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Anytime...then again i am bisexual
spankableBelle
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impromptu, sure...
discussed and possibly planned out with a lover...for me it would depend on how solid a relationship i had with said lover...
i have no problem with being with a woman...
but i am a rather greedy person and can't say that my ideal thing would be to share with one...(shrugs)
(and that just knocked me off any potential list i might have been on...LOL)
discussed and possibly planned out with a lover...for me it would depend on how solid a relationship i had with said lover...
i have no problem with being with a woman...
but i am a rather greedy person and can't say that my ideal thing would be to share with one...(shrugs)
(and that just knocked me off any potential list i might have been on...LOL)
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SexyChele said:
<grin> glad i'm not the only one that's going to appear as a stick in the mud...lol
Now, if said lover was 100% A-OK with it being a MMF threesome, with full sexual contact...then i might not be so quick to say no to the MFF threesome...i mean, there's got to be some incentive here...<grin>
Plus, for me it would also depend on how often it was brought up...i mean if loverboy brought it up constantly, i'd have to seriously reconsider the whole relationship...but if it were a once in a while discussion focused more on my having sex with the other woman than with him having sex with her...i would probably be persuaded easier...though it is still the solidity of the relationship that would be in question as well as comfort level...
Ok...i'm probably knocked off a few more lists now provided that there were any lists left to be on...
i'm sure this didn't need such a lengthy comment so, that'll be all i say...unless i'm moved to open my trap again...
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Been there, done that
And I probably wouldn't do it again. I'm a bit selfish, so I'm not sure I'd want to share my husband with another woman. My previous experience was before my husband and I were together, and it didn't help out the relationship I was in at the moment.
just my two cents worth though
And I probably wouldn't do it again. I'm a bit selfish, so I'm not sure I'd want to share my husband with another woman. My previous experience was before my husband and I were together, and it didn't help out the relationship I was in at the moment.
just my two cents worth though
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This walks firmly into our fantasy world. Neither of us is sure about the member of the same sex, both of us have thought about it - a lot. Both of us have been with two members of the opposite sex (before we met) and enjoyed it a lot.
It gets down to the definition of "full." For him, especially, the question of one is penetration - giving or receiving or both. For me, it's just a gut feeling that I really am not all that interested in another woman.
So it's part of our fantasy life - and will probably stay there.
See you in the chat rooms - a great place to play out a fantasy without the physical contact.
It gets down to the definition of "full." For him, especially, the question of one is penetration - giving or receiving or both. For me, it's just a gut feeling that I really am not all that interested in another woman.
So it's part of our fantasy life - and will probably stay there.
See you in the chat rooms - a great place to play out a fantasy without the physical contact.
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This has come up for me at different times as well. I mean I can fantasize about being with a woman but to me that doesn't indicate that I would in reality. I enjoy pornos with women more usually than with men. And I have been to several female strip clubs with male friends though I haven't seen a male stripper. (Sidenote: I didn't get turned on watching the female strippers, but I did find interest in watching the men's reactions and the women's behavior towards the men.) I dont think that I have an honest interest in being with a woman. If I did I think I am honest enough with myself to recogonize this. Does this make sense to anyone else? Because quite frankly I have had several men insist that it makes me bi-sexual or bi-curious.....which I don't think it does. In fact, some have gone so far as to state a ridiculous theory that "all women really want to be with women". To which I can only just as ridiculously say "Then all men must want to be with men." There might be some people that could watch their loved one make love with someone else, but I think that would hurt me beyond belief.
I am not ruling this out for the future because tastes change as we get older. I have been caught too many times saying "I would never do that!" only to look back in 10 or so years laughing.
I would be curious to know just how many relationships didn't survive the 3 some and how many prospered.
Thank you in advance for your input.
Lady
I am not ruling this out for the future because tastes change as we get older. I have been caught too many times saying "I would never do that!" only to look back in 10 or so years laughing.
I would be curious to know just how many relationships didn't survive the 3 some and how many prospered.
Thank you in advance for your input.
Lady
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I have that same sharing problem as was mentioned above. BUT if that could be overcome somehow I don't think the situation itself is anything I'd have a problem with.
My question is what do you mean by full sexual contact? I really have no desire whatsoever to do much of anything with or recieve anything from a guy. I just don't have any sexual desire there...but would I be afraid of touching during a threesome?? NAaa...but then again I'd probably feel the same in a MFF threesome about the 'other' woman.
The bigger issue to me is I can't see myself having sex outside of a relationship...to me so much of the gratification from sex comes from that bond. So it's extremely unlikely I would ever be in that situation. It would really have to take an unusual set of circumstances and primarily be for the enjoyment of the woman.
My question is what do you mean by full sexual contact? I really have no desire whatsoever to do much of anything with or recieve anything from a guy. I just don't have any sexual desire there...but would I be afraid of touching during a threesome?? NAaa...but then again I'd probably feel the same in a MFF threesome about the 'other' woman.
The bigger issue to me is I can't see myself having sex outside of a relationship...to me so much of the gratification from sex comes from that bond. So it's extremely unlikely I would ever be in that situation. It would really have to take an unusual set of circumstances and primarily be for the enjoyment of the woman.
dreamer0919 said:
You don't feel that a consented 3way could be part of a relationship? Maybe seeing the other person as a "sex toy"? (I use that term loosely.) The other person could enhance the experience you have with your main partner.
JL
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juicylips said:
You don't feel that a consented 3way could be part of a relationship? Maybe seeing the other person as a "sex toy"? (I use that term loosely.) The other person could enhance the experience you have with your main partner.
JL
i know this wasn't directed at me, but i don't think that i would be able to see it that way...if the main relationship needs enhancement, i'm just not sure that bringing a third person in as anything (sex-toy, fantasy full-fillment, etc...) would do much good...maybe i am prudish in this one area...(shrugs)
and warned ya'll i might open my trap again...lol
belle
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i know this wasn't directed at me, but i don't think that i would be able to see it that way...if the main relationship needs enhancement, i'm just not sure that bringing a third person in as anything (sex-toy, fantasy full-fillment, etc...) would do much good...maybe i am prudish in this one area...(shrugs)
and warned ya'll i might open my trap again...lol
belle
I understand what your saying. You express yourself very well, belle.
3ways aren't for everyone, I agree. Some people see a relationship with a capital "R". All inclusive. Monogamous by choice. That's great. I was trying to say that another person added to the mix by two people who are OK with it, might end up being a good time. Better than they thought it could be.
JL
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juicylips said:
I understand what your saying. You express yourself very well, belle.
3ways aren't for everyone, I agree. Some people see a relationship with a capital "R". All inclusive. Monogamous by choice. That's great. I was trying to say that another person added to the mix by two people who are OK with it, might end up being a good time. Better than they thought it could be.
JL
Thank you, JL...that means an awful lot coming from you...truly and sincerely it does...~smile~
And i understand what you're saying, but it seems, more often than not, both partners aren't willing...there are many though that are willing, just the same...And i don't doubt that it can be a fun time had by all, i've had the fantasy, role played it out online when involved in online relationships (which are good learning tools sometimes), talked about it in RL ones as well...but for me it all comes down to the scope and direction of a relationship, the boundaries and depth of emotion involved, the trust and security...for my own personal reasons, i don't like to share...but everyone is different...
(i'm wondering if tallfella really just didn't want this sort of in depth 'let's look at it from all angles' discussion rather than just a straightforward 'i would' or 'i wouldn't' answer...lol)
i should probably hush now...lol
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LadyOfTheMist said:
My last relationship didn't survive, our threesome had a lot to do with that, our trust level just wasn't the same anymore. I guess that's a big reason I think I wouldn't do it again, although I'm married this time, I still think it would put a strain on the relationship.
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Tallfella said:
~smile~ well, You've certainly gotten mine...lol
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Re: Re: Re: Threesomes
~smile~ but, just out of curiousity, are you male or female?
mjnelson said:
~smile~ but, just out of curiousity, are you male or female?
No problem, I would be up for a mmf (I am one of the m's). Rather like the idea and I suspect that, I would be interested in exploring the possibilities with the other man. Personally speaking, once I am really turned on I am game for anything including sucking another man's cock so...
Of course, mff is fine to if that makes the number's easier
Psmith
Of course, mff is fine to if that makes the number's easier
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3somes
I have been involved in a few 3some in my time. And I would like to say for as much as fun as they were, they often times blurred the defined lines in my relationships. I dont regret what I have done I know if i didnt partake in the chances I had I would regret that, but I would also like to tell you if you have the chance to be in a three some with some one you love make sure you discuss and know what will be going on. Because things can and most likely ill change. Sex is a very powerful beast once released from its cage and often times bring its side kick jealousy.
I have been involved in a few 3some in my time. And I would like to say for as much as fun as they were, they often times blurred the defined lines in my relationships. I dont regret what I have done I know if i didnt partake in the chances I had I would regret that, but I would also like to tell you if you have the chance to be in a three some with some one you love make sure you discuss and know what will be going on. Because things can and most likely ill change. Sex is a very powerful beast once released from its cage and often times bring its side kick jealousy.
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i must say, i am quite surprised at the responses to this question. i have never been in a RL threesome, but most of the things that people have said here, only confirm my own reasoning for believing that i couldn't do it...sex is a very powerful beast as one has said, and there is a huge amount of jealousy involved, or at least there would be in me...i wrote something not long ago about a threesome in my mind...it was written by request and when the person read it, their response was 'Ouch! Guess that's not an option.' So, no matter how it is put, or how i try to envision everything being alright, knowing my own nature, i couldn't do it with my partner while involved in a relationship. i just don't share with other women well. (shrugs)
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juicylips said:
You don't feel that a consented 3way could be part of a relationship? Maybe seeing the other person as a "sex toy"? (I use that term loosely.) The other person could enhance the experience you have with your main partner.
JL
Oh, I hear you. And in a lot of ways (fantasy in particular) it sounds like a great idea. I just have a difficult time viewing a person like that. Like I said before in the right set of circumstances...I'm not against the idea. But it just seems unlikely to occur with me.
