Cock Talk

[Photog1rl]

I think that when folks post about their conversations that happen outside of the threads in the threads it can feel exclusive or cliquey. I have been inside and outside of groups on Lit and have always thought it felt cliquey when that happens.
The goal or intention may not be to make folks feel excluded but it can have an unintended impact.
The reality is that Lit is like lots of other spaces filled with a wide variety of personalities. People will group up and the group will have all sorts of interesting dynamics. How you approach it or let it impact you is the only thing you can control.

 

[StillRain]

Oh my lord. You guys.

Nominated.

 

[Bry1313]

Oh my lord. You guys.

Nominated.

Suhweet, it’s been awhile since I won

 

[MindYaBitness]

I think that when folks post about their conversations that happen outside of the threads in the threads it can feel exclusive or cliquey. I have been inside and outside of groups on Lit and have always thought it felt cliquey when that happens.
The goal or intention may not be to make folks feel excluded but it can have an unintended impact.
The reality is that Lit is like lots of other spaces filled with a wide variety of personalities. People will group up and the group will have all sorts of interesting dynamics. How you approach it or let it impact you is the only thing you can control.

Very well said. I'm a very social, extremely extroverted person. That being said, I'm also an internal validater by nature. I often forget that people may feel excluded, or unwelcome, or hurt, if there's something going on behind the scenes that they're not included in. When things like that have been brought up in threads, my internal voice says, "they sound like they're having a great time, good for them." Rather than making g myself feel small or less-than for not being included. My mother says I'm a rare case, and so I try to be more self aware & compassionate. I don't always succeed.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Oh my lord. You guys.

Nominated.

https://i.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExaXBxZWFqb2lodml4MjBzaXFxN2FpeTE1M2h4MTM2em41dzluYmJ4ZiZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/eM7eOXa6YQ8SFggYML/giphy.gif

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh my lord. You guys.

Nominated.

I. Want. A. Tit. Trophy.

 

[UnquietDreams]

I think that when folks post about their conversations that happen outside of the threads in the threads it can feel exclusive or cliquey. I have been inside and outside of groups on Lit and have always thought it felt cliquey when that happens.
The goal or intention may not be to make folks feel excluded but it can have an unintended impact.
The reality is that Lit is like lots of other spaces filled with a wide variety of personalities. People will group up and the group will have all sorts of interesting dynamics. How you approach it or let it impact you is the only thing you can control.

Absolutely reasonable. And I have felt that, more than a few times. But when you add the complexity of male vs females spaces, it gets more complicated and nuanced as well.

 

[StillRain]

Suhweet, it’s been awhile since I won

I require the dictionary definition of this word.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Oh my lord. You guys.

Nominated.

Oh, I have missed being nominated! Me too? Please?

 

[StillRain]

I. Want. A. Tit. Trophy.

Demanding little cunt.

Nominated.

 

[Photog1rl]

Absolutely reasonable. And I have felt that, more than a few times. But when you add the complexity of male vs females spaces, it gets more complicated and nuanced as well.

I don’t know if I agree with this in the Lit space but that is ok. We do not have to agree about it.

 

[UnquietDreams]

I require the dictionary definition of this word.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=suhweet

It is a dictonary...

 

[StillRain]

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=suhweet

It is a dictonary...

Accepted.

 

[UnquietDreams]

I don’t know if I agree with this in the Lit space but that is ok. We do not have to agree about it.

Absolutely not. That would be so boring, and if there is anything you are not, it is boring.

 

[StillRain]

Oh, I have missed being nominated! Me too? Please?

You have to earn it. I’m certain you will. Don’t worry.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Accepted.

 

[UnquietDreams]

You have to earn it. I’m certain you will. Don’t worry.

Please see previous gif.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

You’ve been nothing but kind to me and I appreciate it. I was merely pointing out that the play ground can be cliquey.

True, and I'm inclusive. Come join the Muff Mafia. This place is what you make it. It can seem intimidating to just jump in and it's so worth it. We're a weird mob and love to have fun.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Common ground!

Oh, it's a Cock Talk Miracle!

 

[TS_Woody]

I think that when folks post about their conversations that happen outside of the threads in the threads it can feel exclusive or cliquey. I have been inside and outside of groups on Lit and have always thought it felt cliquey when that happens.
The goal or intention may not be to make folks feel excluded but it can have an unintended impact.
The reality is that Lit is like lots of other spaces filled with a wide variety of personalities. People will group up and the group will have all sorts of interesting dynamics. How you approach it or let it impact you is the only thing you can control.

This

 

[Bry1313]

True, and I'm inclusive. Come join the Muff Mafia. This place is what you make it. It can seem intimidating to just jump in and it's so worth it. We're a weird mob and love to have fun.

Looks down below waist…..but I thought…..I mean I was told (points down there) that there were certain membership requirements

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I will say this; it's exhausting occupying spaces with people who feel entitled to your entirety. Unfortunately this trait tends to exist more in one gender than another.

Remember; what we share here is a gift. Treat it as such

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Looks down below waist…..but I thought…..I mean I was told (points down there) that there were certain membership requirements

Friendly vag club had hardware requirements. Muff Mafia is all inclusive; resort style

 

[TS_Woody]

I don't think it's cliquey. I think there are people who connect because of shared interest with the goal of friendship. There's nothing wrong with that.

Maybe you would feel less alone if you listened more and offered opinions that seem to be a bit misguided a bit less.

The people here are fun and lovely, for the most part. It's human nature to want to make connections based off lived experience. Calling that "cliquey" makes it seem like we are being exclusionary... Which just isn't the case.

Perhaps You don’t think it’s cliquey, because you are in the group?

I don’t feel alone but I appreciate your concern

 

[Amanda330]

Perhaps You don’t think it’s cliquey, because you are in the group?

I don’t feel alone but I appreciate your concern

I don't consider myself a part of any "group" here. I'm friendly. I have friends. I interact with everyone. I try to make everyone feel welcome and included.

I know how it feels to be excluded and I never want to be the person who makes another feel that way.