❓ PLP Inquires❓

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If you know me... you know I'm a curious girly. I like asking questions about all sorts of things. Now, I'm aware there have been other 'question threads' but this will be a better question thread because I am a better Litster! (Kiddddding)

The questions will span all topics and I hope this helps people engage in a positive way and meet other people they may not normally interact with and also, less pressure than the audio thread (which the brave among you should check out!).

So, come play with me and bring your friends. And play nice!!
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?



Ok, so I will say Lit has totally changed my age range boundaries. I came in so bright eyes and busy tailed but I've found I have a better connection to guys slightly older. I'm 35 and I find men in their 40s are the best match for me.

My age or younger... I'm not sure why but we gel better as friends. I think I like the quiet confidence and respect that comes with a guy in his 40s.

Too much older and I feel like a child. Someone who needs.to be guided and taught and while I totally get that's exactly what some people like, it's not my thing.

Of course, this could change. My boundaries are alarmingly flexible but that's where I'm at today. :)
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

I don't have an age preference, i have a dynamic preference. I like a dynamic in which my partner *feels* older, but that's much more to do with temperament/personality than actual age.
 
I’m more attracted to my age, or younger, my whole life. My ex was younger.
Younger guys seem to me to be more open minded and more accepting of me as a person.
They also seem to like me. It’s not like I’m a cougar. It’s that I’m as struggling as they are.
 
When I was young, like in um tenth grade? It was an older "woman" :D In my 30s it was younger women in their twenties. My wife? She's eleven days younger than me, so younger there too :D
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

I don't. That's not to say that there aren't trends, but I think the whole idea that you have to have SOMETHING to talk about with a significant other or play partner is true. In general, I don't think easy conversation and relatability are going to come with a 19 year old as smoothly as someone closer to my own age (42). On occasion, though, I've found myself easily connected with both women significantly younger AND significantly older than me. I guess I just leave it open to the ease of connection.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?


Mine was always no play with anyone younger than my oldest daughter. Younger than a daughter seemed kinda creepy to me. So, it's been a moving baseline over the years and keeps getting older - it is now up to 33 yo. In my almost 10 years here, I think I only broke that 'rule' with one Litster knowingly.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

I feel kinda gross when they're more than 5 years younger than my newly minted 40. But then i get over it.
In general though, its always been older.
 
I used to be obsessed with older women.
My first two sexual partners were 7 years older than me.
But then I passed 50.
So I said I wanted women close to my age or older.

Now, I"ve passed 65.
Anyone over 40 is fine with me.
Maybe a mature 35.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

I've always been attracted to guys who were older than me. I never dated a guy who was younger than me. I think guys that are my age aren't capable of giving me the attention and appreciation that older guys have given me because they're too busy with their friends, school and other activities. Plus, there always seems to be some of kind of drama going on which I don't need to be a part of right now. I have enough to deal with in my life as it is. I will say though, my current boyfriend is 12 years older than me and I'm cool with that.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

I've never had a range beyond 'old enough.'

As a younger man, I often found myself attracted to older women. I think the largest difference was over 30 years. But I never wrote off anyone my own age, either. As I've gotten older, that has tended to shift to women my age or slightly younger. I get nervous when they are under 25 or so, it started to feel dangerous in an unhealthy way.

But then my last sexual partner was younger than that, and it wasn't a problem. Context matters, clearly.

Lit hasn't changed that at all. Attraction is such a mercurial thing to begin with, I can't exclude someone just because of a number. If there's attraction there, might as well see where it goes.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?
In offline life, I mostly dated men right around my age. Fortunately, the features I'm attracted to have aligned with my age.

In my 20's I was attracted to slender men with very little body hair - almost androgynous. Now I'm in my 40's and I am attracted to men with dad bods who have some silver in their hair and the experience to handle *all of this*. ;)

On Lit, I don't really set parameters but I also don't have "partners". As far as who I talk with and enjoy - age doesn't matter as much as a quick wit and an open mind.
 
04.29.19

Do you have a set age range when it come to your partners? Has Lit affected that age range? If you do, how did you create your boundaries? If you don't, why not?

When I was 24 I dated a lovely 40 year old lady who taught me a lot about life as well as sex. She was full of energy but we eventually went our separate ways. I have dated girls younger than me but they ended up cheating on me. Now I don’t really have an age range per se but more of a maturity level.
 
I don't have an age preference, i have a dynamic preference. I like a dynamic in which my partner *feels* older, but that's much more to do with temperament/personality than actual age.

I agree with this. I think I might have an age cutoff of 60. I feel like I've never jived with anyone at that age
 
Pretty much what you said, PLP.
I’m a few months short of 35 and I’ve always been one to go for older men as opposed to younger. I guess the only thing that’s changed is that I’ve been here a decade, so my “older” looks a hell of a lot more older than it used to.

The little in me doesn’t mind feeling little at all; But I don’t need a much older man to accomplish it. I’ve known a few men in their 30s who were more than capable of making me feel like that.

As for RL, older still really does it for me. I think it’s a life-experience thing, and I’ve got a fuck load of that under my belt.
 
If they ask "who's Steely Dan?" they're too young.

If they ask, they're probably "Hey nineteen".

But to answer the question - my guys have typically been around my age or older. I never really considered 'limits'. You can't help who you're attracted to. But that's just how it's been.
 
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If they don’t know who Steely Dan is....I feel badly for what they’ve missed.
 
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