Anal Advice

[tbs230]

Hey everyone...

I've decided to try anal sex, I don't have a knowledgeable partner, but we're still gonna try...YAY for me!! (very excited abou this...if you couldn't tell)

Now, question is...what should we do, cuz, yeah, I know NOTHING, except use lots and lots of lube, and also, once I find out what to do...how do I tell him? I don't think he's one of those people who are very open about technique, and that's fine for him...but it's my ass out there...literally!!!

 

[Guest]

Hey everyone...

I've decided to try anal sex, I don't have a knowledgeable partner, but we're still gonna try...YAY for me!! (very excited abou this...if you couldn't tell)

Now, question is...what should we do, cuz, yeah, I know NOTHING, except use lots and lots of lube, and also, once I find out what to do...how do I tell him? I don't think he's one of those people who are very open about technique, and that's fine for him...but it's my ass out there...literally!!!

I humbly offer my How-to story on the subject.

Anal Sex (Gasp!): A Hands-On Manual


Good luck!

 

[SweetErika]

Read through the threads in the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky (you can also get there by looking at the top of How To proper). Those threads contain superb, comprehensive advice that has helped countless people, myself included. A ton of other topics and ideas are in TBM as well. It's best if you and your partner read/learn together so you'll both know what to do and expect.

I'd also add that anal can have a pretty big learning curve even if you have the 'book smarts' down pat before the first attempt. Expect to get into it slowly and lots of trial and error over plenty of sessions. In other words, it's a process that can take a lot of fine-tuning for each couple, so don't get discouraged if the first or tenth attempt doesn't go perfectly despite all of that knowledge you have.

 

[Azuldrgon]

From my experience, the best way is to prepare is to play there. i would use your trusty toy in order to get yourself use to the idea of doing it. Remember that it's not just shoving something up there, but more of a relaxtion thing where you get use to it.

You also need to ensure he knows that he needs to take his time and that slow and steady will give you the best results. The idea of lots of lube is of course true as well as ensuring you are comfy. Your first time will be rough, but if you are patient, it will pay off.

One more thing. Don;t be so quick to get him into it. He needs prep as well, mostly mental because some guys get too excted and never get in there cause they cum too quickly.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

a couple of quick things: use a condom, and once you think you have enough lube.. use some more

 

[y=mx+b]

may I suggest a nice glass of Pinot Noir to start the evening off. Something like La Crema. You will find that it has a pleasent cherry cola flavor. However you may need to tame it down a bit with a nice meal.

 

[tbs230]

Thank YOU!!!

Thank you so much! I feel a little giddy just thinking about it...

I think I'm gonna make him read the replies himself...because he does get really excited whenever the subject comes up...I don't think he really listens when I start talking to him, so the idea of reading about it together sounds excellent!

Once again, thank you, and of course I will keep everyone posted...

 

[TBKahuna123]

Thank you so much! I feel a little giddy just thinking about it...

I think I'm gonna make him read the replies himself...because he does get really excited whenever the subject comes up...I don't think he really listens when I start talking to him, so the idea of reading about it together sounds excellent!

Once again, thank you, and of course I will keep everyone posted...

That's a really good idea. The biggest thing HE has to do is CONTROL himself. He has to go slow, better yet let you control the pace. Nothing will wreck an anal experience like a guy trying to just ram it in and out. You are the one initiating so you obviously WANT to try this. That's a big step toward success. Still this is something you work into slowly.

Just don't do it like Porn. Believe me, that doesn't work!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I humbly offer my How-to story on the subject.

Anal Sex (Gasp!): A Hands-On Manual


Good luck!

A good one, too.

 

[y=mx+b]

That's a really good idea. The biggest thing HE has to do is CONTROL himself. He has to go slow, better yet let you control the pace. Nothing will wreck an anal experience like a guy trying to just ram it in and out. You are the one initiating so you obviously WANT to try this. That's a big step toward success. Still this is something you work into slowly.

Just don't do it like Porn. Believe me, that doesn't work!

quoted just to have him have to read this post again.

You call the shots in this game sunshine... he pays respect no matter who the "dominate" person is in your sexual relationship.

 

[Guest]

A good one, too.

Thanks, SEV.

And thank you, tbs230, for your kind public comments.

I truly hope it will be helpful for your upcoming adventures!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Thanks, SEV.

And thank you, tbs230, for your kind public comments.

I truly hope it will be helpful for your upcoming adventures!

You're welcum.

 

[Guest]

You're welcum.

 

[BigFatMeat]

I'm probably too late with advice, but you have to be sure you're ready to try it out. All of the lube and patience in the world isn't going to turn it into a fucktastic experience if your can't relax and try to get into it a little bit. A lot of first-timers will go into 'cumdumpster' mode and just expect the guy to do all the work. Do and you won't have a pleasant experience.

 

[hdlynnette]

Have him start you out with a nice backrub to get you relaxed....works every time for me.

Oh...and like the others have said....don't be stingy with the lube.

 

[BigFatMeat]

Definitely don't be stingy with the lube. I love how lube sounds between two tight, warm surfaces. Drives me insane.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Silicone lube. I had never used it before but now I'm a believer. SweetErika has made me a convert. This stuff is amazing and I strongly recommend it. What I like about it is that it doesn't get sticky and last for a long time. That means more fun and no stopping to reapply!

 

[kiwichyck]

Great advice so far. For emphasis I will echo several previous comments

Silicone lube......YES!
You as the person who does the controlling....YES!

Oh and a note for your bf.

Be prepared to do nothing once you're in there. The whole PIA takes a bit of getting used to. Do NOT under any circumstances begin thrusting until she says she is ready. For me anyway, the first few times there was no thrusting involved, I just couldn't deal with it. It is far better to go excruciatingly slow or abondon the attempt, than to push it past her comfort zone. Also, once she cums, be prepared to make a fast exit. Many women can't handle any more backdoor action after the big O.

If you're into it, a spanking goes very well with anal

Otherwise, have fun!

 

[Spoon77]

if at first you don't succeed....

The only addition I have to all this is.... keep trying, and switch things up. The same positions don't work for everyone. For a long time I couldn't handle anal from behind, modified missionary was the thing then.... easier to stimulate your clit and get through the owwww part.... but after a while, well.... we can do it in just about any position we imagine now.... but if a position isn't working.... change it.... and don't be afraid to use pillows or blankets to prop things up... sometimes it helps get things lined up just right....

 

[cordite]

From my experience, the best way is to prepare is to play there. i would use your trusty toy in order to get yourself use to the idea of doing it.

I'd second this. It definitely leaves you in control and allows you to discover what's comfortable and what's not. All of the advice in this thread is really good.