Cock Talk

[TANSTAAFL58]

I had to Google both... So given that I'd say mine finish is closer to the prusick...

Also, I though I had to have a cock to be welcome here....

I haven't been here in a while, but its "cock talk" not "what are you doing with your cock right now."

 

[dawn_of_night]

I haven't been here in a while, but its "cock talk" not "what are you doing with your cock right now."

Yea. But I don't have ....
Nevermind ...


I'll just borrow yours, or someone's.... If I need a show and tell piece

 

[Endless_Night]

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?
I'm not really sure. Very little experience.

My scale would be something along the lines of somewhat intrigued, but *big eyes* terrified. Pain is kinda scary.

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?
I mean, yes. But not too hard! At least, I think. Again, not much experience.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs,


Country music, etc.?
I laughed.

Do you like rope play?
I am a closeted rope bunny.

How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words,
Please. I can barely speak of these things online. Trying to talk to someone face to face?

Lawyers, consent forms, etc.?
*nods*

Plus, don't forget the six months of dithering before I could be caught in a weak moment.

When did you realize you were into this?
The rope stuff, crazy young. Pain itself was never on my radar until I found Lit and started reading about dominance, submission, and power exchange stuff.

Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?
Nope.

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

 

[Endless_Night]

Great post overall, but these two things stuck out particularly.

Great answer. The most important points in my mind are "Communication" and "Try it on yourself" (That's why my dogs have never had a shock collar). I think a Dom needs to know the sting of his or her favourite impact tool.

Also consider: if you are going to tie someone up, you have to understand not to stress the joints . If you are tying someone's arms overhead, make sure they can bear the weight on their palms, not their wrists.

Limits: know the difference between soft limits (words like "this scares me a bit" or "I'm not sure that I am all that comfortable with it") and hard limits (phrases like "Absolutely not!" "No way in Hell" and "Tickle me and die motherfucker")

Hard limits need to be respected and generate a full stop.

Soft limits are an opportunity to grow, to learn, to expand, to push a bit. (But remember the safewords). And agree to pushing the limits.

OH YEAH: If your sub is gagged, make sure they have a free hand (or foot) to signal "stop" with. (a knee to the balls works too).

 

[Endless_Night]

Also.

Ha. That first time he told me to put a binder clip on my clit...

Yes. WAY further. It ended. (It was a case of her wanting pain with no pleasure attached and wantng me to ignore one of MY hard limits).

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Also.

That's what I said to her,

 

[Wand3rlust]

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?

depends. It can be. But too much? Not for me.

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?

light spanking. I think I'd get the giggles.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?

nipple clamps. I think thats it?

Do you like rope play?

it interests me.

How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?

i haven't. So far.

When did you realize you were into this?

here. Seeing the beauty. The peace.

Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?

not so far. It's probably been the other way round.

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Plainsure.

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?

I’ve experimented a little, but it’s not really my thing*

*with some very specific and rare exceptions

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?

I’ve been spanked (on the lighter side) and it was enjoyable. I’d be happy to spank a female partner if she was into it.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?

Nipple clamps, hands, clit clamps. I really only enjoyed the hands or nipple clamps.

I go to great lengths to avoid country music due to my general aversion to pain

Do you like rope play?

I haven’t tried it, but I think it’s absolutely beautiful. I’d be open to experimenting (rigger or rope bunny), but have a hard time imagining it becoming something I did much. It seems like too much work

How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?

When it comes to pain I’ve never gotten into anything much more than light spanking or hair pulling with a partner, so a clear “Stop” has sufficed. Safe words and more detailed discussions would be needed for anything else.

On the general topic of engaging in kinks with a partner, I just bring it up naturally. I don’t even remember exactly how in person discussions on spanking, anal, threesomes, open relationships, etc. have happened even though I’m almost always the one starting them. I think I just wait for a natural opening - a meme, a funny Lit anecdote, a hot scene in a book, a movie/tv show, conversations with friends…and then I start talking about it with my partner. Sometimes it’s without specific purpose (when I’m just stumbling upon something I find interesting) and other times I have a purpose/intent (when I know there’s something I want to try.)

When did you realize you were into this?
Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?

Minor pain? In the last 10-15 years or so when I realized it was a thing. It never occurred to me before that.

I don’t think so. Aside from pain, I’ve definitely had situations where me or my partner wanted to try something/a kink or go farther than the other. I usually find a way to make it happen if I’m that interested. If my partner isn’t into it…well, that’s how I ended up talking about open relationships

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

Is pain as pleasure something you like to occasionally indulge in? Or is it core to a healthy sex life for you?

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?
Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?

This is one of those “depends on the person” questions for me. I don’t think this is a one size fits all type activity. Not everyone likes spanking, and so I don’t want a man who isn’t into spanking to try and lay me across his lap. That isn’t going to work out well for either of us.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?

Not very many.

Do you like rope play?
How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?

It looks fun and some of the rope work I’ve seen can be quite beautiful. It’s a work of art! But no, I haven’t been lucky enough to try that.

When did you realize you were into this?
Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?

I gravitated to stories with these topics and talking about them a bit, but I’m no authority and I don’t know enough to even say that I was “into” any of it.

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

I guess there weren’t questions about after the playtime? How do you like ending a rough play session?

 

[Endless_Night]

If my partner isn’t into it…well, that’s how I ended up talking about open relationships

This is exactly how I ended up talking about same.

This is one of those “depends on the person” questions for me. I don’t think this is a one size fits all type activity. Not everyone likes spanking, and so I don’t want a man who isn’t into spanking to try and lay me across his lap. That isn’t going to work out well for either of us.

I think this is true with any type of power exchange. If someone isn't into it or doesn't *get* it there isn't likely to be a good outcome if pushed.

I guess there weren’t questions about after the playtime? How do you like ending a rough play session?

Excellent question! Does it require more aftercare than say, just submission? I experience sub drop after any kind of big push. After care is definitely a thing.

Maybe it's similar, as in it varies, dependent on level of pain delivered?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?
I get it. I have had some pleasurable pain experiences. Context is key.

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?
I can get into some spanking. Both giving and receiving.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?
Country music it's funny because it's true. I went and fell in love with a cowboy.
I have nipple clamps but they don't hurt.
I own a flogger or two. Candles for wax play. Hair brushes. Wooden spoons. Clothespegs.

Do you like rope play?
Yes. I haven't had a chance to play with it much and love restraints.

How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?
Slowly. I doubt I would go all in with a new partner. As trust builds I slowly open up to more exploration. I know after sleeping with someone the first time how safe I am able to feel and navigate accordingly..

When did you realize you were into this?
I actually don't recall. I've always fantasized about elements of control. Pain and control go hand in hand for me more often than not.

Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?
Yes. When I first met my husband I thought he wanted me to shove a finger up his ass. He did not. We laughed about it. It hasn't happened ever again.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I thought he wanted me to shove a finger up his ass. He did not.

He’s missing out

 

[hotwords229_A]

The Top can tie the top of the bottom or the bottom of the bottom or both. The bottom can ask the Top to tie the top of the bottom or bottom of the bottom or both. The bottom's top gets tied by their Top, but the bottom can tie their own top and give their Top a break, if that's at the top of their minds.

The Top and bottom can fuck if the bottom agrees and the Top deems it appropriate, because the Top receives permission from the bottom to be the Top. (Note that the Top may be on the top or the bottom during said fucking)

Maybe we should talk about happy knots.

(PYL /pyl for "pick your label)

I go to great lengths to avoid country music due to my general aversion to pain

I feel your pain. Except The Devil Went Down to Georgia. That’s the only acceptable one.

I don’t even remember exactly how in person discussions on spanking, anal, threesomes, open relationships, etc. have happened even though I’m almost always the one starting them.

“Can you please pass the salt?”
“How about I fuck you in the ass?”

This is how I imagine your discussions begin.

When I first met my husband I thought he wanted me to shove a finger up his ass. He did not.

How exactly did you come to this conclusion?

 

[Photog1rl]

The Devil Went Down to Georgia

Popping in to say this is the best song!
My husband calls it trucker rap.
He does not like ANY country music. I do. I may be known to torture him with it on road trips-when he has vexed me.
Oh and yes, I do like an edge to my pleasure but because it’s pleasure I don’t think of it as pain.

 

[37_ttej]

How exactly did you come to this conclusion?

He asked her for the salt. Obviously.

 

[dawn_of_night]

Popping in to say this is the best song!
My husband calls it trucker rap.
He does not like ANY country music. I do. I may be known to torture him with it on road trips-when he has vexed me.
Oh and yes, I do like an edge to my pleasure but because it’s pleasure I don’t think of it as pain.

Hey girl hey

 

[Lord Pmann]

Plainsure.

https://i.imgflip.com/vq281.jpg

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?

I’m not big on pain. Like, when my nipple gets bit too hard, I react. And not in a good way. As far as giving pain, I can do that better, but it’s not quite my thing. It’s more about the mental thing.

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?

I like giving a spanking. I’ll go as hard as the situation requires.

What “pain” devices have you used?

None.

Have you ever seen sounding rods? Fuck. Whyyyyyyyyy????

Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?

I can only imagine the depravity of someone fucking to Florida/Georgia Line. That’s some dark stuff right there.

Do you like rope play?

No. I don’t want to have to sit down with a Boy Scout and learn my knots before a sexual encounter. (That reads weirder than intended)

I would learn, though. If the right situation presented itself.

How do you engage in this with a new partner? Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?

Safe words and duct tape.

When did you realize you were into this?

I’m not into anything too violent.

Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?

Nothing too extreme. Sexuality is a weird thing and each person has their own thing that can turn them from full blown horndog to all clammed up. Sometimes it’s just a word or something that makes you cringe a bit.

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

I don’t know anything either. I’m an .

 

[Endless_Night]

Wtf @hotwords229_A ? I had to search for this thread.

My cock is anticipatory of the next set of questions.

Alright, Pragmatic Rabbit. You prompted this question set.

Where are your answers, sir?

*taps impatient foot*

 

[Endless_Night]

duct tape.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

I can only imagine the depravity of someone fucking to Florida/Georgia Line. That’s some dark stuff right there.

I audibly chortled to this.

You mean to say that 'baby you're a song, that makes me wanna roll my window down and cruise' doesn't get you fully torqued?

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I audibly chortled to this.

You mean to say that 'baby you're a song, that makes me wanna roll my window down and cruise' doesn't get you fully torqued?

Is fully torqued the same as nauseous?

 

[dawn_of_night]

I audibly chortled to this.

You mean to say that 'baby you're a song, that makes me wanna roll my window down and cruise' doesn't get you fully torqued?

Oh be still my heart....

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Is fully torqued the same as nauseous?

My ex would say so
HEyoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

 

[aussiegeekygal]

He’s missing out

On multiple fronts

 

[Bbl87]

How do you feel about pain is pleasure?

In the moment I'm sure it can be the case, but it's not something I go looking for.

Do you spank or like to be spanked? How hard?

I spank because she enjoys it. Open hand only. Hard enough to leave her ass a nice shade of pink, but not red. And how hard just depends on her reaction.

What “pain” devices have you used? Nipple clamps, electrified buttplugs, country music, etc.?

Nipple clamps mainly.

Do you like rope play?

Haven’t done it myself because she hasn't expresses interest, but not opposed. We stick to cuffs at the moment.

How do you engage in this with a new partner?

Only ever done it with one person, so can't say.

Safe words, lawyers, consent forms, etc.?

Safe words are a must.

When did you realize you were into this?

When she expressed interest and enjoyed it. Its not something I would probably have gotten into on my own, but I'm happy to feed her kink.

Have you had a partner that wanted to go further than you were comfortable with, or vice versa? How’d that go?

I'd be comfortable going further (spanking with implements, choking, etc) but don't feel driven to either.

I know almost nothing about this topic, what should I have asked?

So much to explore, can't really say, ha.