a question for bisexuals.

[Netzach]

I get painted with the satanically evil brush a lot in my community, people must believe my hype or something a lot more than I ever would if I were them. I'm not sure what it is. I'm a moderate sadist in my estimation and pretty cuddly and free-form and positive as a Dominant.

I think men and women alike have to create a myth every time they meet a woman who makes it clear she's not going to work out well on the bottom.

As for the rag, it's my friend. The PMS kills me for 2 days, but the rag itself is the most focused and confident I get all month, for what that's worth.

 

[coyotepondering]

To me, it feels natural. But one of these men told me that it was rather strange for S&M desires to extend only to one gender.

So I'm asking--is this that unusual? What about you?

Mileage varies. Me? I find that I only feel dominant in an S&M context towards women.

In my daily work life I actually tend to be dominant towards both genders equally but hey, the human brain is a wierd thing.

 

[LunarKitten]

Sexually, I'm interested in both genders. I have had a reasonable amount of experience with both males and females. But I find that, for some reason, I am interested in S&M strictly with males. I was once dominated by a woman, and I didn't enjoy it. It seemed to go against my natural sense of sexuality. But the paltry few times I've been dominated by men I found it to be incredibly arousing. To me, it feels natural. But one of these men told me that it was rather strange for S&M desires to extend only to one gender.

So I'm asking--is this that unusual? What about you?

I am bisexual as well. I am slave to a Master, have only bottomed for male Tops...however, I am not opposed to bottoming for a female, I'm just rather picky about who I play with and there is only one FemDom in my community I have any interest in playing with - but it would include some heavy negotiation, as she likes to play A LOT harder than I prefer

 

[snowy ciara]

Re: This is probably as clear as mud.

eThe ladies are more intimidating then the gents, for some reason. I haven't figured out why.

Another weird thing. When I think of a TG/TV Domme, she goes into the scarey as hell column, too, rather than the scarey one.

It's kind of like, if someone gave me a choice between a Dom, a Domme, or a couple of switches; I'd probably approach in the following order.. male switch , Dom, female switch, Domme. This is, of course, assuming the people are an unkown quantity. If you start throwing people I know, that could change. (Re the exceptions mentioned above.)

Clarifying myself in reference to a question in a PM.

I shouldn't have used the word "choose" up there. While I'm interested in ladies as well a gents, if I had to put the PYL's in order from least to most scary, that's how I'd do it. However, the fear factor would not rule sexy Domme-ness.

hoping this is more clear, I didn't mean to say that I wouldn't negotiate with a sexy scary lady if asked. Ironically, vanilla dates work this way for me too. It's easier for me to ask a guy out than a girll. Actually, I don't ask either out; I go for the "hint and pray " method of dating. I hint, and pray they catch it!

 

[James G 5]

Re: Re: This is probably as clear as mud.

Clarifying myself in reference to a question in a PM.

I shouldn't have used the word "choose" up there. While I'm interested in ladies as well a gents, if I had to put the PYL's in order from least to most scary, that's how I'd do it. However, the fear factor would not rule sexy Domme-ness.

hoping this is more clear, I didn't mean to say that I wouldn't negotiate with a sexy scary lady if asked. Ironically, vanilla dates work this way for me too. It's easier for me to ask a guy out than a girll. Actually, I don't ask either out; I go for the "hint and pray " method of dating. I hint, and pray they catch it!

Or you tease the scary ones here on Lit and hope they chase you while you run slow enough for them to catch you?

 

[snowy ciara]

James, if I ever had an IRL hookup with you, you'd notice the teasing stops before I get on the plane...

 

[James G 5]

James, if I ever had an IRL hookup with you, you'd notice the teasing stops before I get on the plane...

Oh, now where would the fun in THAT be?

 

[snowy ciara]

I believe the "fun" in that scenario falls in the "covering my backside" area...

 

[MissTaken]

I just wanted to add that even when I was subbing, i could never fathom bottoming to a woman.

I guess I am just not hardwired that way.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Sexually, I'm interested in both genders. I have had a reasonable amount of experience with both males and females. But I find that, for some reason, I am interested in S&M strictly with males. I was once dominated by a woman, and I didn't enjoy it. It seemed to go against my natural sense of sexuality. But the paltry few times I've been dominated by men I found it to be incredibly arousing. To me, it feels natural. But one of these men told me that it was rather strange for S&M desires to extend only to one gender.

So I'm asking--is this that unusual? What about you?

I am hard wired the opposite way I guess. I can not see myself ever being submissive to a guy. I tried it, did not like it. Women on the other hand are different. I don't make it a point to do the bottoming but when I fall for a woman, either place is fine for me and I relish that part of the relationship from either perspective.

Maybe it's because I love women and only mildly respect the average guy. But there it is in a nut shell.