rosebud5446
Really Really Experienced
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this is really complicated, so if you have any questions, just ask, so i dont make an unecessarily long post...
blah. i don't even know where to start or what to say...
well, here's the basics of it... i live with a fwb/bf (we don't even know really what to call it, and this even kind of puts stress on the whole situation, and we really do love each other, but everytime we start falling hard for eachother, he starts to get distant, and i ask what's wrong, and basically, he doesn't want commitment ..not even necessarily commitment, but to 'let himself get too close' because he's scared of getting hurt, and pushes himself away, and we try to take things more casually. it's really annoying, because i never have had to , and don't like to hide my feelings and whatnot. he says that besides getting hurt, he doesn't want me to get pregnant or something, and then have to drop out of school and become a mechanic or something and get married... it just really frustrates me, because i just don't want to miss out on what could have been/could be still i guess... we did agree today, that living together is making it more complicated, because we feel obligated to have sex and stuff, and something is wrong if we go like a week without sex, it just seems like we're already an old married couple because he wont allow much romance, and everything can be so mundane... so i will be moving into a dorm hopefully soon, which i think will make things better, but it's like even though he's not showing me NEARLY all his feelings, he can be pretty loving, and if we love being together like we are, things are going to be a million times better i feel if he would just let himself go with it blah, i'm going on and on... i'll shut up now... really, any input is GREATLY appreciated.
blah. i don't even know where to start or what to say...
well, here's the basics of it... i live with a fwb/bf (we don't even know really what to call it, and this even kind of puts stress on the whole situation, and we really do love each other, but everytime we start falling hard for eachother, he starts to get distant, and i ask what's wrong, and basically, he doesn't want commitment ..not even necessarily commitment, but to 'let himself get too close' because he's scared of getting hurt, and pushes himself away, and we try to take things more casually. it's really annoying, because i never have had to , and don't like to hide my feelings and whatnot. he says that besides getting hurt, he doesn't want me to get pregnant or something, and then have to drop out of school and become a mechanic or something and get married... it just really frustrates me, because i just don't want to miss out on what could have been/could be still i guess... we did agree today, that living together is making it more complicated, because we feel obligated to have sex and stuff, and something is wrong if we go like a week without sex, it just seems like we're already an old married couple because he wont allow much romance, and everything can be so mundane... so i will be moving into a dorm hopefully soon, which i think will make things better, but it's like even though he's not showing me NEARLY all his feelings, he can be pretty loving, and if we love being together like we are, things are going to be a million times better i feel if he would just let himself go with it blah, i'm going on and on... i'll shut up now... really, any input is GREATLY appreciated.