Advice for a first timer

[averageblonde]

Hey, I recently talked about this under the post "Phone sex?" but it turned out that I really had a thing about losing my virginity to a guy who didn't know I was a virgin. I have decided to lose my virginity to him. We have discussed when we would finally take this big step together, and I wanted to do it next week, but he believes that we should wait and really make sure that this is what I want.

So, any advice for a first timer? Anything I should do, say, wear etc etc? What is pleasurable for a guy? How do I make it not hurt as much?

Thanks so much I really appreciate this and I will keep you updated on how it goes!

 

[EJFan]

take your time. enjoy everything. use lots of lube. communicate. experiment as much as you'd like.

just be sure you're comfortable and make it pleasurable for you. think about the journey, not the goal (as so many others would say).

 

[TBKahuna123]

And dont' get freaked if things go wrong, just roll with it. My first time was supposed to be great. A blanket in the middle of the woods on a mountain top, the moonlight shining down framing out the area, Perfect. Until it got so cold neither of us could stay aroused. You know how cold it has to be to make a 19 year old lose a hard on?

Needless to say we made the best of it and it was still a very special, if not completely successful, endeavor. I could look back on it as me and my bright ideas screwed up our first time, but I look on the bright side.

I can honestly say that if you are with someone you care about who cares about you, THAT is what you will remember about your first time. It's who you are with, not that act, that is important.

OK, so was that sappy enough for you? As I reread it I sound like a bad Halmark card, but it's true.

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

I think there was just a post about this stuff not too long ago. Just make sure you are truly ready, lots of lube, lots of forplay, and take it slow.. put a really low light on so you can see eachother... makes it more comforting if you can see his eyes . search past posts theres lots of stuff in there.

 

[CountryBoy20]

My advice is to comepletly go with the flow. Match your body rhythms with his. Let all of your feelings take over. Thats what good sex is all about, two souls joining together for a short moment in time, for the soul purpose of complete pleasure.

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

countryboy20 is right, i knew nothing about sex really but i just went with the flow and it turned out fine, nothing great nothing amazing.

 

[Obfuscated]

Well, well...

It isn't about should and shouldn't. You are sharing a milestone with someone that you care for deeply. I would have loved that. Keep plenty of lube WITHIN REACH! Your first time may or may not hurt, but you can't be TOO lubricated. Use a condom. You won't have the skin-on-skin, but you won't have too much friction that may be uncomfortable. Do what you want. Play music, light candles if you're into the romance thing. Dim the lights, but leave on something so you can see him.

And good luck!

 

[SweetErika]

I think there was just a post about this stuff not too long ago.

Yep, there have been many first time advice threads here recently and not so recently, and they're packed with great suggestions. Try an advanced title search for "first time" and "virgin(ity)" and look in The Blank Manual, averageblonde... it's well worth it.

 

[devils_daughter]

As has been said, just make sure it's what you want, and it's someone you care about and who cares about you.

 

[Xenolan]

You might try being on top. That lets you set the pace and go as slow as you need to.

 

[averageblonde]

Xenolan, on top? I'd be way too afraid that I would bend his penis in half and break it.

 

[christian1971]

Xenolan, on top? I'd be way too afraid that I would bend his penis in half and break it.

You will be surprised at what a penis can really do once you try one!! Beside I bet your Sexy a penis can take a lot of bending. Post a pic of self?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Xenolan, on top? I'd be way too afraid that I would bend his penis in half and break it.

No, this is actually a really good idea. It puts you in physical and emotional control. Think about the symbolism too. Rather than being under your lover as he takes your virginity, you are looking down at him, bestowing your maidenhood on him as a gift of affection.

 

[devils_daughter]

If you have a strong hymen you on top could be a bit of a problem. I found it totally impossible the first time. The only way I could do it was missionary.

 

[averageblonde]

Doing the deed tonight. Looking forward to it like you wouldn't believe. I'll put my pic on later.