A useful video for writing the Female O

[Djmac1031]

So I've actually enjoyed this doctor's channel on You Tube for awhile now, she's very informative when it comes to both male and female sexual health.

This video recently popped up in my feed about what happens physically during female orgasm.

While it's very technical in it's descriptions, I found it incredibly helpful as a tool for my writing.

As a man, I can of course only speculate what's going on with a woman as she orgasms, based on my limited observations.

I'm also currently writing a story where the female lead is looking at her own orgasms in a far more technical way, and I was looking for a less flowery, artsy way of describing the process. This video pretty much nails what I was looking for.

I pass it along as a possible helpful tool for others. It's short, just over 4 minutes.

 

[nice90sguy]

It's short, just over 4 minutes

Maybe she should smoke some weed, it will last longer

 

[NotWise]

That was interesting. Now I'm trying to imagine a woman's orgasm going on for a full, uninterrupted minute.

Seems exhausting.

 

[MajorRewrite]

Best use of blooming flowers in a short documentary.

 

[Djmac1031]

Best use of blooming flowers in a short documentary.

A well deserved, phallic shaped Oscar.

 

[MillieDynamite]

A well deserved, phallic shaped Oscar.

The erect Oscar and hanging balls award.

 

[stickygirl]

Well I confirmed one thing - there was a thread about the clitoris recently where I mentioned that the clitoris gets smaller just before orgasm and asked if anyone else had noticed. Tumbleweed... It makes me laugh, because right when you're quietly painting circles, she goes all bashful and hides. Then the boss tries to bust your teeth out with her pubic bone. Sex is tough.

 

[ElectricBlue]

This is a useful site for the female O. It's also about writing, so even more relevant.

Hysterical Literature

 

[Handley_Page]

Well I confirmed one thing - there was a thread about the clitoris recently where I mentioned that the clitoris gets smaller just before orgasm and asked if anyone else had noticed. Tumbleweed... It makes me laugh, because right when you're quietly painting circles, she goes all bashful and hides. Then the boss tries to bust your teeth out with her pubic bone. Sex is tough.

My (late) used to try & break my neck. . . .

 

[SimonDoom]

Best use of blooming flowers in a short documentary.

And berries and chocolate!

 

[Djmac1031]

So I just transcribed, briefly, the doctors descriptions, and while again very clinical, in my particular case I was looking for just that kind of thing for a character I'm writing who would view and describe her orgasms in a more clinical way.

Here's my transcript:

1st phase: excitement
Increase in heart rate and blood pressure
"Vasal congestion" increased blood flow to genitals, clitoris
Clit enlarges, vagina elongates and widens
Vaginal walls create lubrication
Labia minora thin to allow space for penis
Sex flush = pinkish spots on skin
Vaginal muscles tighten


Plateau phase
Just before orgasm
Clit becomes more sensitive, withdrawals under hood
Glans of outer part of vagina swells, make more lubrication
Pelvic floor muscles tighten

Orgasm
Increased heart rate. Blood pressure
Pupils dilate
Involuntary vocalization
Pelvic floor contractions 0.8 second intervals
Euphoric / meditative state

Resolution phase
Blood pressure drops
Muscles relax
Some, not all, may experience a Refractory period; inability to orgasm again quickly.

While as writers, we all prefer more flowery, descriptive descriptions, terms like "vasal congestion" and "Pelvic floor contractions " might come in handy.

Again, at least for me, in this particular story.

 

[Djmac1031]

Thanks for this, I've shied away from writing much about this because I don't have a vagina. Anytime I've ever asked someone (female) to describe their orgasm, it's never resulted in anything as useful as this.

I've Google searched "women describe orgasm" and found a few somewhat useful articles where women describe what it FEELS like, usually using some kind of analogy.

Which is of course helpful in describing what a woman character might think / feel in her head as she orgasms.

But yeah, this more clinical breakdown of what physically happens may also have it's uses.

 

[stickygirl]

I think it's good to have the clinical background - it's essential reading for men... and is there one for women to read too? The point is though, once you read it, is don't whatever you do make mention of it in a story. You're still going to need to get inside her head and never be tempted to say 'I noted her labia minori shrinking a little and thrust harder than ever, knowing she was almost ,( checking my wristwatch ) after twenty fricking minutes, there.'

Your list does read like a Haines Car manual, but all knowledge is good knowledge That doesn't include the knowledge of what someone's dick looks like on a PM.

 

[Djmac1031]

I think it's good to have the clinical background - it's essential reading for men... and is there one for women to read too? The point is though, once you read it, is don't whatever you do make mention of it in a story. You're still going to need to get inside her head and never be tempted to say 'I noted her labia minori shrinking a little and thrust harder than ever, knowing she was almost ,( checking my wristwatch ) after twenty fricking minutes, there.'

Your list does read like a Haines Car manual, but all knowledge is good knowledge That doesn't include the knowledge of what someone's dick looks like on a PM.

In general, you're absolutely right. No one wants a sex scene to read like a medical book.

As I've mentioned, in a story I'm currently working on, I do have need of the more clinical descriptions for reasons that will be apparent in the story. In this instance, they will fit the character.

In more normal writing, the woman wouldn't be thinking "My eyes dialated as my pelvic floor contracted," nor would the man be describing increased heart rate and blood pressure.


Still, this clinical breakdown can be useful as we write a more descriptive, titillating progression of our women characters as they build up to and experience orgasm.

 

[stickygirl]

In general, you're absolutely right. No one wants a sex scene to read like a medical book.

As I've mentioned, in a story I'm currently working on, I do have need of the more clinical descriptions for reasons that will be apparent in the story. In this instance, they will fit the character.

In more normal writing, the woman wouldn't be thinking "My eyes dialated as my pelvic floor contracted," nor would the man be describing increased heart rate and blood pressure.


Still, this clinical breakdown can be useful as we write a more descriptive, titillating progression of our women characters as they build up to and experience orgasm.

I knew that. I knew you wouldn't be using the info literally and I'm sorry if I gave that impression. Hopefully there was enough humour in there for an implied xx
actually , you'll prefer a beer to a rose so here you go

 

[Euphony]

I think it's good to have the clinical background - it's essential reading for men... and is there one for women to read too? The point is though, once you read it, is don't whatever you do make mention of it in a story. You're still going to need to get inside her head and never be tempted to say 'I noted her labia minori shrinking a little and thrust harder than ever, knowing she was almost ,( checking my wristwatch ) after twenty fricking minutes, there.'

Your list does read like a Haines Car manual, but all knowledge is good knowledge That doesn't include the knowledge of what someone's dick looks like on a PM.

I felt similarly.

This read as tools in the toolkit but I worried a few (likely men) would feel they'd struck some sort of gold and overuse or misuse it in the grand scheme.

I'm not completely out on "making mention" of it but it is an ULTRA fine tightrope to walk, as you've pointed out.
Think jewelers file not sledgehammer.

I believe it can be done (I'm also an creativity "optimist" and like to see try and fails over blanket discouragement) but the emotional components of the sexual interaction likely have to be so voluminous and thoroughly on point as to need the serious counterbalance of the smallest details of the female response. (savory to cut cloying sweetness)

Sexual characters need supported reasons to be so savvy and to have that knowledge and perception cut through the "fog of sex" that's likely happening at those final heights.

It's an interesting cognitive exercise to think about.

 

[Djmac1031]

I knew that. I knew you wouldn't be using the info literally and I'm sorry if I gave that impression. Hopefully there was enough humour in there for an implied xx
actually , you'll prefer a beer to a rose so here you go

Absolutely understood your intent, no misunderstanding at all.

But I'll take that beer anyway

 

[Euphony]

In general, you're absolutely right. No one wants a sex scene to read like a medical book.

In all but the most outlier cases, this is true.

As I've mentioned, in a story I'm currently working on, I do have need of the more clinical descriptions for reasons that will be apparent in the story. In this instance, they will fit the character.

Any illuminating examples are worth a go. So many offshoots come by stretching the mind muscle enough to gradually push further and further away from scenarios that do to heavy lifting to characters who you give the tools and agency to do so on their own.

In more normal writing, the woman wouldn't be thinking "My eyes dialated as my pelvic floor contracted," nor would the man be describing increased heart rate and blood pressure.


Still, this clinical breakdown can be useful as we write a more descriptive, titillating progression of our women characters as they build up to and experience orgasm.

Yes ,but my third person narrator can train his lens on these sorts of granular details easily and as I see fit. We, of course, circle back to the assumption the author uses these tools with a delicate, small part of the overall whole, and not a heavy hand.

 

[Djmac1031]

My third person narrator can train his lens on these sorts of granular details as I see fit. We, of course, circle back to the assumption the author uses these tools with a delicate, small part of the overall whole, and not a heavy hand.

Oh agreed; a Third Person narration could actually touch on the more clinical aspects (heart rate, increased blood flow, pelvic contractions) while allowing the more flowery descriptions to come from the characters themselves.

Best of both worlds if done right.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Oh agreed; a Third Person narration could actually touch on the more clinical aspects (heart rate, increased blood flow, pelvic contractions) while allowing the more flowery descriptions to come from the characters themselves.

Best of both worlds if done right.

With a long throb and a clench of her fingers on sheets, she came.

 

[stickygirl]

With a long throb and a clench of her fingers on sheets, she came.

I've heard about you and your long throb

 

[ElectricBlue]

I've heard about you and your long throb

And you, with your whitworth thread and push-rod cam. You write filthy engine, Sticky .