A delicate matter...

[smersh]

I really need some advice. I am totally whacked out crazy about my best friend's girlfriend. They are going through a rough patch at the moment and I really want to tell her how I feel but I am scared of being ostracised by our circle of friends ?
Should I tell her ? What should I say ? Should I make a joke of it ?

Any advice (positive or negative) will be really appreciated - its so serious I am thinking about moving away because I don't want to lose my best friend and I am struggling here !!

Thanks peeps

smersh

 

[teresafannin]

This is a difficult situation, I don't envy you. From the perspective of an old lady of 41, I would stay loyal to my friend. I have learned over the years that romances may come & go, but friends can be forever. One of my best friend's b/f's got way too attached to me. I didn't realize how serious until they broke up, he tried to go out with me, knowing I have had a b/f for the last 4 years, she got mad & we didn't speak for nearly a year. We are all friends again, but we lost a year. If you tell her how you feel & she breaks up with him, he will feel betrayed. If she gets back together with him, you will feel betrayed. I would think very carefully about this, talk to your friend & see how he feels about the whole situation. I hope this helps, it never easy when you are torn between friendship & romance. Good luck to you all.

 

[SeXySiLk]

DON'T TELL HER UNTIL THEY ARE THROUGH!!!
I was in this situation, only it was someone else liking my fiance, and she told him while we were having a rough patch, and it screwed everything up....he ended up cheating on me, and then we had alot of trouble recovering. I would wait till you know that their relationship is through before you say anything at all about your feelings for her other than friendship.

Trust me on this one.

 

[Guest]

Does anyone in your "circle of friends" currently know about your feelings about your buddy's girl? When I was in HS, I was in a group a friends (mixed genders) who all had kinda dated one another at some point in time. Even then it was difficult to see a good friend of mine dating an ex boyfriend. I can't even fathom recycling past lovers with my friends nowadays. My advice to you is to BE CAREFUL. I'm sure that doesn't help much. Sorry. Is there a chance you could lose your bud if you expressed your love for his girl? Women (or men, for the ladies out there) will come and go throughout your life, but a friendship is/should be for ever. That about that hon. If you need more advice or wanna talk, mail me or look for me at aol/aim.

~Dr Tiggs~
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[Ezzie]

Oh Tiggie? LOL

Hang on Tiggs, I'll get to you in a second. lol


Ok Smersh, the best thing you can do is put your feelings a side and stick with your friend. Girls or guys come and go but true friendships last a lifetime. I know how hard it must be to just act like you don't have feelings for this girl but for the benefit of your friendship, it's almost certainly something you have to do.

Now Tiggie, I remember those horrible days when our circle of friends would interchange each other to meet someone else's needs. Like me and Ryan turned to Kim and Ryan which turned into Kim moving out of state and Ryan becoming a stalker. LOL And who could forget the Shannon/Justin/Linds triangle? LOL Oh my goodness, I don't miss those days at all! LOL

Now, as for this "I can't even fathom recycling past lovers with my friends nowadays." I have one question for you... do you want Chris back? LMFAO IWUBU!