything you're going through, so can't really offer advice. I will say that it's OK to accept help from others. You (no matter who you are) cannot thrive in life without others.
I believe that just as dogs and wolves are pack animals, I believe we humans are also. We need our group, we need that support. Don't be ashamed to ask for or accept help. It doesn't make you less independent, it just means you are human.

Good luck with everything. Hope it all goes well!
 
My dear girl! That is not a good time. 😬

When you are usually the fixer it can be be so tough to accept help. Why it should be so much harder to receive than give for some personality types is . . . well, something I'd like the answer to myself.

I'm completely on board with taking a lesson from every situation. It's challenging to have people with strong opinions converse to the decisions you are making for yourself. It's an opening for a schism in your sense of self. Yet, to find those people, who disagree, but let it make no difference to the relationship or their value in you as a person can be a gift one didn't even know one needed.

This will get better. :rose:

Good luck with surgery tomorrow.
 
It took me a long time to embrace that just because I can do it myself, doesn’t mean I have to always do it myself. I knew that, but I didn’t live it. And I’m very grateful I’ve learned some of the joy and sense of belonging that comes from being supported. I’m so glad you’re allowing your community to rally around you and help. They want to help and accepting their offers is a mutual gift.

I’m always so wonderfully amazing by your open heart and loyalty. I hope you always keep that attitude ❤️

As for people with opinions…eh, 🤷‍♀️ Everyone’s got one. So unless they’re one of your rocks, I wouldn’t put any stock in them. Even then, you don’t have to agree with them.

And now surgery. That’s just a lot at once and the timing has got to be frustrating as fuck. I hope tomorrow goes well and then you’re off to a speedy recovery 🫂

P.S. I don’t really know any of my current neighbors and you’re inspiring me to think about how to change that.
 
I so love that you are putting yourself first, or rather seeing yourself as equal. It's such a process to fight through that early imprinting and subsequent social hammering that teaches us to view ourselves as ancillary.

I love hearing about your journey and your bravery and openness as you wander into uncharted waters. 💓
 
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So don't kill me, because I was in Chicago last week and didn't tell you 🫣

It was such a whirlwind trip (red eyed in, got straight to work and was outta there in 48 hours) and wasn't sure how I'd feel that first evening. Turns out I had just enough energy to meet someone for dinner who had I have had more time, I would have loved to have sex with. It was just dinner and good company.

I'll be back soon and I pinky promise to make actual plans!
 
I've had a pretty spectacular run of bros. I'm starting to really narrow in on what I like about men, and finding that in people is fantastic.

Most bros do suck, though. Respectfully.
Run like hell. Most Bros are pretty awful. Trust me. I know the worst one pretty goddamn well.
 
So I finally had a chance to listed to your updates. Glad you feel things are looking up, it sounds like you've turned a corner, so to speak.

I'm curious what you think of everything that's transpired since you started this thread. From the outside, it appears that you've grown in some ways. Perhaps not how you expected. Maybe this has allowed some freedom to truly discover what you desire. I don't know, it sound like progress, even if it has been painful at times.
 
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