You might have to cut that person out of your life. I know that sounds badSomeone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
. You have to be true to yourself. It also depends on how you feel. Don't make yourself feel bad just to make someone else feel good.
Why do we have to endure so much just to be accepted for who we are? It's utterly heartbreaking.I lost quite few "friends" when I came out: whether they faced family or peer pressure to avoid me idk, but it hurt. I knew exactly who I was and so in the end I realised not everyone wanted to be a part of my life, so I had to let them go.
We're all expert at turning a blind eye to the characteristics of a friend that we maybe tolerate but enjoy their companionship all the same, because it fits with our life. Give the other person time to come around to the idea, but as others have said, don't change who you are. You've fought long and hard for this sweetie - don't give up now.
Sucks though
Judgment (ie being judgy) is the opposite of Understanding (some1 else)Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
I'm sorry to hear about your situation Stacy. I have no magic words or good advice. I just want to say that I've always enjoyed writing to you, and hearing about you and your life. I think you are a kind, good person, and I hope and wish the best for you.Why do we have to endure so much just to be accepted for who we are? It's utterly heartbreaking.
This is someone who I came out to quite a long time ago, but has been keeping their hurt hidden to protect me. This person said that I "have a mental illness" and that it's "not normal". And that they are tired of pretending like it IS normal. I've tried to convince this person that what I'm dealing with isn't a "phase" or that it's something that I can just "get over". Sadly, it all seems to be falling on deaf ears.
So far, I've even gone as far as not going further in my transition journey other that just appearing slightly more androgynous with a bit of feminine flair. At this point, I'm ready to just invest in myself and my happiness. I'm the one I have to die with when I die, anyway.
Honestly, I'm 50 and I probably won't ever pass, but at this point, I'd much rather be a happy ugly girl than a sad pretty boy.
We hear BS like this in divorce scenarios and what they're doing to you is selfish and cruel, quite apart from being inaccurate. Perhaps they were hoping you'd change and come around to their way of thinking?! People are always expecting others will change to match their personal expectations, and it stinks.Why do we have to endure so much just to be accepted for who we are? It's utterly heartbreaking.
This is someone who I came out to quite a long time ago, but has been keeping their hurt hidden to protect me. This person said that I "have a mental illness" and that it's "not normal". And that they are tired of pretending like it IS normal. I've tried to convince this person that what I'm dealing with isn't a "phase" or that it's something that I can just "get over". Sadly, it all seems to be falling on deaf ears.
So far, I've even gone as far as not going further in my transition journey other that just appearing slightly more androgynous with a bit of feminine flair. At this point, I'm ready to just invest in myself and my happiness. I'm the one I have to die with when I die, anyway.
Honestly, I'm 50 and I probably won't ever pass, but at this point, I'd much rather be a happy ugly girl than a sad pretty boy.
The concepts of what is natural or what God intends comes from the minds of Zombies. It is factual that some humans are born with the sex organs of both male and female. The current term for these people Intresex but they were known as hermaphrodites throughout history. If humans can be born with both sexes it seems obvious to me that humans can born into the wrong body. I don't personally relate to either. My transition to being a woman who is only sexually attracted to women came about in a unique way.Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
This is going to be a distraction from Stacy's thread, but I need to point you towards some links that will clarify your understanding of intersex. There are hermaphrodites in the plant, fish and invertebrate world, but not in mammals and it's a slur to use the term wrt to people. It's clear you meant no such insult, but it helps transgender folk if their allies have all the right facts to support us
Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
If my comment was incorrect, I apologize. I only know about my own experience. What I posted was based upon vids I've watched recently. I will have to do more research. Sticky, if I am wrong, I hope that you and Stacy understand that I was trying to be supportive. Intersex was the term I could not remember.This is going to be a distraction from Stacy's thread, but I need to point you towards some links that will clarify your understanding of intersex. There are hermaphrodites in the plant, fish and invertebrate world, but not in mammals and it's a slur to use the term wrt to people. It's clear you meant no such insult, but it helps transgender folk if their allies have all the right facts to support us
I can totally see you were being supportive and my reply was not intended to be critical but just to clarify the terms. I guess I get a bit hung up on detail - it's just my way! Sorry, and no offence intended
Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
I am curious as to the nature of your relationship with and feelings towards this person, and theirs towards you.Why do we have to endure so much just to be accepted for who we are? It's utterly heartbreaking.
This is someone who I came out to quite a long time ago, but has been keeping their hurt hidden to protect me. This person said that I "have a mental illness" and that it's "not normal". And that they are tired of pretending like it IS normal. I've tried to convince this person that what I'm dealing with isn't a "phase" or that it's something that I can just "get over". Sadly, it all seems to be falling on deaf ears.
So far, I've even gone as far as not going further in my transition journey other that just appearing slightly more androgynous with a bit of feminine flair. At this point, I'm ready to just invest in myself and my happiness. I'm the one I have to die with when I die, anyway.
Honestly, I'm 50 and I probably won't ever pass, but at this point, I'd much rather be a happy ugly girl than a sad pretty boy.
Stacy. You be who you were ment to be and don't let anyone talk you out of it because it's not their idea of normal. You are what you feel in your head and your heart. Don't be miserable and unhappy the rest of your life to please someone else. Anyway if this person really cared about you they'd stand by you no matter what.Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
and . May you always find the path to happiness
I was in the same situation and lost friends and family members who wouldn’t or couldn’t accept who I was. Most people were very supportive but a few just didn’t want to know. I had comments like the one you’ve had. I had comments about being a freak or it being a phase I’d regret later. You get the idea. I was depressed and heartbroken then but now I’ve learnt that you don’t need that negativity. If they can’t accept you then they’re not a real friend.Someone very close to me who I came out to as trans said that I’m trying to normalize something that isn’t normal. I feel heartbroken over it. Now I feel like I should hide who I am for their comfort, which I know is wrong, but maybe that’s what’s best to salvage the relationship.
What are your thoughts, Dear Reader?
