Deepest Darkest Secret your spouse/partner doesn't know!!!

[LeaHaven]

Is anyone satisfied with their sex life? Wish you were over here (or me over there) to help with both our sex lives!

When you say "tired of doing all the work" does that refer to housework generally or just you having to instigate the sex and then get on top to ensure your satisfaction? Wouldn't happen with me ...

Getting on top does not ensure my satisfaction, but I am tired of having to direct things so that I at least get some penetration.

 

[Veronica_Flora]

My husband thinks he took my anal virginity during Christmas the 3rd year of our marriage.

I lost it a year and a few months before. I had an affair he doesn’t know about.

 

[SherlockianMan]

The amount of time I spend fantasizing about shooting loads all over lovely ladies

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Getting on top does not ensure my satisfaction, but I am tired of having to direct things so that I at least get some penetration.

Seems he needs to get help! If my wife was as keen as you, I wouldn't need to be on Lit or anywhere else.

Ever thought about looking elsewhere for satisfaction?

 

[LeaHaven]

Seems he needs to get help! If my wife was as keen as you, I wouldn't need to be on Lit or anywhere else.

Ever thought about looking elsewhere for satisfaction?

As crazy as it sounds, he wants me to look elsewhere. When I found Lit and other guys were on here saying they wanted their wife to have sex with another man, I learned that my husband was not alone. I read these forums for hours and hours trying to figure it all out.

 

[mitchell67]

As crazy as it sounds, he wants me to look elsewhere. When I found Lit and other guys were on here saying they wanted their wife to have sex with another man, I learned that my husband was not alone. I read these forums for hours and hours trying to figure it all out.

It's clue to our prepatriarchal past relationship dynamics

 

[Newbieincali]

Wow lucky you

 

[KeenVoyeur]

As crazy as it sounds, he wants me to look elsewhere. When I found Lit and other guys were on here saying they wanted their wife to have sex with another man, I learned that my husband was not alone. I read these forums for hours and hours trying to figure it all out.

He might want you to look elsewhere - and I'm sure you wouldn't be short of offers - but when you actually told him you had found someone, would he still feel the same way? Would he give you his blessing, want to watch or just throw you out onto the street (or worse)?

Some of us would be delighted to help if a woman asked them for a no-strings relationship because we're programmed to procreate and perhaps not maintain a monogamous relationship and if we could get away with it, we would!

 

[LeaHaven]

He might want you to look elsewhere - and I'm sure you wouldn't be short of offers - but when you actually told him you had found someone, would he still feel the same way? Would he give you his blessing, want to watch or just throw you out onto the street (or worse)?

Idk, but a lot of the guys at work flirt. I told my husband about it once over a year ago, and he said I should flirt back. I told him that was not going to happen, but as time has progressed and I get to know these guys better, sometimes I do flirt back. I used to feel bad about it, but I don't feel that way anymore.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Idk, but a lot of the guys at work flirt. I told my husband about it once over a year ago, and he said I should flirt back. I told him that was not going to happen, but as time has progressed and I get to know these guys better, sometimes I do flirt back. I used to feel bad about it, but I don't feel that way anymore.

Sometimes you wish you worked in a different place ... I do now

I'm sure one (or more) of the guys would be interested in taking things further if they knew you were looking for something "extra"

 

[LeaHaven]

Sometimes you wish you worked in a different place ... I do now

I'm sure one (or more) of the guys would be interested in taking things further if they knew you were looking for something "extra"

I don't know what I am looking for anymore. I just want a normal marriage.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I don't know what I am looking for anymore. I just want a normal marriage.

What you want is a long chat with your husband to find out what his feelings are - obviously if he's no longer interested in a relationship of any kind with you, then it's time to call it quits and look for someone new. If he is still interested and wants a "normal" relationship, you need to get to the root of the sex problem (maybe even counselling) and trust that he will make more than just an effort to keep you happy in the bedroom (and anywhere else the mood takes you). If he's happy enough with the status quo, you have a choice - cheat on him (or get his OK for you to have sex outside the marriage) or live the rest of your life getting enjoyment from your fingers and some toys ...

It would be a shame if you ended up like some of us on here - sexless marriage, no "hall pass" and just internet porn and our free hand ... I'm sure you don't deserve that!

 

[Iwant2havefun]

What you want is a long chat with your husband to find out what his feelings are - obviously if he's no longer interested in a relationship of any kind with you, then it's time to call it quits and look for someone new. If he is still interested and wants a "normal" relationship, you need to get to the root of the sex problem (maybe even counselling) and trust that he will make more than just an effort to keep you happy in the bedroom (and anywhere else the mood takes you). If he's happy enough with the status quo, you have a choice - cheat on him (or get his OK for you to have sex outside the marriage) or live the rest of your life getting enjoyment from your fingers and some toys ...

It would be a shame if you ended up like some of us on here - sexless marriage, no "hall pass" and just internet porn and our free hand ... I'm sure you don't deserve that!

I'm interested why YOU aren't calling "it quits and look for someone new", if you're in a sexless relationship with no hall pass? No judgement, just curious. I understand there are many reasons people stay in unsatisfying relationships (money, kids, religions, social stigma, etc.), but I equally see people leaving to start a new, and often times find the love of their life and a fulfilling relationship.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I'm interested why YOU aren't calling "it quits and look for someone new", if you're in a sexless relationship with no hall pass? No judgement, just curious. I understand there are many reasons people stay in unsatisfying relationships (money, kids, religions, social stigma, etc.), but I equally see people leaving to start a new, and often times find the love of their life and a fulfilling relationship.

Basically I'm a coward. Plus I would rather have something left of my bank balance and a roof over my head than being left to live in a sleeping bag under a motorway bridge

 

[Easyvirtue]

I had been sucking the dick of a close friend a month before and right up to the night before our wedding!

 

[Cuckhub32]

My husband thinks he took my anal virginity during Christmas the 3rd year of our marriage.

I lost it a year and a few months before. I had an affair he doesn’t know about.

Same here it's a long story but...

 

[steamboat610]

Same here

You lost it or your wife did?

 

[LeaHaven]

What you want is a long chat with your husband to find out what his feelings are - obviously if he's no longer interested in a relationship of any kind with you, then it's time to call it quits and look for someone new. If he is still interested and wants a "normal" relationship, you need to get to the root of the sex problem (maybe even counselling) and trust that he will make more than just an effort to keep you happy in the bedroom (and anywhere else the mood takes you). If he's happy enough with the status quo, you have a choice - cheat on him (or get his OK for you to have sex outside the marriage) or live the rest of your life getting enjoyment from your fingers and some toys ...

It would be a shame if you ended up like some of us on here - sexless marriage, no "hall pass" and just internet porn and our free hand ... I'm sure you don't deserve that!

Somehow I have given you the wrong impression. My husband wants sex all the time. He just doesn't want intercourse.

 

[joe_schmonyc]

What does he want?

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Somehow I have given you the wrong impression. My husband wants sex all the time. He just doesn't want intercourse.

Then I'd say it's over. A marriage without fucking at your age is unthinkable.

 

[Oldermom935]

meine Frau hatte viele lover die zu ihr kamen

Exactly !

 

[MeganFachs]

Idk, but a lot of the guys at work flirt. I told my husband about it once over a year ago, and he said I should flirt back. I told him that was not going to happen, but as time has progressed and I get to know these guys better, sometimes I do flirt back. I used to feel bad about it, but I don't feel that way anymore.

It is very liberating and exciting. My husband has basically begged me to cuckold him and I started late last year. Can’t see stopping

 

[Deleted member 4038640]

My wife was going through a phase where erotic books she was reading included bi mfm. At that time it seemed to tickle her fancy and one horny night she dared me to take naked photos with another guy. She was 100% sure I wouldn’t but I took her up on it and did it. It was a stranger at his house. He was fully bi and pictures taken and sent to her. She was shocked. She said it looked more than just photos and I said it was. After telling and being so shocked I couldn’t tell her it went further, it just sort of happened and went with it. Still doesn’t know…

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Somehow I have given you the wrong impression. My husband wants sex all the time. He just doesn't want intercourse.

Now I'm confused ... how does he want sex all the time but not intercourse? Does he think he's not "big" enough or that he won't last long enough for you to get satisfaction too?

You seriously need to sit down and talk about it - with a therapist if necessary.

 

[Deleted member 4038640]

My wife was going through a phase where erotic books she was reading included bi mfm. At that time it seemed to tickle her fancy and one horny night she dared me to take naked photos with another guy. She was 100% sure I wouldn’t but I took her up on it and did it. It was a stranger at his house. He was fully bi and pictures taken and sent to her. She was shocked. She said it looked more than just photos and I said it wasn’t. After telling and being so shocked I couldn’t tell her it went further, it just sort of happened and went with it. Still doesn’t know…