Cock Talk

[aussiegeekygal]

I remember the truth or dare threads and the AMA threads. PLP and Miles’ podcast and interview thread. At first, they seemed just lighthearted, but once I participated, I realized how much of myself I was sharing. It was a leap of faith, a thrill and also scary.

Hmmm…I’ll have to get back to you on that

whew those feelings can be strong

Some of the social dynamics here I don’t understand.

The thrill of being a little scared. Exhibitionism. A desire to please.


Have an Am Pics thread. Lit is daunting at first. I remember not knowing how to post a comment. Fast forward a while and I had a picture thread. It is easy to get sucked in to Lit.

I’d say less guarded within my relationship.

I remember a few Litsters that I’d noticed like @BlackCaramelCreme, @Indie, and a few others.

When friendships go south or people vanish from Lit, do you forgive? Do you carry that with you or let them go?

*Pounce*

Good to see you

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

*Pounce*

Good to see you

Thank you! It’s good to see you too

 

[Lord Pmann]

I was in my mid 20s and posted a personals ad saying I was looking to send sexy photos to a older, dominant guy in exchange for dirty talk. The ad instructed the guys to send me a PM with a fantasy of theirs (so I could get an idea for what they liked and how they described).

PM sent.

 

[Endless_Night]

I was in my mid 20s and posted a personals ad saying I was looking to send sexy photos to a older, dominant guy in exchange for dirty talk. The ad instructed the guys to send me a PM with a fantasy of theirs (so I could get an idea for what they liked and how they described). Holyyyyy shit. I was so unprepared at the time for the volume of responses I got to that. So I can’t tell you exactly what the first interaction was out of the many but I’m sure you have an idea.

Oh. My. God.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

Sounds very Samantha Jones and the retrieving of a diaphragm from your best friend

Everyone offers to help bury a body as a sign of ride or die friendships, but how many will roll up their sleeves and save you from an embarrassing ER or obgyn visit?

And I totally would do that if needed.

 

[hotwords229_A]

It turns out watching you get embarrassed, blush, and ready to bolt is one of the only sports I truly enjoy

She actually clicked on my link! Even blushing, embarrassed and ready to bolt, she braved a shower pic!
I’m so proud.

O.M.G.



We didn't even talk about sex in my family.

Which I always find ironic because that’s how the family got started in the first place. In my family I can’t say we talked about it. But it was understood that we could talk about it. Questions could be asked. But they were pretty unlikely to be.

Everyone offers to help bury a body as a sign of ride or die friendships, but how many will roll up their sleeves and save you from an embarrassing ER or obgyn visit?

And I totally would do that if needed.

Noted.

 

[hotwords229_A]

What Literotica thread opened you up more than expected and really let the perv in you out to play?

“There’s Nothing Sexy to See Here, Suz”’s thread opened me up the most. I became a regular and that lead to my first nude posting and a whole behind the scenes extravaganza!

What Lister taught you some important (hopefully good) lesson about sex, online sex, or intimate relationship stuff that changed you?

Too many to name, but the one I credit is @aussiegeekygal. I was one of those guys who posted pics a lot in the beginning and sometimes pics of sexy dudes. I always made sure to add the caption “For the Ladies” so everyone would know how straight I am. Finally one day Aussie told me to knock it off and just post, so I did. I’ve loosened up about that.

What have you learned, in general, about sex and relationships from your time here?

That there is a dirty little devil, a dancing banana and a whole lot of eggplants in us all.

What is something that has caused more confusion in you from your time on Lit?

I don’t get the drama, why there is a politics forum on a sex site and why anyone could take this too seriously. I do understand that we are all real people (I think ) and that we do have real connections, but why be here if it isn’t fun?

What sexual desire were you unaware of before coming here?

I knew I had an exhibitionist tendency and a shyness issue, but I didn’t realize I would overcome it here. And then cum over it too!

What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?

Dick to dick with @deefalttwunnyfor! (Photoshopped, don’t get excited)

Are you more guarded or less guarded (sexually) since your time on Lit?

Guarded over personal info, not guarded at all about thoughts.

Do you remember your first real interaction on Lit? Tell us:

I entered the Shenanagator’s club. I made quite an entrance and everyone bailed. I thought I blew it and figured i would never return, but the next day I checked back and Wild Honey had PM’d me and said she thought I was funny. She went on to explain the ins and outs of Lit and I never stopped coming back. So you have her to blame for me being here.

What would you most like to know or ask that I didn’t think of in these questions?

I think you’ve covered it all and as a reward I’m going to give you a handjob!

 

[hotwords229_A]

Have an Am Pics thread. Lit is daunting at first. I remember not knowing how to post a comment. Fast forward a while and I had a picture thread. It is easy to get sucked in to Lit.

The memories!

 

[Photog1rl]

What Literotica thread opened you up more than expected and really let the perv in you out to play?

Chaotic Coffee Clatch and a thread I had where I explored my submissive side and posted daily( now deleated) I learned how to have an am pics thread. How to interact with others in the threads and PM’s, how to make friends, that people truly care for each other and that online communication can be very challenging. I met my best friends and learned other people define you by the threads you frequent.

What Lister taught you some important (hopefully good) lesson about sex, online sex, or intimate relationship stuff that changed you?
I think every person that I let in and consider(ed) a friend taught me something important.

What have you learned, in general, about sex and relationships from your time here?
That feelings are real. The people are real. Most of us are damaged or looking to fill a void and this means folks lie to others and themselves. That I love finding people I can share with.

What is something that has caused more confusion in you from your time on Lit?
That people read what you post-this is good and bad-but may not take it as intended. Processing feelings isn't really what people want or expect on lit. That everyone lits differently and this is often forgotten. That you should never give your heart to someone that can't keep it safe and that you control this.
Edited to add-that I was taking it all too seriously at a time when I needed an escape. Lit needs to be fun and can not fix the issues in your life.
What sexual desire were you unaware of before coming here?
How much of a switch I am and how much a voice can turn me on or off.

What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?
Share an orgasm with someone and be completely emotionally raw because of someone I’d never met in person.

Are you more guarded or less guarded (sexually) since your time on Lit?
Sexually-way less.

Do you remember your first real interaction on Lit? Tell us:
I posted a personal wanting to be worshipped thinking it would yield dominant men but that was not who responded.
I was not prepared for the type and volume of the responses. It was a steep learning curve.

What would you most like to know or ask that I didn’t think of in these questions?
How do other folks (in relationships outside of lit) rationalize or compartmentalize what they do on Lit or with folks from Lit?

 

[Photog1rl]

Somehow if both people aren’t mutually enjoying themselves, to me it doesn’t seem like e-boning, e-nailing, e-fucking (insert alternate hilarious term here.) I have to think about what I would call it, but it’s the online equivalent of a handjob or fingering to me.

I guess for me I think of it all, and refer to it, as playing so it all counts. It is definitely not all e- boning, which is a horrid term, but it is sexual play for mutual pleasure.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I’m going to give you a handjob!

Aww
Look at you considering my needs and being all inclusive

 

[LadyLascivious1]

What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?

Dick to dick with @deefalttwunnyfor! (Photoshopped, don’t get excited)

And we sincerely thank you for that

my first nude posting and a whole behind the scenes extravaganza!

You have my attention…

I’m willing to bet you also have Enny’s blushing, ready to bolt attention too ; - )

I guess for me I think of it all, and refer to it, as playing so it all counts. It is definitely not all e- boning, which is a horrid term, but it is sexual play for mutual pleasure.

Yes, it’s absolutely playing.

I think I have a bizarre sense of humor because “e-boning” is so ridiculous and off putting that I find it funny

 

[Lonelywife1205]

What Literotica thread opened you up more than expected and really let the perv in you out to play?

I don’t think there was any one thread. My perv is more likely to come out in my private conversations.

What Lister taught you some important (hopefully good) lesson about sex, online sex, or intimate relationship stuff that changed you?

CS5 taught me so much. He opened me up to so many things, but one thing he told me that has always stayed with me is “if it can’t be sexy and fun, why do it?”

What have you learned, in general, about sex and relationships from your time here?

I have learned that online relationships can have a deep level of intimacy and actually more than I’ve had in most of my real life relationships.

What is something that has caused more confusion in you from your time on Lit?

Why men pretend to be women on here, why men stand in front of their dirty bathroom mirror with their cock out and snap a pic and post it to name a couple..,

What sexual desire were you unaware of before coming here?

I had no idea I had any submissive desires and I sure as hell never imagined I’d ever be turned on watching my partner with someone else.

What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?

Post my tits & ass and have online threesomes.

Are you more guarded or less guarded (sexually) since your time on Lit?

Way less guarded

Do you remember your first real interaction on Lit?

Yep. It was the first night I started an account here. Someone messaged me and we talked into the wee hours. He rescued me from my sadness.

Tell us:
What would you most like to know or ask that I didn’t think of in these questions?

More of a request, but as the owner of this thread, I think @hotwords229_A should be gracious enough to post weekly nudes as a thank you to all of us who participate.

 

[deft]

Post my tits & ass and have online threesomes.

My fave!

 

[hotwords229_A]

Why men pretend to be women on here

This is a good one. It’s one of the most bizarre behaviors I’ve seen here.

I think @hotwords229_A should be gracious enough to post weekly nudes as a thank you to all of us who participate.

This could actually cut down on participation.

 

[Endless_Night]

Everyone offers to help bury a body as a sign of ride or die friendships, but how many will roll up their sleeves and save you from an embarrassing ER or obgyn visit?

And I totally would do that if needed.

*chest bump*

She actually clicked on my link! Even blushing, embarrassed and ready to bolt, she braved a shower pic!
I’m so proud.

Oh, hush.

 

[Endless_Night]

It is definitely not all e- boning, which is a horrid term,

*nods*

I think of it as e-sex. E-boning is icky.

You have my attention…

I’m willing to bet you also have Enny’s blushing, ready to bolt attention too ; - )

Enny was so flustered by that situation she freaked out and left the board for two weeks when the behind the scenes PMs started flying.

I entered the Shenanagator’s club.

And what, pray tell, is the Shenanagator's club?

#alwayscurious

 

[Apisto42]

Who stole your Lit virginity?

Petitebrunette. She wasn’t my first online, but first on lit!

When we came to Literotica, we were all sweet, innocent virgins. It even said so in our descriptions. Over time we became more comfortable with topics and the sharing of pics and experiences.

What Literotica thread opened you up more than expected and really let the perv in you out to play?

Probably plp’s thread, some of the bdsm threads that I ended up looking over because of fara.

What Lister taught you some important (hopefully good) lesson about sex, online sex, or intimate relationship stuff that changed you?

I had a couple of lessons on be very clear on what you’re looking for early on (ie, not a deep emotional connection).

What have you learned, in general, about sex and relationships from your time here?

Most people are not as open to trying stuff as I thought they would be.

What is something that has caused more confusion in you from your time on Lit?

I’m confused.

What sexual desire were you unaware of before coming here?

It helped me realize that I’m more dominant than I was aware of.

What is something you thought you would never do that you have done on Lit?

Nada.

Are you more guarded or less guarded (sexually) since your time on Lit?

That ebbs and flows with life really. Depends on real life and current mood and who I’m talking to.

Do you remember your first real interaction on Lit? Tell us:
What would you most like to know or ask that I didn’t think of in these questions?

When you’re sitting cross legged, do your balls ever just spontaneously roll over your ankle bone?

 

[Endless_Night]

Plenty of people along the way have definitely taught me different things. But the one that sticks out the most is probably @OrdinaryPerson She helped me realize that the art of the tease is a powerful thing. A woman doesn't generally give a crap about your dick, but she does give a crap about your mind. The brain stimulation has a direct correlation with stimulation of her other erotic parts. Don't worry as much about showing the dick off as you do showing off your ability to tickle their mind.

I saw this the other day and meant to quote but the posts have been flying and I forgot.

This is so true. Not all women, perhaps, but most. Men would be so much happier with their partnered sex lives in general if they could grasp this concept. We can masturbate on our own. Give us something to arouse our mind. That's when you become and indispensable.

Mileage may vary.

Said as someone who is perfectly willing to live without sex rather than have bad sex.

 

[Apisto42]

I saw this the other day and meant to quote but the posts have been flying and I forgot.

This is so true. Not all women, perhaps, but most. Men would be so much happier with their partnered sex lives in general if they could grasp this concept. We can masturbate on our own. Give us something to arouse out mind. That's when you become and indispensable.

Mileage may vary.

Said as someone who is perfectly willing to live without sex rather than have bad sex.

I would like you to imagine …

Powerful words indeed.

 

[hotwords229_A]

And what, pray tell, is the Shenanagator's club?

What?! Weren’t you there? It was frequented by Vicious Tease, Lowphat, Wild Honey, Emsway, and others. I could have sworn you popped in once or twice.

Most people are not as open to trying stuff as I thought they would be.

This is surprising to hear.

 

[Endless_Night]

What?! Weren’t you there? It was frequented by Vicious Tease, Lowphat, Wild Honey, Emsway, and others. I could have sworn you popped in once or twice.

Huh. Not ringing any bells. It may have been one of those threads VT insisted I visit, from which I then made a prompt departure.

That happened a fair amount. Go figure.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Huh. Not ringing any bells. It may have been one of those threads VT insisted I visit, from which I then made a prompt departure.

That happened a fair amount. Go figure.

We’re talking circa 2017, which, by my math, was 10,000 years ago.

 

[Apisto42]

This is surprising to hear.

It seems to me that some people I have met on lit are open to their own thing, but often are pretty hard no about considering other things. As in, they came to lit to explore what they were already interested in, but no interest in learning about new things.

Which is fine. You like what you like. I just found it surprising.

 

[hotwords229_A]

It seems to me that some people I have met on lit are open to their own thing, but often are pretty hard no about considering other things. As in, they came to lit to explore what they were already interested in, but no interest in learning about new things.

Which is fine. You like what you like. I just found it surprising.

Okay, yeah. That makes sense.