An Orgasm a Day

[StrongMaster7]

A female friend of mine once told me that her mother had given her some advice on her wedding night. Her mother told her to make sure to give her husband an orgasm every day. This was to keep him happy and remind him that he had a partner who cared about his satisfaction, understood his needs, and wanted to be the one to meet those needs.

As a man whose wife did NOT get that kind of advice, I find that even after 30 years of marriage, I jerk off to porn every day to relieve my sexual need. I wake up with a hardon almost every day and my wife makes herself available to me sexually perhaps once a week, sometimes more often, sometimes less often.

Ladies, what's your opinion about giving your partner an orgasm as relief, as opposed to doing it as part of a mutually satisfying sexual experience?

Or is it his responsibility to provide his own relief? If so, is it ok if he uses porn? Has affairs? Should he just do without?

 

[policywank]

A female friend of mine once told me that her mother had given her some advice on her wedding night. Her mother told her to make sure to give her husband an orgasm every day. This was to keep him happy and remind him that he had a partner who cared about his satisfaction, understood his needs, and wanted to be the one to meet those needs.

As a man whose wife did NOT get that kind of advice, I find that even after 30 years of marriage, I jerk off to porn every day to relieve my sexual need. I wake up with a hardon almost every day and my wife makes herself available to me sexually perhaps once a week, sometimes more often, sometimes less often.

Ladies, what's your opinion about giving your partner an orgasm as relief, as opposed to doing it as part of a mutually satisfying sexual experience?

Or is it his responsibility to provide his own relief? If so, is it ok if he uses porn? Has affairs? Should he just do without?

Sexual needs are part of reality and sex is part of marriage. Obviously it is ideal if we are both "in the mood" but that isn't always going to be the case and it is one-sided to set that as the criteria. Truth is we all do things for our partners sometimes even if that isn't we would have chosen in the moment.

If you are too precious to give him a few extra blowjobs then don't bitch about him not wanting to trim the hedges. And while I don't orgasm every time its not often that I don't enjoy having his dick in me.

But expect him to be realistic too - sometimes its passionate and mutually enjoyable and sometimes I am doing it for him. You hear guys say stuff like, "I make sure she cums every time" - absolute bullshit. Female orgasms don't work that way. Don't make me feed that lie and have to fake it to get on with my day.

If you don't take care of your man then let him to do it himself or get it elsewhere.

Do without? Ya maybe for the short-term, but don't ask someone to deny their own nature long-term.

 

[coati]

As a man I do not expect my long-term female partners (former wife or others) to get me off every day. That would probably develop into drudgery for them. I would much rather have a female partner who is hungry for the act than one who is doing it out of a sense of duty. My relationships with women have always been about more than just having sex, and they have always tended to be long term. By not insisting on sex every day, I find that women tend to reveal all sorts of facets that make them more attractive to me.

However, as was expressed in the opening post, I generally need to get off more than my female partner. So I either take matters into my own hands, which has always been fun and relaxing, or I get off with another man in some safe manner. Bi men generally don't require a long term commitment, and they understand that constant need to shoot some pollen.