What about something like BDSM or varying types of power exchange? That's generally talked about as a kink.
Great question.
Hahaha I'm as open-minded as they come (ha!) But some really good vanilla is a beautiful thing.
Me? I just call it all adventure. Let me get my fedora and bullwhip and queue up a John Williams score.
Same. The emotional and mental intimacy of the power exchange is what provides the psychological engagement. I'm never remotely that vulnerable at any other time.
Who cares?Same. The emotional and mental intimacy of the power exchange is what provides the psychological engagement. I'm never remotely that vulnerable at any other time.
Sex without bores.
So. Kink or fetish?
If only it were that easy!
Somehow if both people aren’t mutually enjoying themselves, to me it doesn’t seem like e-boning, e-nailing, e-fucking (insert alternate hilarious term here.) I have to think about what I would call it, but it’s the online equivalent of a handjob or fingering to me.
Oof.Well, me!
I like to categorize things. It's my nature.
In this situation I think it depends on when the orgasms occur. Same chat but not necessarily at the same time? Then still e-sex.
Agreed. That’s what I was getting at with “around the same time.” Mutual is key.
It's because I speak your language?Oof.
If I didn't know better, I'd think you were flirting...
It truly bothers me that I can't place it in a defined group.
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I lurked for years. Its like people watching, but in a sexy insane asylum. I loved reading peoples posts in the fetish threads. I had no idea how many kinks there were, and I'm not particularly sheltered. I've always enjoyed pic threads where people get creative, or where Litsters make collections of their favorite smut memes & tumbler pics. Over the last year or so, Scrawny, Daisy & PLP'S threads have been quite enlightening
I was fortunate enough to find a friend in @Mr_bogey pretty quickly upon becoming active here. His advice on how to navigate this place, figure out what I wanted from it, select potential amigovios, and how to set boundaries in my Lit situation-ships has been priceless. I still won't show him my tits, as is his prefered form of gratitude, but he knows I appreciate him!
I've learned that cyber sex & Lit situationships are not so different than IRL. We're all real people with real feelings. I've also come to realiz that despite my best efforts, and plenty of gentleman willing to indulge me, I'm just not a casual encounter kind of girl. You've got to establish some kind intellectual parlay to spark my interest, being attractive isn't enough. I need some kind of connection to relax enough to let go & have fun. To have connection requires a measure of trust & vulnerability that is difficult, though not impossible, to establish online.
Flirting. I'm so bad at it. In real life I don't realize I'm being flirted with until it's far too late. Here it's even more so because there's no face to read, or no changes in voice. I'm just more confused than real life!
While I would not have characterized myself as a "sub", I knew I was submissive. Because that's a dynamic that I hadn't been allowed to explore, I didn't realize quite to what extent until I came here. I've had the opportunity to explore that part of me and realized that if there's trust, I'm putty in your hands. No one from my day to day work/family life would recognize me, as I'm usually extremely ambitious & in charge of everthing in my world.
Uh, that's a loooooong list. Let's start with share my name with strangers and end with camming.
Neither. More frustrated, maybe? I've never really been guarded or prudish. However, I realize that I should have done some ho-ing around, sewn some wild oats, before I got married as this place is evidence that there are TONS of folks just like me who would've been willing to indulge me & help me explore my proclivities
A guy messaged me and straight out of the gate asked if I could jack him off with my feet. It was quite the introduction to what would become my greatest entertainment: my inbox
What's you're Lit biggest regret and/triumph?
You could always show them to me and I can describe them to him. It’s one of the many services I provide in this thread.
This really pisses me off! I’m sick of other guys stealing my best pick up lines.
You are too generous, I'll keep your thoughtful offer in mind for future pics
However, he should have enough to tide him over for awhile. Why, just today I sent him a fantastic Pic after he accused me & @crazychemgirl of not having nipples. You loved that one, didn't you @Mr_bogey ?Please keep your dancing bananas to the threads, as my inbox is intermittently flooded with them after I post
It was a long time ago, but I thought I recognized your AV!!!@
The man is a genius!
The man is frustrated as he'll. He's one of my favorite people, and yet trolling him is my second favorite pass times
Being teased can be hot!The man is frustrated as he'll. He's one of my favorite people, and yet trolling him is my second favorite pass times
At this point, it's gotta be counted as a fetishBeing teased can be hot!
It was @Justadesperatewifeandmom thread of Chaos, Don't Stress, Undress that made me realize just how much of an exhibitionist I really am. That thread is supportive and witty and fun. She did a good job of cultivating playfulness and kindness amongst everyone there. It moved crazy fast for a while and made it tough to keep up with at times. But it showed me how much I like being seen.
Plenty of people along the way have definitely taught me different things. But the one that sticks out the most is probably @OrdinaryPerson She helped me realize that the art of the tease is a powerful thing. A woman doesn't generally give a crap about your dick, but she does give a crap about your mind. The brain stimulation has a direct correlation with stimulation of her other erotic parts. Don't worry as much about showing the dick off as you do showing off your ability to tickle their mind. Which is hilarious, cause she is a thirsty dick lover.
See above.
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Exhibitionism in particular. Still learning more all the time but thats probably the biggest.
Show my face. Isn't it hilarious that we will show our most private of body parts before we consider showing our face.
Depends on the moment and situation. I'm more comfortable doing lots of things here now but definitely more wary of people than I ever was. Which says way more about me than it does the other people.
Yes, it was with a woman named Shygirl. We chatted for several years both on and off Lit. Learned plenty from her about kinks, likes, dislikes, and stretching yourself. Plenty of serious talks and plenty of naughty talks were had.
Please don't blame me for not giving the people what they want anymore. Mizzler 2.0 was not my ideaIt was @Justadesperatewifeandmom thread of Chaos, Don't Stress, Undress that made me realize just how much of an exhibitionist I really am. That thread is supportive and witty and fun. She did a good job of cultivating playfulness and kindness amongst everyone there. It moved crazy fast for a while and made it tough to keep up with at times. But it showed me how much I like being seen.
Plenty of people along the way have definitely taught me different things. But the one that sticks out the most is probably @OrdinaryPerson She helped me realize that the art of the tease is a powerful thing. A woman doesn't generally give a crap about your dick, but she does give a crap about your mind. The brain stimulation has a direct correlation with stimulation of her other erotic parts. Don't worry as much about showing the dick off as you do showing off your ability to tickle their mind. Which is hilarious, cause she is a thirsty dick lover.
See above.
But also, we all have our own likes and dislikes. Goods and bads. Strengths and weaknesses. Baggage and drama that we carry. Don't yuck someone else's yum. You can probably learn a thing or two from them.
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Exhibitionism in particular. Still learning more all the time but thats probably the biggest.
Show my face. Isn't it hilarious that we will show our most private of body parts before we consider showing our face.
Depends on the moment and situation. I'm more comfortable doing lots of things here now but definitely more wary of people than I ever was. Which says way more about me than it does the other people.
Yes, it was with a woman named Shygirl. We chatted for several years both on and off Lit. Learned plenty from her about kinks, likes, dislikes, and stretching yourself. Plenty of serious talks and plenty of naughty talks were had.
I, for one appreciate mizzler 2.0Please don't blame me for not giving the people what they want anymore. Mizzler 2.0 was not my idea
