PlanetaryNebula
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SherlockianMan
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Question/request for my fellow shenaniganners:
What's your go-to method to get yourself out of a funk? I've been dealing with my MDD as of late and am having a hard time shaking off the malaise and lack of motivation. Thought I'd see if you lovely lot have any suggestions.
What's your go-to method to get yourself out of a funk? I've been dealing with my MDD as of late and am having a hard time shaking off the malaise and lack of motivation. Thought I'd see if you lovely lot have any suggestions.
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Photog1rl
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I may be the wrong person to ask but I try to embrace it and cry my way theough it. I listen to sad music, cry and find poetry that speaks to me.
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PlanetaryNebula
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Woof this is tough. Because I struggle with the malaise and lack of motivation myself. If I’m on my way to work I listen to songs that make me happy. But in general it’s baby steps. Do one small thing. One. Praise yourself, do this a few days then do 2 small things and praise yourself. Build it up slowly and eventually you will be accomplishing more than you were before. It doesn’t matter what other people are achieving. Your battle is your own and you have to fight it with tactics that work for you
LexxRuthless
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If I find a go-to method that works consistently, I promise I'll let you know. The wonderful people here can certainly help me shake myself out of most of those lows.
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It is a struggle these days. I have the same problem with the funk. It feels like it's always waiting to drag me down and often succeeds.
The best way I've found for shaking of the funk is Funk or Rock or Disco. Fight the funk with The Funk! Blast whatever jams make you move and groove and shake off the funk by shaking your booty.
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I've never been diagnosed with MDD, and it's been years since I was really at a point where I think I'd probably be in the realm of qualifying for diagnosis. That being said, I've discussed my marital issues here and there, and that's the biggest thing in my life that tends to get me into a funk. Occasionally work stuff can, but it's usually stuff at home.
What helps me personally is to dive into my hobbies. Not to the point of shutting out my wife/kids, as that would be counter productive and just not cool, but just really letting myself dive in and enjoy it for some me time. It lets me focus on something else, and specifically on something that makes me happy. It's not a perfect solution by any means, but it helps.
Oh, and well timed newds from the ladies of Lit. Those always help.
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Bry1313
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First thing when you have the sads is you need someone else who you know who gets the sads, and just telling them works in the beginning. Also, just let yourself feel it, don’t fight it or ignore, the sads are coming from somewhere, let the feeling out.
Once you’ve allowed the feeling it’s space, figuring out something that gives joy and pursue it, whether it’s a walk outside, cooking, a show or a book, do it.
Also, don’t read the news, most sources are designed to either increase anxiety or make you angry, it’s not healthy.
Just always know, this too shall pass and let time do it’s thing.
Once you’ve allowed the feeling it’s space, figuring out something that gives joy and pursue it, whether it’s a walk outside, cooking, a show or a book, do it.
Also, don’t read the news, most sources are designed to either increase anxiety or make you angry, it’s not healthy.
Just always know, this too shall pass and let time do it’s thing.
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I routinely go through days (sometimes multiples) where I shut down. Sometimes I'll sleep for 20 hours a day 2 or 3 days in a row. I might eat, might not. Just getting up to let the dog out, then back to sleep... Sometimes my mind is empty and can't even keep a thought going, other times the thoughts are full and rushing by that I can't seem to do anything but sleep for peace.
As for getting out of it? I go to work, whether I feel like it or not. That keeps my mind busy... If at home I try to do something similar to Nebs' advice. I'll go fill my truck with gas. Then tell myself "yep, that needed done and you did it. Good job" then maybe I'll go for a drive 10-15 minutes down a little gravel road. See some deer and cows. Self: "cool. that was fun, we should do it again sometime. But I'm tired now, let's go home and rest"
It can be a slow and difficult process. But I do eventually get out of the rut.
LupineOne
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Yup. All of this.
LexxRuthless
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Hopefully our outpouring of well-wishes, support and advice helps you know that you matter, and that you have friends here. That said, depression is a serious illness. I do hope you are getting professional help. We all want the best for you, but I'm certainly not a board-certified psychologist or psychiatrist. I'm a friend who won't judge you, and I'm here to listen if you want to talk, to get those thoughts out of your head. I'm sure I'm not the only one.
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When my depression is really bad (it's always there to some degree) all I can do is be gentle with myself.
Any negative thinking is not how I actually feel and I need to repeat that to myself, sometimes out loud.
On the days where I physically can't get off the sofa I force myself to do three household things because I know they'll pile up if I don't and then make everything worse. Three tasks then something nice as a reward for pushing through.
For just generally crap meh days I highly recommend getting some fresh air. Getting away from the familiar and into nature. Disconnecting from phones, internet, tv, as much as you can. It might not fix the feeling but it will hopefully relax you and make things feel less "meh"
I hope this doesn't last too much longer. It will get better.
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Unplugging. Taking a nice, long shower. Talking to friends. Getting lost in a book. Taking a nap.
I hope you find some peace, darling
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Different perspective. I find that if I take up a project, build something or fix something, it helps. Also, being there for someone else who is having a rough go feels really good. When the depression demon gets you, it is so hard to take that first step, but once you do, you can climb out of that pit. You got this @SherlockianMan. It seems you have a pretty great support system.
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I’m sorry you’re feeling in a funk, and I hope it passes soon.
For me it’s music, I always find that helps to lift my mood. And sometimes like @Photog1rl I’ll listen to sad music because it’s ok to be sad and sit with uncomfortable feelings at times. But on the flip side once you’ve acknowledged those feelings it’s doing something that then lifts you out of that state. Talking it over with someone you trust is a really good way of rationalising. Distraction is also a beautiful thing.
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