a question for experienced dom/me..

[indiandomme]

hello.
i'm new in BDSM world. i've been brought here by my boyfrined who has submissive nature. he thinks i had dominat persona but i never tried dominating him... now from 3 months i read stuff on literotica and i guess i enjoy tomenting him in diffrent ways...
but here is the question:
i usualy mak him masturbate 3 times a day but never give permission to orgasm. sometimes after he reaches the brink i give him 2o-30 more strokes... and tell him not to cum... he says he enjoys it but its all very painful and frustating....

so am i hurting him physically??? means does this ritual cause him permanent injury???

 

[artful]

hello.
i'm new in BDSM world. i've been brought here by my boyfrined who has submissive nature. he thinks i had dominat persona but i never tried dominating him... now from 3 months i read stuff on literotica and i guess i enjoy tomenting him in diffrent ways...
but here is the question:
i usualy mak him masturbate 3 times a day but never give permission to orgasm. sometimes after he reaches the brink i give him 2o-30 more strokes... and tell him not to cum... he says he enjoys it but its all very painful and frustating....

so am i hurting him physically??? means does this ritual cause him permanent injury???

It COULD! That really is a medical question,...there may be a QUALIFIED doctor in here that you could consult with,...but no Dom worth a grain of salt has that answer for you. What's ok for some,...may not be ok for others.

(JMHO)

 

[Never]

I doubt there's a problem but going to a urologists just in case sounds like a good idea.

 

[indiandomme]

thnks all

thanks artful and never.

i am thinking abt consulting doctor. its never been a problem from his side. he never complained but i think i worry for him..
let's see where it takes me...

 

[artful]

Re: thnks all

thanks artful and never.

i am thinking abt consulting doctor. its never been a problem from his side. he never complained but i think i worry for him..
let's see where it takes me...

You're very welcome. BTW,...welcome to the Forum,...if you want to read the sticky,....up at the top of the Forum page,...there's some good info in there. I don't know how much your partner has enlightened you,...but feel free to ask your questions.

 

[CarolineOh]

Welcome, IndianDomme
You might find some insights into your question on this thread on Cock Rings.http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=100338

 

[MzChrista]

You bringing him close and not letting him cum, or just making him wait for it. Too much of getting close and not getting off can cause prostate problems if you do it too much. watch out if he starts to have trouble urinating.

 

[Lancecastor]

Unless....

...he's being mechanically blocked (see cock rings, as pointed out by CarolineOh), common sense suggests his body will let him release at some point regardless.

I have a penis and have read the manual, but I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on tv.

Lance

 

[indiandomme]

hmmmm

i guess lance has a poiint here but i want to say that i've been with my bf from 2 years i know when he's on the verge... if i stop it there and wait for an hour.. he has to start again from beginning... so... any other.. suggestions from anyone???

thnak you Mzchrista... for your opiniun....

and caroline, i found manythings from that link.. thnk you too.;

Indiandomme

 

[artful]

Re: hmmmm

i guess lance has a poiint here but i want to say that i've been with my bf from 2 years i know when he's on the verge... if i stop it there and wait for an hour.. he has to start again from beginning... so... any other.. suggestions from anyone???

thnak you Mzchrista... for your opiniun....

and caroline, i found manythings from that link.. thnk you too.;

Indiandomme

I think I should point out, SOME practices are inherently safe, and some are not,...but there are ALSO, other things to consider.

Degrees, intensity, frequency, prolonged exposure etc. The MAIN question being, "Is there any chance of irreparable damage being done to the sub?"

With tongue in cheek,...we all can say yes, just as we would say yes to the possibility of irreparable damage being done by whipping. There is also the emotional state of the sub to be considered.

Being NEW to the practice, and appearing unsure of yourself, or his reactions to it, I would caution you to err on the side of SAFETY, till you understood more, of what you may be dealing with.

(jmho) but it's mine,...and I own it.

 

[indiandomme]

thanks.

thanks artful, once again for your reply...

i am feeling a bit relieved... but sometimes i think its hard for me to give pain to someone i care for... yeah.. its true i enjoy it very much... it arouses me welll but somewhere inside of me tells me thats its not right what i do to him... i dont share this thoughts with him.. but i would like to know why i feel like this.. if anyone could answer that... it will be helpful...

thanks in advance..

 

[Shadowsdream]

Just as it may be difficult for him to understand that You Dominate him because You want to and not to please him it will be difficult for You to understand that he really wants and enjoys this pain or humiliation.

It is perfectly normal for both of you to have these doubts since you are beginning a new journey into a new kind of sexuality at the same time.

The love you have for him will naturally temper the play in the beginning..You may or may not get past it. Enjoy the journey without worrying to much about what is a right or wrong emotion.

What really matters is what is right or wrong for the two of you in this particular relationship.

 

[indiandomme]

thank you

it was very hard to understnd so many times... abt the way i feel.. yes you almost understand my question and really given me the reply i need to know.. thanks shadowsdream. i really think i will get many new things to know from you in future too...

thank you again..