Am I dominant?
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I did read all this....... why not? It is interesting really.
But, as I am still in much doubt about myself too, I wouldnt know what to say to you........ except its no wonder you feel like you do after breaking up with someone, its only natural.
A little bit of advice I could give you - dont go rushing around looking for new relationship, give yourself a time and that confusion that you feel now will fade away.
But, as I am still in much doubt about myself too, I wouldnt know what to say to you........ except its no wonder you feel like you do after breaking up with someone, its only natural.
A little bit of advice I could give you - dont go rushing around looking for new relationship, give yourself a time and that confusion that you feel now will fade away.
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If it is officially decided "Yes, you are dominant"/"No, not dominant--sorry"; is that going to change anything? Of course not. You are still going to like what you like and do what you do. So don't ask dumb questions like "Am I dominant?", grasshopper--unless that was merely a self-directed rhetorical inquiry with the purpose of triggering a bit of useful introspection. We can't tell you what you are.
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I have no idea what hte heck is going on here but I can say this. There are a multitude of levels of dominance involveed in bdsm.
You could be like me where you are completely in love with females and will dominate or sub as the mood and situation dictates but at the same time you will completely dominate other males that are in the picture.
You may discover that within yourself you are more like Marquis where your dominance manifests itself and it is pretty complete, where you demand subservance from all females that are not Dom's in thier own right.
You could be a natural dominant like Angelic Assasin where there is no question as to the matter at hand.
You could be a submissive at heart that has been too hurt by breakups and is confused by what mainstream society tells you to be and you are here seeking answers for something that you are yourself unable to comprehend.
You could be totally vanilla meaning that your kinks reside in the socially accepted mainstream, perhaps with a bit of an adenturesome side.
What I'm getting at here is that there are no fast rules as to what is or is not a dominant.
Using myself as an example, I've been here for quite a while trying to figure out exactly the same thing you are. I chose to be celibate until I can be true to myself. The one truth I can say about myself is that other males who are in my way in real life are in serious danger. Mostly of severe humiliation.
I am pretty submissive at all other times. Once a girl knows that I am not to be fucked with around other guys, that I am THE alpha male on site she can use me as she pleases. I only dominate other men. This throws me into the loose category of a "daddy dom". A protective father/brother figure.
To each his own I suppose. When it comes to dominance of females in a day to day relationship I have to take a severe back seat to the likes of some of the other men/women here. Luna Wolf would probably have me for lunch, so would Sweet Dommes and even Snowy Ciara if she pouts enough. I'm a sucker for cuteness.
It doesn't make me less or more of a man here. We all accept that we are unique and different. There are no rakings of dominance/submission in reality. There are only pairings between compatible individuals.
You can be more dominant than fifty percent of the regular population and still be comsidered a sub by the likes of Mr. Blonde who I haven't seen in some time. Or AA or DVS or Luna or Dommes. You could kick ass as a heavyweight ultimate fighting champion and be the most submissive of slaves.
My advice is to lurk for a while and learn. Read the posted information and then give yourself a very honest opinion of where you fit in this society. We will accept you no matter what you are. Your thoughts and observances as a human being will be given the same consideration no matter how dom or sub you are.
And welcome to the immoral majority by the way. Everyone has a kink of some kind. Compatibility with partners is the difficult thing to realize. We can probably help you quite a bit here, just be honest with us and yourself.
You could be like me where you are completely in love with females and will dominate or sub as the mood and situation dictates but at the same time you will completely dominate other males that are in the picture.
You may discover that within yourself you are more like Marquis where your dominance manifests itself and it is pretty complete, where you demand subservance from all females that are not Dom's in thier own right.
You could be a natural dominant like Angelic Assasin where there is no question as to the matter at hand.
You could be a submissive at heart that has been too hurt by breakups and is confused by what mainstream society tells you to be and you are here seeking answers for something that you are yourself unable to comprehend.
You could be totally vanilla meaning that your kinks reside in the socially accepted mainstream, perhaps with a bit of an adenturesome side.
What I'm getting at here is that there are no fast rules as to what is or is not a dominant.
Using myself as an example, I've been here for quite a while trying to figure out exactly the same thing you are. I chose to be celibate until I can be true to myself. The one truth I can say about myself is that other males who are in my way in real life are in serious danger. Mostly of severe humiliation.
I am pretty submissive at all other times. Once a girl knows that I am not to be fucked with around other guys, that I am THE alpha male on site she can use me as she pleases. I only dominate other men. This throws me into the loose category of a "daddy dom". A protective father/brother figure.
To each his own I suppose. When it comes to dominance of females in a day to day relationship I have to take a severe back seat to the likes of some of the other men/women here. Luna Wolf would probably have me for lunch, so would Sweet Dommes and even Snowy Ciara if she pouts enough. I'm a sucker for cuteness.
It doesn't make me less or more of a man here. We all accept that we are unique and different. There are no rakings of dominance/submission in reality. There are only pairings between compatible individuals.
You can be more dominant than fifty percent of the regular population and still be comsidered a sub by the likes of Mr. Blonde who I haven't seen in some time. Or AA or DVS or Luna or Dommes. You could kick ass as a heavyweight ultimate fighting champion and be the most submissive of slaves.
My advice is to lurk for a while and learn. Read the posted information and then give yourself a very honest opinion of where you fit in this society. We will accept you no matter what you are. Your thoughts and observances as a human being will be given the same consideration no matter how dom or sub you are.
And welcome to the immoral majority by the way. Everyone has a kink of some kind. Compatibility with partners is the difficult thing to realize. We can probably help you quite a bit here, just be honest with us and yourself.
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Yeah, that was something
of the same conclusion I came to. It was an extremely poor choice for a thread title, because it didn't really reflect the question that I was asking myself which was a lot more complex.
But, I pretty much decided that at least for now, while I wouldn't want to be in a 24/7 D/s thing, that I also really enjoy that part of sex and that there was as in so many other things, a large continuum rather than a binary choice.
There was a huge long post that I decided really didn't need to be there, so I saved everything I wrote where I can think about it later and deleted it.
Anyways, thanks for your thoughtful reply
of the same conclusion I came to. It was an extremely poor choice for a thread title, because it didn't really reflect the question that I was asking myself which was a lot more complex.
But, I pretty much decided that at least for now, while I wouldn't want to be in a 24/7 D/s thing, that I also really enjoy that part of sex and that there was as in so many other things, a large continuum rather than a binary choice.
There was a huge long post that I decided really didn't need to be there, so I saved everything I wrote where I can think about it later and deleted it.
Anyways, thanks for your thoughtful reply
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