What makes you submissive?
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CTGalPal said:
Over the years I have come to the conclusion that what makes me truly submissive is one thing and one thing only: someone to submit to.
That isn't as simple as it sounds. I identify as Dawnie's slave, but for this conversation I'm going to use submissive as it works better for my point.
It always kind of makes me cringe when people ask my BDSM orientation and I say I am a submissive. Am I really? In the context of what I am in their eyes, what I am as a stand-alone example (as they are asking just about me, not my relationship) am I really a submissive? If I were to meet my shameless lit crush in person...would I be meeting her as a submissive meeting a Dominant? No...I'd be meeting her as Seri, the person from lit. Even if she were to tie me up and do all sorts of things to me, I wouldn't be submitting...I would be bottoming. For me, an appropriate relationship has to exist in order for the submission to be there, and that relationship just wouldn't exist between two friends from lit.
So what makes me submissive? Another person to submit to, another Dominant person whom when things are happening to me, when I am following orders, when I am being fucked or beat...her pleasure is foremost on my mind and I am giving every ounce of submission I have to please her and entertain her, regardless of how I really feel about it. The focus, in other words, is not myself.
That's submission to me. And submission doesn't come with an "a" in front of it. I am Dawnie's submissive. Without Dawnie in my life, while I may still have submissive tendacies and desires, I just do not identify as "a" submissive. There is such a huge factor missing without the involvment of someone else to whom that submission is directed and for me, that kind of submission just doesn't happen between play partners.
So based on that theory, how do you know if you are one or not? Until you find someone that brings out that ability and desire to submit and shift your focus from your own desires and wants to theirs, I would have to say that in my opinion, one is not a submissive, one has submissive desires and needs.
Strange way to look at it, I know...but that's always how it's been for me. If the focus of the interaction and desires are pointing to yourself (and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever), I define that as bottoming.
My motto has always been "I bottom to many, I submit to one"
So who or what am I? To all of you here, I am Seri and I am a bottom with submissive desires and needs, or I am Dawnie's submissive/slave. To Dawnie, I am Seri, and I am her property.
Pat, I'd like to NOT buy a vowel, please.
serijules said:
Thank you for the honest response.
There is only one person that I have ever wanted to submit sexually and emotionally to because of the strong bond we share.
I am wondering if it's only him that I want to submit to or am I like this normally.
But it's an interesting thought you bring up. I will have to ponder that...
Again...thanks and visit us again with your thoughts on the subject.
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hi beautiful...
So, I have read all the comments and I would say you have some very intelligent people responding.
For me, I would say explore yourself and your urges. You will never know until you try. Also, don't get to hung up on labels just yet.
Being open and exploring will bring you to where you should be.
So, I have read all the comments and I would say you have some very intelligent people responding.
For me, I would say explore yourself and your urges. You will never know until you try. Also, don't get to hung up on labels just yet.
Being open and exploring will bring you to where you should be.
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oh yeah...
you are incredibly beautiful baby.
you are incredibly beautiful baby.
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Good afternoon, CTGalPal...
Nice place ya have here...
Have known you as a friend for a while you already know my opinion....
My first explosure to the D's world was many years ago. I meet a woman here in Connecticut that in real life was a professional Domme with a studio in Stamford. Most of here clients were executives for major N.Y.C. corporations. For her is was a power exchange. These men constantly made discussion affecting both people and business. For them it was a power release. Having to do what others said and not having to telling others what to do. She in fact had nothing to do with the sexually. There were slave to service the clients.
I on the other hand was niether her slave or a client. I was her lover. She in fact was submissive to me. It was her relinquish of power to me. Being told what to do and when to do it. She was the one that showed me my sensual side. The combination of being a Dom. and a sensualist lead me down the path to being a Daddy Dom. I do not have any desire to physical own someone. She in my case must give herself freely to me. For me it is a great sense of power knowing she gives herself willingly.
There are many level to the world of discipline you must determine thelevel you are comfortable in. You must determine what interestes you sexually also. Be open minded to allow yourself to grow. However, the very most important part of the relationship is trust. With out that small word no relationship will work. But even more important so in a Dom or Domme and submissive. That has to be the high priority.
I did feel that you have a conflict with your strict up bringing. However, exploring your submissve side and your sexuality is also necessary. It maintians both mental and physical well being...
You invited me here to voice my opinion...
You are still my good friend even though you are sly like a fox... 
As a Daddy Dom. it is more about extreme pleasure rather than pain. There is always that fine line. I perfer to stay on the teasing side. But first you must feel comfortable enough to place your trust with you Dom...
Your friend, Jaded1
Jaded1 said:
Good afternoon, CTGalPal...
Nice place ya have here...
Have known you as a friend for a while you already know my opinion....
My first explosure to the D's world was many years ago. I meet a woman here in Connecticut that in real life was a professional Domme with a studio in Stamford. Most of here clients were executives for major N.Y.C. corporations. For her is was a power exchange. These men constantly made discussion affecting both people and business. For them it was a power release. Having to do what others said and not having to telling others what to do. She in fact had nothing to do with the sexually. There were slave to service the clients.
I on the other hand was niether her slave or a client. I was her lover. She in fact was submissive to me. It was her relinquish of power to me. Being told what to do and when to do it. She was the one that showed me my sensual side. The combination of being a Dom. and a sensualist lead me down the path to being a Daddy Dom. I do not have any desire to physical own someone. She in my case must give herself freely to me. For me it is a great sense of power knowing she gives herself willingly.
There are many level to the world of discipline you must determine thelevel you are comfortable in. You must determine what interestes you sexually also. Be open minded to allow yourself to grow. However, the very most important part of the relationship is trust. With out that small word no relationship will work. But even more important so in a Dom or Domme and submissive. That has to be the high priority.
I did feel that you have a conflict with your strict up bringing. However, exploring your submissve side and your sexuality is also necessary. It maintians both mental and physical well being...
You invited me here to voice my opinion...
As a Daddy Dom. it is more about extreme pleasure rather than pain. There is always that fine line. I perfer to stay on the teasing side. But first you must feel comfortable enough to place your trust with you Dom...
Your friend, Jaded1
Sly as a fox...
I like that! Just marketing my thread and getting my little friends to come and join me in an interesting topic. (and I know you are a Daddy Dom and would probably be insightly in sharing some of your experiences)
It has brought some incredible PM's in my mailbox with other people who are just like me and exploring this side of themselves. I am glad that this brought out the curious side of people.
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Friday Night
Well Friday night, a friend of mine that I've known for about 13 years came to see me...I actually enjoyed being told what to do...I never knew it would be so fun...having to beg for something...now I've never done that with anyone else, in fact I hate it when they tell me what to do...but with him, I found it exciting...so I agree with everyone who says that it's about the bond you have with the person...being submissive is giving up control...and trusting the other person, at least for me it is...
Well Friday night, a friend of mine that I've known for about 13 years came to see me...I actually enjoyed being told what to do...I never knew it would be so fun...having to beg for something...now I've never done that with anyone else, in fact I hate it when they tell me what to do...but with him, I found it exciting...so I agree with everyone who says that it's about the bond you have with the person...being submissive is giving up control...and trusting the other person, at least for me it is...
tbs230 said:
Welcome Tbs...
I agree with you whole heartedly...there has only been one man who just rocks my world and can make me cum with just a look.
Sexually I trust he would never physically or mentally hurt me.
Trust is everything when finding the right person who fits your submissive side.
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My wife just came and grabbed me and told me to jumb on this thread. I have just read through it and here is my two cents.
On DVS's last comment and the one before, I concur to a large degree, with a few caveats. You could be a switch but the fact that you haven't had a fantasy about being a Dom without hate, probably means you are a sub. However, it could also just mean that you haven't met the right man yet that you want to Dom. i.e. If you really don't like the guy your fantasying about, straping a dildo on and fucking. Then why wouldn't you just dream about punching him in the nose? or some such thing? Why do you have a sexual fantasy about him? School may still be out on that one. Give it some time and see where it leads you, as Fury said.
Now in my life early on I was always kinky. I definitlely think that the strict catholic background had something to do with it. For some reason all the woman I met, that were even a little bit kinky, wanted me to spank them. Maybe because of my size, I am a former professional athlete. However it really got mentally tiring. One time I picked up a stewardess, back in those days we were allowed to call them that, Lol.. and she brought me home. Well she had a gorgeous roomate and liked to do threesomes. This particular night they just took over telling me what to do and ordering me around, in a sexy way, and it was awesome. It was so thrilling to be told what to do and when to do it by two gorgeous women. Who to eat, where to lick, when to fuck and who. You get the picture I'm sure! Well that was the day when my real submissive side kicked in!
Years later I owned my own business and my ex-wife was a sub. She wanted to be spanked and fucked and wanted cucumbers and carrots in the hole that I wasn't stuffing with my cock. I use to watch her grovel and love it but at the same time I would keep coming back to the two stewardess's. Then after a few years had past we divorced and I was sitll running my own company, which was mentally taking its toll on me. I am dominant in real life and especially in business. I don't take shit from anyone and I fear no one. But when I come home, I love to just release control and unwind.
So that led me to reading some BDSM periodicals from the local newstands, which are on the corner of virtually every street in Manhattan. The more I read the more I wanted. I remember going to a local sex club and hiring a woman and telling her, that all I wanted her to do was sit on my face and order me to eat her ass and suck her holes, while I jerked off. Wow was that a great nut. When I was done she just looked at me and said, "That was really nice, I really enjoyed that. It is a first for me." Well looking into that gorgeous face and deep down feeling that great feeling that I reallly satisfied this woman, was an awesome feeling!
That led me to seeing my first Dom. When I visited her she told me that there would be no sex. I said, "What no sex? You mean you just want to whip me and thats it?" She said yeah, that is how it works. I said, no thanks and left! My next attempt, thinking that she was just crazy, was about a week later. This time I go in and here is the most striking beautiful woman, I had ever seen up to this time in my life. She must have liked me too because there was electricity in the air. However once we talked about the session and she said no sex, I about vomited! I was all dejected and got up to walk out, without saying another word to her. As I was leaving she told me to wait a minute. I turned around and she came close to me and said, " I can't do anything here but here is the name of a bar, as she handed me a piece of paper, why don't you meet me there at 10PM. I just glowed and said sure.
Well that was the start of an awesome experience that lasted, off and on for about a year. She introduced me to bondage and whippings, butt fucking, nipple torture and more! It was awesome. During the time I still saw other women and one of them was really hot and loved to have her ass whipped real good, before I fucked her ass stupid. I found that my experience with my professional Dom girl friend, had made me a better Dom to my Sub girlfriend.
I definitley suscribe to that therory. If you are a sub and you have a Dom experience it can only enhance your knowlege and pleasure, as well as your skills. I believe that in every one, there is a sub and a Dom but one will always out way the other. I also believe that in all the nilla's, it's there too and they are just too frightened to address it or don't know how. Especially in the self rightous attitude that permates this country. And all the false prophets that pervail, with there slant on sexuallity and other things.
Once I met my soul mate D. and we married, I knew at that time, that there was a tremendous Dom living inside this gorgeous model! I had to have patience but it finally came out and when it did, it came out in spades! Now we live a life where I can come home and give it up to her in the bedroom. We have this saying that we tell our friends that ask. I am king in this marriage, outside the bedroom. But behind close doors, she is Queen and there is no king. (Just a sissy slut slave waiting to serve her!) I do get the chance to Dom every once in awhile, when I want. But only with one of our girl friends. She has not as of yet, let me Dom her. If it comes it comes. If it doesn't, I am fine with that. I love her! She is my soul mate and she is my best friend and the mother of my children and my Queen Dom Wife! 
I hope this adds to your great thread! G.
CTGalPal said:
My wife just came and grabbed me and told me to jumb on this thread. I have just read through it and here is my two cents.
On DVS's last comment and the one before, I concur to a large degree, with a few caveats. You could be a switch but the fact that you haven't had a fantasy about being a Dom without hate, probably means you are a sub. However, it could also just mean that you haven't met the right man yet that you want to Dom. i.e. If you really don't like the guy your fantasying about, straping a dildo on and fucking. Then why wouldn't you just dream about punching him in the nose? or some such thing? Why do you have a sexual fantasy about him? School may still be out on that one. Give it some time and see where it leads you, as Fury said.
Now in my life early on I was always kinky. I definitlely think that the strict catholic background had something to do with it. For some reason all the woman I met, that were even a little bit kinky, wanted me to spank them. Maybe because of my size, I am a former professional athlete. However it really got mentally tiring. One time I picked up a stewardess, back in those days we were allowed to call them that, Lol.. and she brought me home. Well she had a gorgeous roomate and liked to do threesomes. This particular night they just took over telling me what to do and ordering me around, in a sexy way, and it was awesome. It was so thrilling to be told what to do and when to do it by two gorgeous women. Who to eat, where to lick, when to fuck and who. You get the picture I'm sure!
Well that was the day when my real submissive side kicked in!Years later I owned my own business and my ex-wife was a sub. She wanted to be spanked and fucked and wanted cucumbers and carrots in the hole that I wasn't stuffing with my cock. I use to watch her grovel and love it but at the same time I would keep coming back to the two stewardess's. Then after a few years had past we divorced and I was sitll running my own company, which was mentally taking its toll on me. I am dominant in real life and especially in business. I don't take shit from anyone and I fear no one. But when I come home, I love to just release control and unwind.
So that led me to reading some BDSM periodicals from the local newstands, which are on the corner of virtually every street in Manhattan. The more I read the more I wanted. I remember going to a local sex club and hiring a woman and telling her, that all I wanted her to do was sit on my face and order me to eat her ass and suck her holes, while I jerked off. Wow was that a great nut. When I was done she just looked at me and said, "That was really nice, I really enjoyed that. It is a first for me." Well looking into that gorgeous face and deep down feeling that great feeling that I reallly satisfied this woman, was an awesome feeling!
That led me to seeing my first Dom. When I visited her she told me that there would be no sex. I said, "What no sex? You mean you just want to whip me and thats it?" She said yeah, that is how it works. I said, no thanks and left! My next attempt, thinking that she was just crazy, was about a week later. This time I go in and here is the most striking beautiful woman, I had ever seen up to this time in my life. She must have liked me too because there was electricity in the air. However once we talked about the session and she said no sex, I about vomited! I was all dejected and got up to walk out, without saying another word to her. As I was leaving she told me to wait a minute. I turned around and she came close to me and said, " I can't do anything here but here is the name of a bar, as she handed me a piece of paper, why don't you meet me there at 10PM. I just glowed and said sure.
Well that was the start of an awesome experience that lasted, off and on for about a year. She introduced me to bondage and whippings, butt fucking, nipple torture and more! It was awesome. During the time I still saw other women and one of them was really hot and loved to have her ass whipped real good, before I fucked her ass stupid. I found that my experience with my professional Dom girl friend, had made me a better Dom to my Sub girlfriend.
I definitley suscribe to that therory. If you are a sub and you have a Dom experience it can only enhance your knowlege and pleasure, as well as your skills. I believe that in every one, there is a sub and a Dom but one will always out way the other. I also believe that in all the nilla's, it's there too and they are just too frightened to address it or don't know how. Especially in the self rightous attitude that permates this country. And all the false prophets that pervail, with there slant on sexuallity and other things.
Once I met my soul mate D. and we married, I knew at that time, that there was a tremendous Dom living inside this gorgeous model! I had to have patience but it finally came out and when it did, it came out in spades!
Now we live a life where I can come home and give it up to her in the bedroom. We have this saying that we tell our friends that ask. I am king in this marriage, outside the bedroom. But behind close doors, she is Queen and there is no king. (Just a sissy slut slave waiting to serve her!) I do get the chance to Dom every once in awhile, when I want. But only with one of our girl friends. She has not as of yet, let me Dom her. If it comes it comes. If it doesn't, I am fine with that. I love her! She is my soul mate and she is my best friend and the mother of my children and my Queen Dom Wife! I hope this adds to your great thread!
G.
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CTGalPal said:Sly as a fox...
I like that! Just marketing my thread and getting my little friends to come and join me in an interesting topic. (and I know you are a Daddy Dom and would probably be insightly in sharing some of your experiences)
It has brought some incredible PM's in my mailbox with other people who are just like me and exploring this side of themselves. I am glad that this brought out the curious side of people.
I do warn those interested in exploring the D's be very cautious in your choice of Dom or Domme. Your first experience could could be a bad experience. Which could be very sad. Chat with a perspective Master. If their first interest is in getting you bedded down you may want to reconsider your choice. Meet with that person in public with others around. There are many sicko's out there. I have been into visit some of the BDSM dungeons in the N.Y.C. and some of them scare the hell out of me...
This is also good advice for the Dom and Domme. That trust I spoke of early does not occur over night. Be very selective whom you choose. Hopefully with a wise choice the relationship will with stand time. For the Dom's and Domme's keep in mind many of these submissive are coming to you untrained. Take them under your wing and work with them. Don't say "NO" give them a reason for the "NO". Help them understand the life style. Remember as a Dom or Domme we choose the lifestyle. If you want the lifestyle to grow and remain health we must teach... Remember there is no sin in exploring are sexuality. It is a sin when you exploite the unknowing for you satisfaction. The relationship is meant to work both ways. This is not a plug for me...
But try to find a Dom or Domme with experience under their belt. Many guys and gals here talk a super great story but are in fact as un experienced (if not more un experienced) than you are!Well I think I'll stop now. I probably made a lot of enemys with some wannabe Dom's and Domme's...
I can imagine my PM box is full by now with hate mail...You sly little fox you got me on the soap box again...
Oh, and baby girl being a very discrete Daddy Dom. I do not kiss and tell...
I think that falls under that word "trust" again... A very very important word...! temperanceless said:
It makes a lot of sense...
I have that certain wildness in me that is seeking to get out and explore.
Have always been too shy to explore this "wild" side that seeks to be controlled in a way that I have never been controlled before.
Thanks for posting and come back again!
lust4us said:My wife just came and grabbed me and told me to jumb on this thread. I have just read through it and here is my two cents.
On DVS's last comment and the one before, I concur to a large degree, with a few caveats. You could be a switch but the fact that you haven't had a fantasy about being a Dom without hate, probably means you are a sub. However, it could also just mean that you haven't met the right man yet that you want to Dom. i.e. If you really don't like the guy your fantasying about, straping a dildo on and fucking. Then why wouldn't you just dream about punching him in the nose? or some such thing? Why do you have a sexual fantasy about him? School may still be out on that one. Give it some time and see where it leads you, as Fury said.
Now in my life early on I was always kinky. I definitlely think that the strict catholic background had something to do with it. For some reason all the woman I met, that were even a little bit kinky, wanted me to spank them. Maybe because of my size, I am a former professional athlete. However it really got mentally tiring. One time I picked up a stewardess, back in those days we were allowed to call them that, Lol.. and she brought me home. Well she had a gorgeous roomate and liked to do threesomes. This particular night they just took over telling me what to do and ordering me around, in a sexy way, and it was awesome. It was so thrilling to be told what to do and when to do it by two gorgeous women. Who to eat, where to lick, when to fuck and who. You get the picture I'm sure!
Years later I owned my own business and my ex-wife was a sub. She wanted to be spanked and fucked and wanted cucumbers and carrots in the hole that I wasn't stuffing with my cock. I use to watch her grovel and love it but at the same time I would keep coming back to the two stewardess's. Then after a few years had past we divorced and I was sitll running my own company, which was mentally taking its toll on me. I am dominant in real life and especially in business. I don't take shit from anyone and I fear no one. But when I come home, I love to just release control and unwind.
So that led me to reading some BDSM periodicals from the local newstands, which are on the corner of virtually every street in Manhattan. The more I read the more I wanted. I remember going to a local sex club and hiring a woman and telling her, that all I wanted her to do was sit on my face and order me to eat her ass and suck her holes, while I jerked off. Wow was that a great nut. When I was done she just looked at me and said, "That was really nice, I really enjoyed that. It is a first for me." Well looking into that gorgeous face and deep down feeling that great feeling that I reallly satisfied this woman, was an awesome feeling!
That led me to seeing my first Dom. When I visited her she told me that there would be no sex. I said, "What no sex? You mean you just want to whip me and thats it?" She said yeah, that is how it works. I said, no thanks and left! My next attempt, thinking that she was just crazy, was about a week later. This time I go in and here is the most striking beautiful woman, I had ever seen up to this time in my life. She must have liked me too because there was electricity in the air. However once we talked about the session and she said no sex, I about vomited! I was all dejected and got up to walk out, without saying another word to her. As I was leaving she told me to wait a minute. I turned around and she came close to me and said, " I can't do anything here but here is the name of a bar, as she handed me a piece of paper, why don't you meet me there at 10PM. I just glowed and said sure.
Well that was the start of an awesome experience that lasted, off and on for about a year. She introduced me to bondage and whippings, butt fucking, nipple torture and more! It was awesome. During the time I still saw other women and one of them was really hot and loved to have her ass whipped real good, before I fucked her ass stupid. I found that my experience with my professional Dom girl friend, had made me a better Dom to my Sub girlfriend.
I definitley suscribe to that therory. If you are a sub and you have a Dom experience it can only enhance your knowlege and pleasure, as well as your skills. I believe that in every one, there is a sub and a Dom but one will always out way the other. I also believe that in all the nilla's, it's there too and they are just too frightened to address it or don't know how. Especially in the self rightous attitude that permates this country. And all the false prophets that pervail, with there slant on sexuallity and other things.
Once I met my soul mate D. and we married, I knew at that time, that there was a tremendous Dom living inside this gorgeous model! I had to have patience but it finally came out and when it did, it came out in spades!
I hope this adds to your great thread!
It most certainly helped...I love what you wrote and I hope to someday find that kind of peace and trust in my life.
I'm the same way where I am very successful and controlling in my career but in my love life I want to let go of all those responsibilities and let someone else take care of me and tell me what to do and how to please them.
I realized that with my ex-boyfriend that I was so busy trying to be the boss of him that it was not really working because in truth, he was the boss of me but I knew there was something inside of me fighting it. I should have just given in and let him control things.
But like I said, I am a petite asian and men don't want to be "mean" or dominant me for fear of offending me.
Jaded1 said:
I do warn those interested in exploring the D's be very cautious in your choice of Dom or Domme. Your first experience could could be a bad experience. Which could be very sad. Chat with a perspective Master. If their first interest is in getting you bedded down you may want to reconsider your choice. Meet with that person in public with others around. There are many sicko's out there. I have been into visit some of the BDSM dungeons in the N.Y.C. and some of them scare the hell out of me...
This is not a plug for me...
Well I think I'll stop now. I probably made a lot of enemys with some wannabe Dom's and Domme's...
You sly little fox you got me on the soap box again...
Oh, and baby girl being a very discrete Daddy Dom. I do not kiss and tell...
So I am learning...trust is a big issue with me and I think when I finally succumb I will finallly feel at peace with myself.
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Welcome to the BDSM boards, CTGalPal. You've gotten some really great responses here. You're also on the right track by exploring things slowly and asking questions. Have you checked out the library here ? There are some great articles and sites there that can answer some of your questions, as well.
One of the resources that I found extremely telling for me when I was searching was this article: The Healthy Submissive . My sig line comes from this article. For me, the article was kind of a light bulb moment. But ultimately, it was in the experimenting and exploring in real life that lead me to know for certain that I am submissive. Some areas have local dungeons that offer workshops and presentations as well. Our local dungeon even offers a monthly sub meeting. That's a great way to connect with others.
Communication, trust, and mutual respect are paramount in your exploration. Just because someone says he is a dominant doesn't mean he truly is. Listen with more than just your ears and trust your instincts. Good luck on your journey. Discovering who you truly are is definitely worth it.
One of the resources that I found extremely telling for me when I was searching was this article: The Healthy Submissive . My sig line comes from this article. For me, the article was kind of a light bulb moment. But ultimately, it was in the experimenting and exploring in real life that lead me to know for certain that I am submissive. Some areas have local dungeons that offer workshops and presentations as well. Our local dungeon even offers a monthly sub meeting. That's a great way to connect with others.
Communication, trust, and mutual respect are paramount in your exploration. Just because someone says he is a dominant doesn't mean he truly is. Listen with more than just your ears and trust your instincts. Good luck on your journey. Discovering who you truly are is definitely worth it.
BeachGurl2 said:
I've been moving around the BSDM threads...
And I loved the article. I just read it from top to bottom and it really explained my childhood and the way I feel right now.
It explains my past relationships and how I relate to men in general.
Thank you for the input!!!
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CTGalPal said:
I am a petite italian submissive.
As I had occasion to say several time on other threads, I am strong willed , determinated , I have an high responsibility job , very hard with really lot of pressure, where confrontantions and negotiations often evolve just in street fights , where nerves , mind and physical endurance after hours (or days ) of sitting at a negotiation table are the main if not the only thing which can move the pointer towards a side or another of the parties involved , with all the business, economical and financial consequences of the matter you can easily imagine.
Due to circumstances and the business area I work into I am used to work and deal mostly with men who due to my professional skills and position often have to accept my point of view even if reluctantly .
I am not arrogant at all ( not because I am specially good but just because it is useless and in my opininion a sign of weakness ) but I never allowed anyone to overwhelm me in anyway and always without need to alterate my tone of voice and my attitude .
I am not flashy in my clothes , always seriously dressed and I really love the understatement look , moreover both for my petite physical aspect , voice and attitude I am seen like a kinda " porcelain " .
Notwithstanding I sure you, since I was very young and mainly since I lately took clear awareness of my real desires, just with a quick eyes look I can show my inner world and I can lead the man who is the lucky receiver of that special glance to desire to be very mean and Dominant with me without fear to make me offence ...on the contrary right with that specific intention .
And I must say I am lucky that my Master really does love it and adores that special trait of me
BTW ... great thread CTGalPal
babiesmiles said:I am a petite italian submissive.
As I had occasion to say several time on other threads, I am strong willed , determinated , I have an high responsibility job , very hard with really lot of pressure, where confrontantions and negotiations often evolve just in street fights , where nerves , mind and physical endurance after hours (or days ) of sitting at a negotiation table are the main if not the only thing which can move the pointer towards a side or another of the parties involved , with all the business, economical and financial consequences of the matter you can easily imagine.
Due to circumstances and the business area I work into I am used to work and deal mostly with men who due to my professional skills and position often have to accept my point of view even if reluctantly .
I am not arrogant at all ( not because I am specially good but just because it is useless and in my opininion a sign of weakness ) but I never allowed anyone to overwhelm me in anyway and always without need to alterate my tone of voice and my attitude .
I am not flashy in my clothes , always seriously dressed and I really love the understatement look , moreover both for my petite physical aspect , voice and attitude I am seen like a kinda " porcelain " .
Notwithstanding I sure you, since I was very young and mainly since I lately took clear awareness of my real desires, just with a quick eyes look I can show my inner world and I can lead the man who is the lucky receiver of that special glance to desire to be very mean and Dominant with me without fear to make me offence ...on the contrary right with that specific intention .
And I must say I am lucky that my Master really does love it and adores that special trait of me
BTW ... great thread CTGalPal
Thank you for sharing...and welcome!
Care to share when you realized you were a submissive or have a great story to share about your first time with a Dom?
babiesmiles
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CTGalPal said:Thank you for sharing...and welcome!
Care to share when you realized you were a submissive or have a great story to share about your first time with a Dom?
you are very welcome CTGP .
I think I have always known my desire to be submissive , but it had not a specific name nor a clear definition since about two years ago when I started to explore the D/s and BDSM dynamics , reading specific literature , following the interesting sources on here both as threads and links and consulting our library.
Then I met my first and only Master who has my complete devotion and trust . We are in a LDR relation but we don't mind as when we have the lucky occasion to meet the time really stops to flow . It is our special precious time .
I don't think I am allowed to say more at the moment though !
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Intresting thread CTGal
I also am a sub who has several areas of responsiblity that I must be a Superman just to surivive. I am going to school and must maintain my grades to keep my scholarships or pay way too much for school, I also run a small business and must make pay roll, and keep things buzzing.
In the bedroom I am a submissive to my wife! I just want to give it up to her, and please her. She does take advanage of that and does hold me sexually bound to her by allowing or not allowing me to have sex with her, even though she keeps me on the edge. She delights in teaseing me sexually, but not fucking me. She is all about tease and attitide, which I love. She also loves the role and plays it well. As in that she keeps me hungry and in line. Sometimes she will not allow me in her presents with clothes on or I must be in HER panties...she loves the power and the humiliation.
I am looking forward in reading more post here.
I also am a sub who has several areas of responsiblity that I must be a Superman just to surivive. I am going to school and must maintain my grades to keep my scholarships or pay way too much for school, I also run a small business and must make pay roll, and keep things buzzing.
In the bedroom I am a submissive to my wife! I just want to give it up to her, and please her. She does take advanage of that and does hold me sexually bound to her by allowing or not allowing me to have sex with her, even though she keeps me on the edge. She delights in teaseing me sexually, but not fucking me. She is all about tease and attitide, which I love. She also loves the role and plays it well. As in that she keeps me hungry and in line. Sometimes she will not allow me in her presents with clothes on or I must be in HER panties...she loves the power and the humiliation.
I am looking forward in reading more post here.
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Welcome CTGal. I have read some of you recent posts and like what I read. That and we have something in common aside from our submissiveness. Though I no longer live there, I hail from CT.
Now for what makes me submissive;
For me it is a viscreral need. In all other realms of my life I am in charge. I have a power profession, oldest of 6 siblings who has had children of her own.
Because of the ying & yang of it all I had to find a way to release. Then one day a kind gentleman offered to spank me. I said yes and ran with it.
My week is not complete unless I hear that one comment that transports me to erotic Nirvana, "good girl." This is usually in conjunction with a mouth full of cock. For me my goal is pleasure, his pleasure which is my pleasure. I wallow in his praise. I preen when I have been able to satisify his need no matter what it may be.
In essence it is my need to surrender mind, body and soul which makes me submissive. My need to address the dichotomy of being and become who I am...His.
Now for what makes me submissive;
For me it is a viscreral need. In all other realms of my life I am in charge. I have a power profession, oldest of 6 siblings who has had children of her own.
Because of the ying & yang of it all I had to find a way to release. Then one day a kind gentleman offered to spank me. I said yes and ran with it.
My week is not complete unless I hear that one comment that transports me to erotic Nirvana, "good girl." This is usually in conjunction with a mouth full of cock. For me my goal is pleasure, his pleasure which is my pleasure. I wallow in his praise. I preen when I have been able to satisify his need no matter what it may be.
In essence it is my need to surrender mind, body and soul which makes me submissive. My need to address the dichotomy of being and become who I am...His.
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