A Question of Discipline

[volvin]

I have often seen Threads in various forums asking if any form of Corporal punishment took place in a person’s childhood and if it affected their desire to partake in BDSM.

Which got me thinking Does the amount of Discipline your parents impose on you as a child or lack there of affect your desire for Discipline from your Dominate or your Desire to impose forms of Disciplines on your Submissive.

For instance when I was growing up I had a pretty steady level of Discipline from my mom (she was a single parent) if I cursed I could expect a slap round the ear hole. When I would get home from school I have the option of A. Going out to play B. Watching TV C. Do my homework Anyone was ok as long as it was done by dinnertime if it wasn’t and she asked I would lose my TV and my PlayStation remote and in my latter years the keyboard on my Computer for a week (which prompted my to buy spare remotes to my PS and PC). Around the time I started High school the level of Discipline from my mom pretty much disappeared (I dropped a PC monitor from the roof on a dare didn’t see the camera got suspended for a week not even a “you stupid fuck”). For me personally the fact that I had this sort of discipline then didn’t showed me that I liked having a set of rules to live by so to speak in fact I would think every teen does but would never admit it to anyone alive. In a general sense the only affect this had on me was I impose rules on my self one simple one I still live by is if I eat that candy bar I do 100 sit-up when I get home hasn’t failed me yet.

So I ask you this when you were growing up did your parents have you under a strict set of rules or were free to run naked thought the meadow on the way home from school.
And in hindsight how do you feel about it?

PS. Please forgive any poor spelling on my part

 

[satin_coals]

So I ask you this when you were growing up did your parents have you under a strict set of rules or were free to run naked thought the meadow on the way home from school.

Lol. I love your example here because this is exactly what my parents *would* let me do.

My parents are *major* hippy people *sigh*... All through my childhood I had no discipline what-so-ever. My parents believed in letting a child be themselves, learn for themselves .. hehe. Bascially I used to run around naked alot when I was a kid and my parents thought it was healthy. I would muck around with a bee not knowing it could sting and my parents wouldn't warn me .. they'd let me learn for myself. Don't get me wrong .. they were good parents. We never got seriously injured .. I mean .. if they saw us walk off towards a cliff face they'd obviously stop us.

So when it came to rules we didn't really have many. The biggest rule in our family and the most pressed was "Love one another" .. Honest to god I'm not shitting you. But we had no curfews, no boundries. There was complete and utter trust between the kids and parents in our family .. and I guess we never gave them any reason not to stop trusting us. When it came to behaviour problems there were few with any of us. I think we turned out all right. We were left to make our own choices in life .. with our parents giving advice and guidance *only* when requested.

So all in all there was little or no control with my parents. And now, being older, I crave that control .. and looking back I see reasons in my very early childhood that ultimately points to who I am today. I don't know if the lack of parental control as a child leads me to what I crave today because of those *very* early thoughts and dreams that I never understood at the time; but then again, the more I think into it the more I get confused. Lol.

 

[volvin]

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[satin_coals]

hehe .. this place gets pretty busy in about 6 hours

 

[volvin]

Lol. I love your example here because this is exactly what my parents *would* let me do.

My parents are *major* hippy people *sigh*... All through my childhood I had no discipline what-so-ever. My parents believed in letting a child be themselves, learn for themselves .. hehe. Bascially I used to run around naked alot when I was a kid and my parents thought it was healthy. I would muck around with a bee not knowing it could sting and my parents wouldn't warn me .. they'd let me learn for myself. Don't get me wrong .. they were good parents. We never got seriously injured .. I mean .. if they saw us walk off towards a cliff face they'd obviously stop us.

So when it came to rules we didn't really have many. The biggest rule in our family and the most pressed was "Love one another" .. Honest to god I'm not shitting you. But we had no curfews, no boundries. There was complete and utter trust between the kids and parents in our family .. and I guess we never gave them any reason not to stop trusting us. When it came to behaviour problems there were few with any of us. I think we turned out all right. We were left to make our own choices in life .. with our parents giving advice and guidance *only* when requested.

So all in all there was little or no control with my parents. And now, being older, I crave that control .. and looking back I see reasons in my very early childhood that ultimately points to who I am today. I don't know if the lack of parental control as a child leads me to what I crave today because of those *very* early thoughts and dreams that I never understood at the time; but then again, the more I think into it the more I get confused. Lol.

Wait… your parents let you run around naked O_O hmm my mom once told me I took my brother and my self out naked when I was 3 and he 2 some old lady brought us back ^_^


Maybe that lack of rules made it easier for you latter in life to realize it was what you wanted it seems that way for me anyway.

 

[volvin]

hehe .. this place gets pretty busy in about 6 hours

Wow your fast i changed it after i saw your post... about 2 mins after i said that ><

 

[satin_coals]

Maybe that lack of rules made it easier for you latter in life to realize it was what you wanted it seems that way for me anyway.

Hmm .. I see your point. Maybe if my parents had been very strict and enforced alot of rules I wouldn't enjoy it so much today .. hmm .. much like if I had experienced canes, belts, straps etc. when I was younger then maybe I would have such a fond love for them today.

I actually wrote in another thread that was very like this one .. *looks for it* ahhh ha! Here we go!

Discipline at home by parents.

That one has a few more responses from both sides of the debate

Fallyn

 

[volvin]

Hmm .. I see your point. Maybe if my parents had been very strict and enforced alot of rules I wouldn't enjoy it so much today .. hmm .. much like if I had experienced canes, belts, straps etc. when I was younger then maybe I would have such a fond love for them today.

I actually wrote in another thread that was very like this one .. *looks for it* ahhh ha! Here we go!

Discipline at home by parents.

That one has a few more responses from both sides of the debate

Fallyn

That thread focuses on Punishment am thinking more of rules and you know how often did your parents ground you, in my whole life my mom only hit me a few times.. hehe and MAN were they some times she once lifted me off the floor by my throat when I was 14 becouse i broke a crystal glass funny how in hindsight i think back on that with Affection.

 

[satin_coals]

That thread focuses on Punishment am thinking more of rules and you know how often did your parents ground you, in my whole life my mom only hit me a few times.. hehe and MAN were they some times she once lifted me off the floor by my throat when I was 14 becouse i broke a crystal glass funny how in hindsight i think back on that with Affection.

I was never hit and as far as I can remember, never grounded either. I did chores if I was naughty (and fuck me, I *hate* housework now) but that was as far as it went.

I remember one time my brother thought it would be funny to get me on the bodyboard on the grass. The sad thing was we were teenagers, lol. It had been raining so it was really wet and Seth greased up the bottom really good so it would slide. He told me to take a run up, and jump onto my stomach on the bodyboard. *sigh* I should have realised at the time that he wanted ME to go first so he could see what happened, but I can be a little gullible

We learnt something that day .. wet grass + greased up bodyboard = Fallyn goes flyyyyyyingggggggggggg!

I broke 3 garden gnomes and had to pay for it out of my pocket money. I was pretty bruised up but my ego was hurt worse

 

[volvin]

There have been many threads on Punishment/growing up and if it effected your attachment to BDSM in anyway. The majority of responses come as no(at least as far as I have seen) Punishment is punishment weather being by your pissed off father or your pissed off Dom it sucks but it servers a purpose (not even going to go there, some one who is better with words then I can explain the varies uses of punishment ). What I was asking is more about the level of discipline your parents put on you or lack of in some cases and how that affected you when becoming aware of your interest in BDSM

 

[volvin]

I was never hit and as far as I can remember, never grounded either. I did chores if I was naughty (and fuck me, I *hate* housework now) but that was as far as it went.

I remember one time my brother thought it would be funny to get me on the bodyboard on the grass. The sad thing was we were teenagers, lol. It had been raining so it was really wet and Seth greased up the bottom really good so it would slide. He told me to take a run up, and jump onto my stomach on the bodyboard. *sigh* I should have realised at the time that he wanted ME to go first so he could see what happened, but I can be a little gullible

We learnt something that day .. wet grass + greased up bodyboard = Fallyn goes flyyyyyyingggggggggggg!

I broke 3 garden gnomes and had to pay for it out of my pocket money. I was pretty bruised up but my ego was hurt worse

Well I didn’t have a sister just a brother even though I was the oldest he was by far the more evil by the time I was 10 I was ware of anything involving him am almost 21 and on occasion he still hides in my closet so he can jump out and scare me he Really likes doing that for some reason