Am I a hypocrite?

[lynn-23]

I don't think so. Unfortunately Christianity looks upon sex and sexuality as Satan's work. The whole issue of sexual fun and enjoying sexual pleasures has no place in the Christian lexicon. One of the reasons that Christians speak from a bully pulpit. Enjoy your carnal pleasures.... welcome to the world of carnal pleasure like the thousands of other men and women....

I don't believe that is true at all. I am a Christian and grew up going to a rather conservative church. But we were never taught that sex was bad or evil, but a part of a loving relationship. Sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed. Certainly some churches or denominations preach certain restrictions. But those come from those churches, not from the word of God.

 

[DeceptiveSpeed]

I'm an atheist, but I can still relate to this. I'm someone who thinks sex should be saved for someone you love and are in a monogamous relationship with. I don't think casual sex is "immoral", just unhealthy. But get a little alcohol in me, and that all goes out the window.

Failing to live up to your own principles just makes you imperfect, but not necessarily a hypocrite.

Excellent post.

 

[Anomaly1964]

Excellent post.

Agreed!

 

[imready2]

We all have our demons this one is mine too! I have never cheated in 30 years but love being a little slut on here! Hubby knows I get on here but not how much! It is a tension reliever for me and makes me feel sexy and he reaps the benefits!

Hmmmm benefits....

 

[subwhore60]

away from my computer, I try to be the good wife, mother, church-going woman - but the internet has opened my eyes up to so much more. Hub & I have sex often but it isn't what I fantasize about & for the most part it's unfulfilling for me (i wouldn't tell hubby that).

My guilt is severe & often, but not enough if I keep coming back to my online play. I have had one online friend on & off for over 9 years & I fight my moral, religious feelings to actually have a physical affair.

I don't think you nor the rest of us are hypocrites - we're sinners & God loves sinners, right?! LOL... I do well by NOT slamming others when their marriage isn't working - I do want to slam spouses when they are selfish.

 

[Dream59]

I am a Christian, I take my faith seriously, I give the gospel so someone when then opportunity arises and I enjoy theological discussion...

That said, I struggle with lust, have a vivid sexual imagination, and yes, LIT is my secret from my wife...

But do these facts make me a hypocrite?

In my mind, a hypocrite would be someone who publically bashes a behavior or practice while privately participating in those behaviors...

I'm a Christian, but that is NOT a claim to be perfect...

No you are not a hypocrite. Being a Christian does not mean you are without sin. As for your wife not knowing about Lit. I see no problem with that unless you are planning to hook up with someone here. That would be wrong to almost all of the non Christians too.

 

[RjThoughts]

Perhaps you hit on a woman, and that you being married, put her off. I thought Christians were to ALWAYS be faithful to their spouses.

 

[blue4lu]

I am a Christian, I take my faith seriously, I give the gospel so someone when then opportunity arises and I enjoy theological discussion...

That said, I struggle with lust, have a vivid sexual imagination, and yes, LIT is my secret from my wife...

But do these facts make me a hypocrite?

In my mind, a hypocrite would be someone who publically bashes a behavior or practice while privately participating in those behaviors...

I'm a Christian, but that is NOT a claim to be perfect...

Damn! We're brothers. (Christian brothers AND lustful brothers). I too struggle with trying to be a faithful servant but yet one who falls, (and often), to hormonal desires. And, like some here have stated, harbor fantasies about some of the ladies in my church. Are we any worse than one who came to be one of the most revered men in the NT, (Paul), when he stated, "I don't know why I do the things I do?"

Yes, we ARE sinners, (and sinning), but we are not committing the "unpardonable sin". You and I and many others here WILL be saved but will suffer loss. THAT'S why tears will be wiped away in heaven, NOT because we have been damned to hell.

 

[RjThoughts]

Damn! We're brothers. (Christian brothers AND lustful brothers). I too struggle with trying to be a faithful servant but yet one who falls, (and often), to hormonal desires. And, like some here have stated, harbor fantasies about some of the ladies in my church. Are we any worse than one who came to be one of the most revered men in the NT, (Paul), when he stated, "I don't know why I do the things I do?"

Yes, we ARE sinners, (and sinning), but we are not committing the "unpardonable sin". You and I and many others here WILL be saved but will suffer loss. THAT'S why tears will be wiped away in heaven, NOT because we have been damned to hell.

From what I learned being Catholic, sin of the mind is STILL the same as sin of the heart. You're sinning, cheating, against your wives lusting after Lit women.

Unpardonable it is!

 

[Mbiguy77]

If you are a hypocrisy then I am a huge one. My wife and I (if you wanna get technical) cheat on each other all the time. I am bisexual but leaning towards gay. My wife is pregnant with her lovers baby.

 

[blue4lu]

From what I learned being Catholic, sin of the mind is STILL the same as sin of the heart. You're sinning, cheating, against your wives lusting after Lit women.

Unpardonable it is!

I beg to differ sir. There is only ONE unpardonable sin and that is to reject the Holy Spirit, (Jesus). All other sins are forgiveable.
Mark 3: 28-29

 

[RjThoughts]

If you are a hypocrisy then I am a huge one. My wife and I (if you wanna get technical) cheat on each other all the time. I am bisexual but leaning towards gay. My wife is pregnant with her lovers baby.

But do you go to church once a week, maybe do Wednesday night bible study, apostatize to people?

If one says they're Christian and spreads the word of God, and be on here or cheat on their spouses, then YES, hypocrisy

 

[RjThoughts]

I beg to differ sir. There is only ONE unpardonable sin and that is to reject the Holy Spirit, (Jesus). All other sins are forgiveable.
Mark 3: 28-29

So you're saying that you can cheat on your spouse, body and or soul, and be a good Christian, because Jesus forgives?

That's BULLSHIT!

 

[Mbiguy77]

But do you go to church once a week, maybe do Wednesday night bible study, apostatize to people?

If one says they're Christian and spreads the word of God, and be on here or cheat on their spouses, then YES, hypocrisy

I do go to church once a week. I used to go to a small group once a week in addition to that but RL got in the way for a few so we stopped meeting. I don't talk to random ppl about Christianity because it's always a hot topic. I have doubts myself and I'm also not as knowledgable as others.

 

[RjThoughts]

I do go to church once a week. I used to go to a small group once a week in addition to that but RL got in the way for a few so we stopped meeting. I don't talk to random ppl about Christianity because it's always a hot topic. I have doubts myself and I'm also not as knowledgable as others.

I don't like those that quote and spew verses and then come on here, cheating-in-spirit on their spouses, and when called out on it, cry.

You're doubting shows that you, too, see how hypocritical that is.

I left the Church because I could NOT wrap my head around writing dirty stories and being a good Catholic, even if I confessed to it.

 

[blue4lu]

So you're saying that you can cheat on your spouse, body and or soul, and be a good Christian, because Jesus forgives?

That's BULLSHIT!

You are misunderstanding me sir. I did NOT say that I, (or anyone) was a "good Christian". I said that the Bible says, (Mark 3: 28-29) states rather plainly that there is only ONE sin that is unpardonable.

 

[Mbiguy77]

I don't like those that quote and spew verses and then come on here, cheating-in-spirit on their spouses, and when called out on it, cry.

You're doubting shows that you, too, see how hypocritical that is.

I left the Church because I could NOT wrap my head around writing dirty stories and being a good Catholic, even if I confessed to it.

Not even gonna go into what I think about Catholics specifically. Also my doubts aren't centered around sex. I have come to the realization recently that sex is normal. It's healthy. It's not something to be ashamed of. Don't let anyone tell you what you are doing is "naughty" unless you are breaking the law.

 

[RjThoughts]

You are misunderstanding me sir. I did NOT say that I, (or anyone) was a "good Christian". I said that the Bible says, (Mark 3: 28-29) states rather plainly that there is only ONE sin that is unpardonable.

Take your quote and go away!

Your cheating on your wife, hypocrite!

 

[RjThoughts]

Not even gonna go into what I think about Catholics specifically. Also my doubts aren't centered around sex. I have come to the realization recently that sex is normal. It's healthy. It's not something to be ashamed of. Don't let anyone tell you what you are doing is "naughty" unless you are breaking the law.

BUT you're not saying you're a Christian and misbehaving on here.

 

[blue4lu]

Take your quote and go away!

Your cheating on your wife, hypocrite!

Oh, I'll "take my quote and go away" but I am curious about a line you had in an earlier post.

(I left the Church because I could NOT wrap my head around writing dirty stories and being a good Catholic, even if I confessed to it.)

Are you saying that you LEFT your church because you are here? For gosh sakes man, do not let being here a reason for not being in your church. Despite your thinking, you ARE NOT a hypocrite, (or even judgemental). You are still a good and decent Christian and my hope is you will return to your church.

 

[pplwatching]

away from my computer, I try to be the good wife, mother, church-going woman - but the internet has opened my eyes up to so much more. Hub & I have sex often but it isn't what I fantasize about & for the most part it's unfulfilling for me (i wouldn't tell hubby that).

I used to think that certain kinks would make sex more fulfilling. I do have fun when we play, but what I found the most fulfilling was the fact that were able to talk about them, and that she made an effort. It brought us closer, and I discovered a kink or two in her closet as a bonus I guess fulfillment for me is more emotional.

Would you care to share what you think will make sex with your husband more fulfilling? Is he unwilling to try those things, or to explore your fantasies?

My guilt is severe & often, but not enough if I keep coming back to my online play. I have had one online friend on & off for over 9 years & I fight my moral, religious feelings to actually have a physical affair.

I sometimes find that my moral and religious feelings are really just my intuition in disguise. We each have our own walk of faith. If we're lucky we like where the path leads.

 

[subwhore60]

I used to think that certain kinks would make sex more fulfilling. I do have fun when we play, but what I found the most fulfilling was the fact that were able to talk about them, and that she made an effort. It brought us closer, and I discovered a kink or two in her closet as a bonus I guess fulfillment for me is more emotional.

Would you care to share what you think will make sex with your husband more fulfilling? Is he unwilling to try those things, or to explore your fantasies?



I sometimes find that my moral and religious feelings are really just my intuition in disguise. We each have our own walk of faith. If we're lucky we like where the path leads.

Even with VANILLA sex, it is a one-sided satisfaction - as long as hub gets taken care of (he'll tell me that's not the case).
TO ME....fulfillment is that we BOTH are satisfied. I try hard to make sure he lacks for nothing sexually....

I don't like those that quote and spew verses and then come on here, cheating-in-spirit on their spouses, and when called out on it, cry.

You're doubting shows that you, too, see how hypocritical that is.

I left the Church because I could NOT wrap my head around writing dirty stories and being a good Catholic, even if I confessed to it.

I was totally unprepared to find a young lady in our church (my hub had her in Sunday School 6-8 years ago-she quoted the bible back & forth) writes horror stories - I've never read, but I'm told they are beyond gory. But she sees that as "work" that she enjoys but yet she attends church & is very involved.

You are using your stories as an excuse not to attend.

 

[TJReilly]

I beg to differ sir. There is only ONE unpardonable sin and that is to reject the Holy Spirit, (Jesus). All other sins are forgiveable.
Mark 3: 28-29

Even the sin of rejecting the Holy Ghost is redeemable if one repents, and accepts Jesus Christ as their savior. In truth, there is no sin which under the correct conditions cannot be forgiven. If God had intended humans to be perfect, he would not have created us flawed: life for Christians is a process of sin and redemption. Sin is expected, as is repentance.

 

[vizio]

I think that the only way you can consider yourself a hypocrite for being on lit is if chastise and criticize others for the same thing.

 

[TJReilly]

I'll take that one level higher. Am I a hypocrite to have intense sexual fantasies while sitting in the pews at church? I was raised a good catholic girl.. I find church to be a place I can have some of my most vivid fantasies. It's not anything like me being with a priest. It's thinking of people in the pews I have crushes on. The college basketball jock and his brother home for a few weeks. I can get so aroused that I'll be interrupted to stand and sing and find I can smell my scent and then feel a touch of guilt if anyone can smell it. So am I a hypocrite? I am comfortable that there is a God and I am happy and content.

Fantasizing about sex in church is not as unusual as you might think. Years ago, I dated a young catholic a woman whose sexual fantasy was having Jesus as her lover. The mental imagery was apparently quite uplifting to her as she sat in church. Sermons or not dry and boring for everyone, for some, spiritual beliefs are liberating.