A year's a long time

[haldir]

It is not my intention to get any of you down - I'll say this up front.

Today is the first anniversary of my constructive dismissal by my ex. and I'm struggling a bit.

Having said that, a lot of good things have happened in the last 12 months. I've discovered the delights of Lit., started writing, drawing and playing music again. I'm about to start studying again and I've started my own business.

I doubt I would have done any of these things if I hadn't been on my own.

It's been a lonely year in many ways but I really just wanted to say a BIG thank-you to all my buddies here. You've helped me in more ways than I can articulate

Oh - and you are all such a great turn-on too.

 

[Guest]

BRAVO for you Haldir.
youve made it your year even through the tough times. youre the strong one, even if you can't see it.
keep on, keepin on...
im smilin proud of ya handsome.

 

[NoJo]

It is not my intention to get any of you down - I'll say this up front.

Today is the first anniversary of my constructive dismissal by my ex. and I'm struggling a bit.

Having said that, a lot of good things have happened in the last 12 months. I've discovered the delights of Lit., started writing, drawing and playing music again. I'm about to start studying again and I've started my own business.

I doubt I would have done any of these things if I hadn't been on my own.

It's been a lonely year in many ways but I really just wanted to say a BIG thank-you to all my buddies here. You've helped me in more ways than I can articulate

Oh - and you are all such a great turn-on too.

Relish the tail-spin. You won't crash, and when you level out, you'll find yourself flying in the right direction, most likely.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I don't know how many of us find out way into Lit on our hands and knees (and not in a good kind of hands and knees either), but let's face it: if our lives were all wine and roses, we wouldn't be spending so much time here in the first place.

But as long as there's lust, there's life, and as long as there's life, there's hope. Hang in there, Haldir.

--Zoot

 

[impressive]

But as long as there's lust, there's life, and as long as there's life, there's hope.

 

[NoJo]

But as long as there's lust, there's life, and as long as there's life, there's hope.

--Zoot

And as long as there's hope, there's love.

 

[impressive]

And as long as there's hope, there's love.

So, we've got LUST > LIFE > HOPE > LOVE

That tells me that porn is the key to love. I knew it!

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* Haldir...keep it up hun


the good work i mean!!!

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Kudos to you my friend, the prospect of being alone is a frightening thing indeed and you've come through the hardest part.

Good luck as you continue your journey.

 

[Boota]

Haldir, you certainly used your time wisely. I did the same thing, and I'm glad I did. Taking the time to work on oneself is never time wasted.

Good luck.

 

[elsol]

Okay... since nobody else asked.

What the hell is a 'constructive dismissal'?

Not what it means... I'm not stupid... but how does one do it so that it can be a constructive dismissal.

And I thought setting a date for a breakup made me bad.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[angelicminx]

We don't know one another...yet...but I have to say, I'm proud of you! You took what life dished out and made it into a positive thing. Kisses and hugs to bring you through this day (whether you need them or not )

Nice to meet you!



Minx

 

[LadyJeanne]

Okay... since nobody else asked.

What the hell is a 'constructive dismissal'?

Not what it means... I'm not stupid... but how does one do it so that it can be a constructive dismissal.

And I thought setting a date for a breakup made me bad.

Sincerely,
ElSol

A date is better than an email, anyway. At least you've made the effort to face them in person.

Good luck to you, Haldir! Sounds like you're coming through to the other side better off for it.

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

. . . a lot of good things have happened in the last 12 months. I've discovered the delights of Lit., started writing, drawing and playing music again. I'm about to start studying again and I've started my own business. . .

Happy First Anniversary of You returning to being You.

One of the truly negative things I have found wrong with certain kinds of relationship, is how much of one’s oxygen another can consume.

After your constructive dismissal, now that you have gone back to breathing for one, you begin to see how much of your own talents and interests you had sacrificed for the sake of the relationship.

Although the odd heartache may recur occasionally, each day you will see the cost more clearly, and resolve more firmly never to allow yourself to be so greatly taken over, ever again.



Or perhaps I am merely reading a part of my history into your words.

 

[Wildcard Ky]

It sounds to me like you're doing quite well with a bad situation that was dealt to you. I went through the same thing about 12 years ago. The first year is definitely the hardest. The most important thing is getting back to being you instead of being the person that was hurt by another. Sounds like you're well on your way to that.

 

[haldir]

Vella - thanks. you will always be one of my stars

Joe -

Mab & Impressive - hugs and thanks

EL -

Abs & Boota - thanks my friends

Elsol - I was just using it in it's business context. I wasn't wanted and so a reason was found to get rid of me. You were not "bad" for setting a date.

Angelicminx - why thank you. we should get ot know each other better?

Mi Lady - thanks for the support, and yes, I am stronger now than I was.

V-B - yes you are reading your own experience into my words. But in a good way. Thanks for that

All your responses are exactly why I relish this place to the extent that i do. Had a good day, finishing with watching my son playing rugby and being named man of the match (even if he is only 12). (sorry - proud Dad)

 

[haldir]

Wildcard - thanks mate