Ability To Be What You Want To Be

[Miss Diva]

Ok I am again on the feminist movement (don't ask my why). It is early in the morning here in the Great White (actually muddy) North and I have to go to work for the evil telecommunications empire....

Has the feminist movement made it easier or more difficult for women or men to submit?

Has the feminist movement made it easier or more difficult for women or men to become Doms or Dommes?

Have more people come out of the proverbial closet?

Basically has the feminist movement affected your decisions to "become" a pyl or PYL?

 

[catalina_francisco]

My short answer for whether it makes it easier or more difficult would be it depends on your mindset and approach. I find with most things you can either draw on the positives and use them to your advantage, or concentrate on the negatives and use them just as successfully to your advantage. Neither way is easy, but it is a lot about whether you are ready to face the challenge, or whether it scares you and is easier to find reasons not to. Feminism still has a long way to go, but it has opened a lot of doors previously shut with the key buried in the proverbial haystack....individuals can celebrate those changes and embrace them, or they can look at it like the glass half empty scenario and find a point of blame.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

Absolutely feminism has made a huge difference in the sexuality of me and all of my partners, male and female. I can't even imagine what my sexuality would be or be like if I didn't have the social sea changes around me that I have. My entire life and therefore my entire sexuality would be different.

Even my 54 year old slave has been impacted by the changes in society -- when he was looking for a sexually dominant/aggressive girlfriend in the 70's he felt he may as well have been hunting sea witches or fairy godmothers -- that such women were purely a construct of fiction, and at the time most women were still strongly encouraged to demure, defer, and stand by their man not take charge, this in a mainstream sense. (I don't know that the mainstream really has changed as much as we think it has)

I think I've escaped my coming of age relatively free of sexual hangups, and I don't think this would be remotely as likely had I been born before the 70's. Possible, but far less likely. I've always gotten the message that I can do what I feel like doing in life, that sex is something to be enjoyed as best I see fit, etc.

The whole notion that sex (BDSM, Dom, Sub, lesbian, vanilla, man-on-top what have you) is something for women to enjoy, explore, and do anything more than simply ENDURE -- that IS a feminist idea, people. It simply didn't exist until fairly recently. The internet-erotica-porn-sex-info-sex-toys boom has been the biggest revolution in female sexuality since the pill, if you were to ask me. Women have anonymous access to heretofore embarrassing and unthinkable sexuality info/practises.

I suppose male Doms may seem to have a harder time of it on the surface. Personally, I appreciate the male Dom who has to reconcile his belief in equality and fundamental human rights with his sexual orientation as much as I do and as much as a feminist femsub does. I appreciate a philosophical outlook that has to wrangle a few contradictions and forces us to keep our bedrooms imaginitive, our sexualities free, and our social and political selves connected at the same time.

 

[WriterDom]

Male homosexuals deserve more credit than fems when we talk bdsm. I would think, anyway.

 

[babiesmiles]

I do agree with Netzach .

In my opinion and for my experiences , the feminism had a big impact on people 's comprehension about the way to see their whole lives and consequently regard to sexuality in its varied shapes and flavours.

Feminism promoting women's higher degree of awareness about their rights and social condition also allowed both males and females to explore with more freedom of thought their inner desires and inclinations about sexuality .

What nowadays lot of people, mainly the young , take for granted e.g. the freedom to be whatever one choose to be or even better the freedom to be and to show whatever one is , has not always been that way.

Even if for a matter of age I didn't live the "feminism golden age" I am old enough to remember rather well the evolution which started ( somewhere faster somewhere more slowly) years ago and still is happening in the common sense to understand sexuality and its different needs as natural and healthy for mind and body .

The freedom we have to think with awareress about our sexual desires and being able to live them completely , without any negative stigma and why not sometimes proudly and happily, in my opinion arises from there .



ps . I truly hope I was understandable, I'm not stupid ( true !! ) just not English speaking

 

[TaintedB]

Feminism was the inspriation/motivation for a whole new breed of angry male misogynists, so I guess it can't be all bad.

 

[babiesmiles]

Feminism was the inspriation/motivation for a whole new breed of angry male misogynists, so I guess it can't be all bad.

uh ...but luckily males aren't all that way !

From a female sub point of view whereas I can find an "angry " man ( aka Dom ) quite enjoying I rarely find interesting a misogynist one !

An even minimum amount of mutual liking is always required in every kind of game and imho is not a great fun to play with a misogynist !

It means you ( general you ) are playing with a PLY who doesnt like women ( i.e. myself ) , at least in its former etymological meaning , and honestly it doesn't amuse me at all !

No polemics intended !! I'm a quiet one