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[lavendersilk]

What would be the bait in a trap for you?

What would lure me towards it from a distance would be the sound of New Wave music. But what would entice me to get in the middle of the trap so that I could be caught would be a combination of tacos and a DVD box set of Daria... wait should I only be saying Halloween stuff? Sorry, I didn't understand the assignment.

When does it become irrelevant that someone had a difficult home life growing up? Does it ever? Is it always something to consider when assessing whether someone is acting unfairly?

Sadly, we don't always have the option of looking up a person's Wikipedia page and reading about their past. First impressions are important. I do think people can change, but they have to be willing to. And you have to be willing to forgive.

Or a dog. Or a wolf. Or a bird.

Or a cat.

Yup. Let’s see how they act if you don’t do what they want you to do. Still saying all those sweet things?

Maybe they're into it.

Not just girls — but how do you feel when you just sit back and lurk a bit on Lit? What do you notice? Does anything surprise you? Does anything make you happy or sad?

I only get sad if I listen to my inner demons. Most of the time I just get bored. And I'm always happy to see posts from people I like.

This was such a breath of fresh air. Having a real conversation about a topic that we had different views on, but … there was no argument! Imagine that! It was lovely and enlightening and I still may not agree but I u fees told another point of view more.

I love having conversations like that. Where people actually listen to one another.

 

[lavendersilk]

... social lubrication.

Hi! What's your go-to brand of lube?

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

But joining in on Lit is incredibly hard. It's totally different from meeting a bunch of people in person. Lit doesn't allow for the kind of social lubrication we take for granted every day offline.

It’s weird, because this might be true, I don’t know. But for me, it’s absolutely not at all different from any other social group. The way I have met people at school, at new jobs, at bars whatever is exactly how I met them here . I laid low. I observed. I saw what people talked about what and how and then when I felt I had something funny or insightful to add, I did. And then o did it again, and again. And the people who picked up what I was laying down responded and those who didn’t, didn’t and we all just went from there. I can’t fathom any other way of doing it.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Hi! What's your go-to brand of lube?
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Astroglide... I'm late to the convo, I need help inserting myself

 

[Mei5ter]

Hi! What's your go-to brand of lube?
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Okay. It depends on what you're trying to lubricate. I could accept any of the following answers according to context:

1. WD-40 (for rust)
2. Bach Trombone Slide Cream (for...er...trombones)
3. Tequila (for social engagements)
4. KY (for anyone who's inexplicably stuck in Kentucky)
5. Mayonnaise (because sandwiches need lubrication as much as the rest of us).

Anyone replying 'tHe tEArs oF My vICtIMs' is (a) a liar and (b) works for the IRS.

What about you?

 

[lavendersilk]

Okay. It depends on what you're trying to lubricate. I could accept any of the following answers according to context:

1. WD-40 (for rust)
2. Bach Trombone Slide Cream (for...er...trombones)
3. Tequila (for social engagements)
4. KY (for anyone who's inexplicably stuck in Kentucky)
5. Mayonnaise (because sandwiches need lubrication as much as the rest of us).

Anyone replying 'tHe tEArs oF My vICtIMs' is (a) a liar and (b) works for the IRS.

What about you?

Just butter. Lots and lots of it.

 

[Apisto42]

4. KY (for anyone who's inexplicably stuck in Kentucky)

I once convinced a bunch of kids from Texas that in order to leave Kentucky I had to buy shoes and then show the border guards that I was wearing them.

 

[SimonSex]

Hi! What's your go-to brand of lube?

I have a hard time loving water-based unguents, but acknowledge the need with latex toys and such.
This may sound crazy, but I have used a cutting board cream that is FABULOSO as an all purpose lube.

https://www.skinsafeproducts.com/boos-blocks-board-cream-7-5-fl-oz-225-ml

 

[lavendersilk]

I have a hard time loving water-based unguents, but acknowledge the need with latex toys and such.
This may sound crazy, but I have used a cutting board cream that is FABULOSO as an all purpose lube.

https://www.skinsafeproducts.com/boos-blocks-board-cream-7-5-fl-oz-225-ml

Uh... when you said Fabuloso I thought you meant this. That board cream ticks all the safety boxes. If it doesn't cause cancer in California, I'm sold!

 

[SimonSex]

Uh... when you said Fabuloso I thought you meant this. That board cream ticks all the safety boxes. If it doesn't cause cancer in California, I'm sold!

Battle tested, as they say.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

5. Mayonnaise (because sandwiches need lubrication as much as the rest of us).

Or blue cheese dressing, apparently.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

What would lure me towards it from a distance would be the sound of New Wave music. But what would entice me to get in the middle of the trap so that I could be caught would be a combination of tacos and a DVD box set of Daria... wait should I only be saying Halloween stuff? Sorry, I didn't understand the assignment.

No, I like the change up! Daria! There’s something I haven’t thought of in a while. I will have to go rewatch that show. What was her friend’s name?

I’d say I’m more of a Bob’s Burgers fan or even Gravity Falls. Those shows are so clever. I didn’t appreciate them until long after they had been on for a while.

Tacos totally with you there. Might I add soup dumplings? Those are so so good. I can’t resist.

Other things that would lure me into a trap or a creepy van? Dogs, books, the beach. I’d be a goner.

Sadly, we don't always have the option of looking up a person's Wikipedia page and reading about their past.

Agreed. And it adds to who we are.

First impressions are important. I do think people can change, but they have to be willing to.

And you have to be willing to forgive.

I’m thinking about this part.

Well yes, you have to be open to a genuine friendship with them and think that they are trustworthy. You can’t come into it guarded - or more guarded than with others. There’s a baseline amount of caution I use with everyone online just because I don’t know if people really are who they say they are. (Ex: I exchanged a number of messages with “Brianna”. I never know who people are referring to when people post about an obvious alt that was exposed). And I feel naive or dumb about that but I just don’t think to doubt someone who doesn’t seem to have an ulterior motive. But that’s a whole other discussion. How do people know?? My radar is very broken.

Or a cat.

yes

Or bunny.

Maybe they're into it.

Maybe!

I only get sad if I listen to my inner demons. Most of the time I just get bored. And I'm always happy to see posts from people I like.

I notice both funny things and negative things. I notice some snarky posts or pile-ons. And I know Lit is like a void or echo chamber where people can vent and then leave it and (maybe) feel better once it’s off their chest, but it’s also not. Those words are there for a long time. And yes I know people go back and delete posts. But someone has seen them. Something that’s typed impulsively can burn away at someone for a long time.

On the flip side, when Lit is going well, it is one of the best feelings to connect with people all over the world- sometimes over humor or something personal and special. It can make your deserted island feel suddenly more inhabited, like you aren’t all alone in the way you view something.

Sometimes Lit is a life preserver and other times it’s the anchor that drags you to the bottom of the sea.

I love having conversations like that. Where people actually listen to one another.

I do too. And when we can get to a point where we aren’t so defensive and we can learn from one another and not take things so personally. But to get there, at least for me, I need to know that I’m around safe people.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts @lavendersilk . They made me think a lot too.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

These fit here tonight.

Sweet dreams, All.

 

[Mei5ter]

Or blue cheese dressing, apparently.

...but only when combined with pickle, right?

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

...but only when combined with pickle, right?

And tuna.

Ugh.

 

[Mei5ter]

It’s weird, because this might be true, I don’t know. But for me, it’s absolutely not at all different from any other social group. The way I have met people at school, at new jobs, at bars whatever is exactly how I met them here . I laid low. I observed. I saw what people talked about what and how and then when I felt I had something funny or insightful to add, I did. And then o did it again, and again. And the people who picked up what I was laying down responded and those who didn’t, didn’t and we all just went from there. I can’t fathom any other way of doing it.

For making individual friendships, I'd agree completely with this. You've met a lot of new people, and you're finding who you get on with and who you don't. And you end up with a friendship group.

I've not found Lit works in quite the same way, because everything here feels very fragmented. You have lots of different forums, all for very different things. There are hundreds of separate threads in each, each with a different creator and theme and tone. And that's why I think joining in a group is difficult, because there aren't really groups here to join.

Unless there are, and I've been doing Lit wrong. Which is entirely possible!