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[astralkiss]

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[bunny bondage]

there's a zillion posts about this and the answer is pretty much always the same: if they're really vanilla then you have no hope. however, if they're just waiting to blossom, communication and taking it slow are the keys.

 

[cellis]

I think you are doing the right things. Either he is interested or he is not... but you have done the right things by talking to him and of course that is a great book... along with Jay Weisman's "BDSM 101"...

Take it slow and then see about attending a munch and getting to know some people in your community and then see if there is a fetish night or a play party that you two can attend... believe me I think that would make all the difference.

 

[FungiUg]

There's stacks of stuff already on this.

I recommend communication -- talking about what you want, but without scaring him off.

Also, erotica is damned good for engaging the imagination and exploring the turn ons in different possibilities in a "safe" way. So maybe pick some of your favourite stories from Lit, and get him to read them?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Not sure. I am talking to him about it. I also bought "Screw the Roses, Send me the thorns" and he's reading it. So I hope that things progress as they have been.

Hey, he is reading, that is a big plus. You can always be optmistic when they do not run screaming from the room!

If you and he can discuss the things he is reading about, that will help.

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Not sure. I am talking to him about it. I also bought "Screw the Roses, Send me the thorns" and he's reading it. So I hope that things progress as they have been.

when he's done reading that. Could you let us know what he thinks/feels about it please?

 

[Daedalus77]

Bdsm covers a lot of ground. Have you defined to yourself and/or him what you are looking for? Do you want to be spanked and a sub in just the bedroom? Do you want to sit on your knees at his feet while you both watch TV? What if decides to share you? The more you can explain what you want will help him decide if he can join in.

 

[Etoile]

The library, please. The library.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=164605
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=164624

 

[zipman]

The library, please. The library.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=164605
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=164624

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I thought it was great that astralkiss actually posted an update on how things are going.

The Library is a great place but a lot of those links had nothing to do with tips.

Oh, and every single sub I have ever had was "vanilla" to start with sub tendencies!

Good luck Astral and feel free ask questions.

 

[WriterDom]

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Oh, and every single sub I have ever had was "vanilla" to start with sub tendencies!

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I've been a gateway Dom myself. But there is a lot of good in an experienced sub. They tend to get things right a lot faster.

 

[zipman]

I've been a gateway Dom myself. But there is a lot of good in an experienced sub. They tend to get things right a lot faster.

My fiancee took to it like a fish to water! I guess I'm either just lucky, or one hell of a bdsm missionary!

 

[A Desert Rose]

My fiancee took to it like a fish to water! I guess I'm either just lucky, or one hell of a bdsm missionary!

God Zip, I love your sig line. Keep forgetting to mention that to you.

 

[zipman]

God Zip, I love your sig line. Keep forgetting to mention that to you.

LOL I was just about to send you a pm to say how nice it is to see you and how much I've missed you! Then I said what the hell, let the whole world know I think you're a sweetheart!


And yes, I think my sig is one of life's indisputable facts!

 

[A Desert Rose]

LOL I was just about to send you a pm to say how nice it is to see you and how much I've missed you! Then I said what the hell, let the whole world know I think you're a sweetheart!


And yes, I think my sig is one of life's indisputable facts!

Well at the risk of turning this thread into something I should not... YOU are one of the brightest spots on the web for me. I've missed you, too.

And thank you for some of the kindest words I have received. When I grow up, I want a Dom like you to take care of me.

 

[FungiUg]

I sent him the link to the forum and he's been reading and we have been experimenting, so so far so good. and yes i have defined. I dont want to be a 24/7 and it will mainly stay within our private lives. other than that he knows what i want and my boundaries, and i am learning his.

Fantastic! It's always great to hear of successes, and I wish you even more success as you move beyond initial exploring.