Sex & Shenanigans

Isn't this two sides of the same coin, though?
Because intent is interpreted by the recipient and the way they think of you.

I have to be so disciplined in my thinking to not prescribe meaning to behavior. It's so hard to extend the benefit of the doubt to people.
I don't think so. I don't care what they're perception of me is, I care what interpretation they concluded with and that I may be able to correct their internalized monologue. Think I'm an asshole? Well, that wasn't my intention, but I won't argue to convince you otherwise. Think I said something derogatory about you? No, you need to know you did nothing incense me. You may still think less of me, but I won't put effort into changing that.
I try to extend tons of benefit of the doubt because I want people to be more kind than they probably are.

Exactly. Because you know it is real.

Which is why I watch Buffy and not True Crime channel.
Buffy the movie, or Buffy the series?

Ok so I can’t be the only one who wonders … if there was absolutely no way you would get caught… that you wouldn’t kill someone.
100% yes. There are about 3 global leaders that come to mind. But ordinary people? No.
 
I don't think so. I don't care what they're perception of me is, I care what interpretation they concluded with and that I may be able to correct their internalized monologue. Think I'm an asshole? Well, that wasn't my intention, but I won't argue to convince you otherwise. Think I said something derogatory about you? No, you need to know you did nothing incense me. You may still think less of me, but I won't put effort into changing that.
I try to extend tons of benefit of the doubt because I want people to be more kind than they probably are.


Buffy the movie, or Buffy the series?


100% yes. There are about 3 global leaders that come to mind. But ordinary people? No.
I stopped worrying what others thought of me long ago. Their opinion of me is none of my business. I'm not a purposely mean or malicious person, and I assume everyone is the same. We're all doing our best, when I lean into that way of thinking my life is a lot happier and there are far fewer living rent free in my head.

That is not to say that if I unintentionally offend someone I'm not going to appologize.
 
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