Age Differences

[Kailey_86]

I don't know if this belongs here but here it goes anyway.

What is the age difference between you and your partner?

Does age matter?

For those of you with significant age differences, were there any challenges that you had to deal with? How did you get past those challenges?

 

[sexychik69]

Age is only a number to me, it's about mental maturity and understanding. My boyfriend and I are several years apart and it's pretty rare that we feel any difference in age.

Also an age difference of at least 15 years or so definitely helps with the Daddy/daughter role play, and enhances a lot of Dominant/submissive relationships, I've come to find out. So sometimes age is fun.

 

[SweetCherry]

I'm 5 1/2 years younger than She is. It works well. It's not too much where I feel like I'm out of touch with Her thoughts, feelings and niterests. But it's enough where it automatically helps me click into that "respect your elders" mentality. I like it.

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

I definitely enjoy the fact that Master is 12 years older than me. As a new slave, it helps me feel more comforted to know that I'm with a slightly older gentleman with more world experience than a younger male who might not have as much. I agree that it also helps me fall into a more naturally respectful mode.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Well I'm actually physically a year older than Daddy, but to me age is just a number. You are only as young or as old as you feel or act.

It's just another thing to put a label on if you ask me.

 

[BiBunny]

Master is 6 years older than me. I have always liked older men, and he is actually one of the youngest I've ever been attracted to.

 

[O'Mac]

In past relationships I have been the younger by 5 years and the elder by 5 years. Now, I'm pretty much the same age as my partner.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

In my current relationship, I'm 10 years older. In the relationship prior to that, she was 8 years older. Before that my girls were 6 years and 12 years younger, respectively. My ex-wife was 1 year younger. *grin*

Age doesn't matter to me, I likes who I likes.

 

[Emes]

Master is over 30 years older than me but it doesnt bother me at all. I know He has some concerns about the future but then dont we all??? I know at some point in the future there will be a time when there wont be many men older than me....but who knows....my tastes may have changed by then!!

I think it helps me with the Master / slave situation, being with someone older has helped so much with my introduction to the lifestyle

 

[m wisdom]

My pyl is 11 years older then me, the only thing that I think off that might be a problem in the future is if we decide to have kids. But there are options available for that.

Other then that the only thing is that some waitress's think that she is my sugar mama
But we don't mind

 

[Etoile]

I answered 16-20 because my Daddy is 20 years older than me. My wife is 12 years older than me.

I do feel age is important in my relationships. I am still very immature at 25, and I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone younger than myself. This goes for vanilla relationships as well as kinky ones - I just prefer someone who is older than me.

 

[Kailey_86]

Ok, so if age difference doesn't matter, do you think that the age at which you got together at matters? Say...one is 20 and the other is 11 to 15 years older.

 

[mattvltn]

my current partner is 13yrs older than me..... always gone out with older women... guess its akind of kink!... i'm 25 so i dont really know what the future holds?

xx

 

[CutieMouse]

IMO, the obvious differences in decades apart ages, diminish, as we age.

The maturity/life experiences/emotions/communication style differences of a 20 year old and 40 year old can be the Grand Canyon; the same issues between a 40 and 60 year old can be a quaint little mountain stream.

 

[Joshua69]

Age does not matter if you are in love

I don't feel age matters my lover is 23 and I am 45 years old she is very mature for her age and we have an amazing time together..

 

[serijules]

I don't feel age matters in general, but I do think it depends on the people.

A friend of mine right now is 24ish and her slave/boyfriend is at least 55 I think, or even a bit older, I can't recall. They fit together fabulously.

I don't think I would as easily be attracted to someone that was younger than myself, but I wouldn't rule it out by any means. Just from past experience, I'm usually friends with or involved with people much older than I am, and I am secure with that.

I DO have issues when the younger person is under 21 though. I don't really feel that a true understanding and experience of what it is to be an adult comes until you are at least into your 20's. (I don't have any interest in arguing this point, I'm just sharing my opinion as it relates to this post). So 17-19ish year olds being with people 2-3 times their age really isn't something I am comfortable with.

My Domme is...hmmm...7 or 8 years older than me? Not sure, I always forget her age, heh.

 

[Joshua69]

Well put, I agree that it really is about the two people and their relationship. I have met woman far older than my current partner who lacked the maturity level that she possesses.

 

[Aeroil]

I don't like other 18 year olds. They are silly.

 

[D's mariposa]

A blast from the past!

Age

This one had a good convo going, pre-hijack. (Though the hijack was pretty good too!) Does age matter

One more.. The age gap: a good idea?

 

[Kailey_86]

A blast from the past!

Age

This one had a good convo going, pre-hijack. (Though the hijack was pretty good too!) Does age matter

One more.. The age gap: a good idea?

Thanks, i'll check these out.

 

[mickyp123]

Interesting thread, i don't think age matters, its how you fit together, chemistry, love and affection, as for the future well that is tomorrow, and who knows, live for today and be happy

 

[Etoile]

I DO have issues when the younger person is under 21 though. I don't really feel that a true understanding and experience of what it is to be an adult comes until you are at least into your 20's. (I don't have any interest in arguing this point, I'm just sharing my opinion as it relates to this post). So 17-19ish year olds being with people 2-3 times their age really isn't something I am comfortable with.

Speaking as someone who was in that situation, I can say that it really depends a LOT on the older person. I was - ahem, young - when my wife and I started our relationship, and I was 19 when my Daddy and I got together. If the older person is sufficiently mature and is willing to be responsible with regard to the younger person's welfare, then I think it can work out. I'm living proof of that, I guess. However, it is also very easy for an older partner to inappropriately take advantage of a younger one, and it is incumbent on the younger partner to be careful whom they get close to. I have a few more thoughts, but my TV show is on, so those will have to wait...

 

[graceanne]

IMO, the obvious differences in decades apart ages, diminish, as we age.

The maturity/life experiences/emotions/communication style differences of a 20 year old and 40 year old can be the Grand Canyon; the same issues between a 40 and 60 year old can be a quaint little mountain stream.

That is soooooo true. K's older than me by 9 years. We raised quite a few eyebrows when I was 18, and he was 27. Now that I'm 28, and he's 37 it surprises even less people. When I'm 60 and he's 69 people probably won't even notice.

 

[snowy ciara]

hijack post, not integral to the discussion, skip if you want to

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[graceanne]

GRACIEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

You're back!

pounces, sits on her, feeds her cookies

Never go away again, okay?

*sobs* Unfortunately they want 70 dollars to turn on my phone (first months, and an activation fee). I'm at the libarary right now, not sure when I'll get a chance to come here again. Hopefully I'll come up with the money by the end of the week.