a new master

[azcowboy]

I am a new master. My wife and current pet came to me about 9 months ago asking me if i could fill the dom role for her i did a lot of research and learning i am now her master. I am still trying to learn new things/ways of teaching her aswell as punishing her for not pleasing me or not being well behaved. So what i am asking is for other masters and pets/slaves to tell me what works for them

 

[Netzach]

Sit her down and make her make a big list of 100 things that are not pleasant for her, but not trauma inducing. Set a timer if you really want to make this more fun.

At the end of the time period, assuming that she's got 100 things finished, cut these little items into separate slips of paper, stick them in a jar.

Whenever she pisses you off, have her pull an item from the jar.

You can also do this with rewards.

The thing about punishment and fun is that they're subjective. Why sit around trying to mind read your partner when they're going to tell you everything you need to know in some manner?

Oh, and assuming she's not traumatized by school or something, if she doesn't have 100 things in however long (I like 20 minutes) then she endures one of the things on the list for overthinking something this simple.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I would so lose at that. I cannot think of 100 of any category of anything at one time. I think of a couple of them and then later a couple more... But then, I'm not the one asking to be punished, either

 

[Miles Long]

I would so lose at that. I cannot think of 100 of any category of anything at one time. I think of a couple of them and then later a couple more... But then, I'm not the one asking to be punished, either

I'm the same way! The only list of 100 things I could come up with quickly is Numbers From 1 to 100. Like Stella I don't ask for punishments.

I love the papers in the jars idea though!

 

[TxBookGirl]

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[azcowboy]

dom

I really enjoy the jar idea are there any slaves or pets out here that wanna tell me what they think

 

[Ex Princess]

That sounds like a fun game, especially with the timer. She won't win, but she'll get to draw from the jar right away....

 

[CutieMouse]

I really enjoy the jar idea are there any slaves or pets out here that wanna tell me what they think

Although I think Netz's list/jar idea is brilliant (all the more so by the addition of the time limit), I'm too boringly organic for stuff like that.

If I notice a skill set that would make his life easier, I learn or incorporate it. If I see a need that needs met, I ask him about it. If either of us is interested in something sexually, we talk about it. If he needs/desires to hurt me, he does; if I need or want him to hurt me, I ask. If either of us screws up or does something the other gets upset about... we deal with it as best we can, without punishments.

Like I said... boring.

 

[azcowboy]

My pet enjoys her punishment as part of her learning time and if there is something she wants or feels that she needs she will express it to me and if i see fitting i will give it to her sometimes as a reward for being well behaved

 

[Netzach]

Although I think Netz's list/jar idea is brilliant (all the more so by the addition of the time limit), I'm too boringly organic for stuff like that.

If I notice a skill set that would make his life easier, I learn or incorporate it. If I see a need that needs met, I ask him about it. If either of us is interested in something sexually, we talk about it. If he needs/desires to hurt me, he does; if I need or want him to hurt me, I ask. If either of us screws up or does something the other gets upset about... we deal with it as best we can, without punishments.

Like I said... boring.

Whoa ppl,

I've got real live dyscalculia and just about failed every timed math test on earth, so timed tests may suck for you, but I think in general the timer is an OK addition. I could do it, some could not, obviously ditch it if it's causing problems.

CM, that's more how I do things, but the jars thing is some added fun. It's not a religion or a philosophy, just one game we can play on a given night.

 

[CutieMouse]

Whoa ppl,

I've got real live dyscalculia and just about failed every timed math test on earth, so timed tests may suck for you, but I think in general the timer is an OK addition. I could do it, some could not, obviously ditch it if it's causing problems.

CM, that's more how I do things, but the jars thing is some added fun. It's not a religion or a philosophy, just one game we can play on a given night.

Oh no... trust me, the timer is... yeah.

(Damn I miss heavy mind fucks...)

But I've gotten lazy in my old age. I'm far more likely to politely beg him to hurt/rape/use me because my stress levels are too high, than actually orchestrate anything. LOL

 

[eastern sun]

Whoa ppl,

I've got real live dyscalculia and just about failed every timed math test on earth, so timed tests may suck for you, but I think in general the timer is an OK addition. I could do it, some could not, obviously ditch it if it's causing problems.

CM, that's more how I do things, but the jars thing is some added fun. It's not a religion or a philosophy, just one game we can play on a given night.

I like to mix the games with the lifestyle choices. And, for me at least, the stuff in the jar will usually be easier than the stuff that's woven into an ordinary life.