Ladies - What was it like to lose your virginity?

[THoney269]

It(PIV) was unpleasant & damaging; particularly since the guy wasn't my boyfriend(I barely tolerated being around him for extended periods of time), my practical knowledge of sex at 18 was that of a 13 year old, and his girlfriend was maybe 6 feet away the whole time ..
Losing my anal cherry,by comparison, was MUCH more enjoyable..I was in a committed relationship (newly married) with the man taking it, I was slippery as hell with massage oil so it didn't hurt alot, he froze in place when he realized  where he'd re-entered, and absolutely refused to move from the front leaning rest position the entire time I was deciding whether to continue or not(felt like hours, but was maybe 90 seconds).

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

We’d been fooling around for a while over at his mom’s house. (She was at work.) We didn’t intend to go all the way, but things got out of hand. Next thing I knew he was on top of me. He promised he’d pull out right away. He said he just wanted to feel what it felt like to stick it in. (He was a virgin too.)

There wasn’t any pain, just discomfort. He only lasted a few seconds. Like 1,2,3 and he came.

I started crying, convinced I was going to get pregnant and my life would be ruined.

I made him take me home, and he never called me again. This was about 1995.

 

[Islander55]

In my case I was a freshman in college and had been dating a guy for a few months. We had done a lot of heavy petting. I was the one that suggested we go all the way. There was some discomfort as he entered me but not much. I did not cum the first time but enjoyed the feeling. After he played with me and I had a good orgasm and then he did me again. We did use condoms so I did not worry about getting pregnant. It probably did not live up to the fantasy that I had created in my mind but it was something that I knew I wanted to do again.

 

[saintcero]

We’d been fooling around for a while over at his mom’s house. (She was at work.) We didn’t intend to go all the way, but things got out of hand. Next thing I knew he was on top of me. He promised he’d pull out right away. He said he just wanted to feel what it felt like to stick it in. (He was a virgin too.)

There wasn’t any pain, just discomfort. He only lasted a few seconds. Like 1,2,3 and he came.

I started crying, convinced I was going to get pregnant and my life would be ruined.

I made him take me home, and he never called me again. This was about 1995.

I wish your first had been better for you; a good memory instead of what you wrote. I hope it got better with more experience

 

[MeganMN33]

I was young, he was older and it hurt the first few times. He was quite gentle though which helped.

 

[Erodicus]

It was fun. A bit curious. It was with a friend and coworker who was the same age and also a virgin. We both worked at the same small restaurant, and most nights it was just the 2 of us by the end of the night. We spent a lot of time talking about anything and everything, including sexual curiosity. We made a plan, list of things we wanted to try, for science. We did it in the owners office, desk and chair. It wasn't romantic, again we weren't dating, had no prior sexual contact. But it was sweet and nice. We had one those talk about anything friendships, and we were going in to gain knowledge from the experience, so a lot of checking in and discussion along the way. We both accomplished our lists, shared our opinions, had a good time, got off a couple of times along the way. He was slightly larger than average and there was no discomfort, but again, list of foreplay items as well, and all very communicative. We were trying to learn what we enjoyed, and what the other gender enjoyed. for science.

I salute your dedication to scientific research. It was obviously a rewarding research experience for you and your FWB.

 

[davenjenn]

I had been doing everything but going all the way with a few guys for some time. Then on vacation, I met this much older guy and he seduced me and it was wonderful. All I could think about after was who would be the next.

 

[JulieAnn42]

My first time was senior year in college. We had been dry humping very regularly and had gotten to the point of dry humping naked. That evening as he was between my legs he got down to the opening and put the tip in. As much as I felt like it would feel good in me and wanted him to push in farther, I told him to pull back. He did for a while but the next time he moved down to the opening and put the tip in I did not say anything and then he pushed all the way in. It hurt a little and then started to feel good. Then he came in me. That felt good, but left me feeling a little left out. I was surprised by how much of his semen came out of me as he pulled out.

A couple of hours later we did it again and I climaxed. I could not believe how good my climax felt with him in me. Also, his climax after mine felt better then when he came in me without me climaxing.

 

[slavemelanie]

Nothing about it pleasant to be truthful. We were both virgins and really clueless, being awkward is a under statement. It was painful but thankfully over very quickly. Afterward I was freely out about the spotting in my panties when I got undressed. The notion that it's some tender, romantic experience sadly in most cases isn't the reality. Looking back it would have been nice if it was with a guy that had some experience and offered some reassurances.

All that said, I got right back on the horse a week later.

 

[Islander55]

My first time was senior year in college. We had been dry humping very regularly and had gotten to the point of dry humping naked. That evening as he was between my legs he got down to the opening and put the tip in. As much as I felt like it would feel good in me and wanted him to push in farther, I told him to pull back. He did for a while but the next time he moved down to the opening and put the tip in I did not say anything and then he pushed all the way in. It hurt a little and then started to feel good. Then he came in me. That felt good, but left me feeling a little left out. I was surprised by how much of his semen came out of me as he pulled out.

A couple of hours later we did it again and I climaxed. I could not believe how good my climax felt with him in me. Also, his climax after mine felt better then when he came in me without me climaxing.

I did not cum the first time I did it either and for me it was several months and a different partner before everything aligned for me to cum. To be fair the guy did get me off manually so I was not left frustrated. I knew I liked it and I knew I was still missing something. The first time I came while a guy was inside of me was mind blowing. Perhaps some pent up frustration but I knew I wanted more of that.

 

[luv2bfkd]

My first time was senior year in college. We had been dry humping very regularly and had gotten to the point of dry humping naked. That evening as he was between my legs he got down to the opening and put the tip in. As much as I felt like it would feel good in me and wanted him to push in farther, I told him to pull back. He did for a while but the next time he moved down to the opening and put the tip in I did not say anything and then he pushed all the way in. It hurt a little and then started to feel good. Then he came in me. That felt good, but left me feeling a little left out. I was surprised by how much of his semen came out of me as he pulled out.

A couple of hours later we did it again and I climaxed. I could not believe how good my climax felt with him in me. Also, his climax after mine felt better then when he came in me without me climaxing.

I did not cum the first time I did it either and for me it was several months and a different partner before everything aligned for me to cum. To be fair the guy did get me off manually so I was not left frustrated. I knew I liked it and I knew I was still missing something. The first time I came while a guy was inside of me was mind blowing. Perhaps some pent up frustration but I knew I wanted more of that.

Same here. I didn't cum that first time either, but once I did...Oh my, it was amazing. He can bring me to orgasm in other ways, but nothing compares to having him deep inside me as I cum all over his hard shaft.

 

[Islander55]

Same here. I didn't cum that first time either, but once I did...Oh my, it was amazing. He can bring me to orgasm in other ways, but nothing compares to having him deep inside me as I cum all over his hard shaft.

I agree completely. All of my most intense orgasms have been while a man was inside of me.

 

[OhBiscuitts]

Mine was pretty awkward. The guy I was with was inexperienced as was I. We had some issues with the condom and then following that had some issues figuring out some of the mechanics. After getting all that in order it was a pretty quickly occurring event in which he came and I did not. It did feel good and things got better following that.

 

[Erodicus]

For me, it was painful and made a bad memory. My husband was very selfish during sex. My expectations of sex were high and I fantasized about it as something heavenly, but he ruined it.

It's very sad, but you are not alone. So many women have told me that they just wanted to forget about their first time. It's pretty clear that the guys involved were ignorant, selfish or worse. Only a small minority thought it was a wonderful experience.

 

[kribensis33]

For me, it was painful and made a bad memory. My husband was very selfish during sex. My expectations of sex were high and I fantasized about it as something heavenly, but he ruined it.

how long ago was this? did it improve with time?

 

[Ely1987]

how long ago was this? did it improve with time?

About 5 years ago. No, we got divorced for other reasons.

 

[kribensis33]

About 5 years ago. No, we got divorced for other reasons.

DO you have anew partner now? Is the sex better?

 

[aya_amano]

I was in high school (I lived in Japan af that time) and was with a senior (senpai) who has some experience.
I invited him to my house and let him tell me what to do.
He did make wet and ready before he entered me but it still was uncomfortable.
I just lay there not sure what to do until he finished in me.
I was expecting a bit more of it I guess.

The next times were a bit better. I did more than just laying down there then.

 

[kribensis33]

Were they only a bit better. Is it good now?

 

[aya_amano]

Were they only a bit better. Is it good now?

We both moved to other lovers. So no idea how good he is at it now.
I've had some very good sex friends after.

 

[kribensis33]

I am glad to hear it. My first girlfriend really struggled. She was too tense and did not want it in her. We were together f or years but it was never very good.

 

[Ely1987]

DO you have anew partner now? Is the sex better?

I was with a woman for a short while, and it was good. She lives far away now, so we are separated. I'm not with anyone right now.

 

[kribensis33]

I was with a woman for a short while, and it was good. She lives far away now, so we are separated. I'm not with anyone right now.

have you ben with any men since your divorce?

 

[Ely1987]

have you ben with any men since your divorce?

No. I was in a prison for a while, and I was sexually assaulted along with other women by male guards there, but nothing consensual.

 

[MissPennyLane]

Losing my *actual* virginity, I was very fortunate that my first experience was really lovely.

It didn't hurt, it just felt like the absolute most intense thing I've ever felt. I mostly remember how in love I was and how happy I was - which I appreciate is extremely fortunate

I do remember we were so so excited that we had finally actually done *it* that we went again like an hour later and that was incredibly enjoyable too